My husband and I have been married for 9-1/2 yrs and have 2 children, 7 and 3. My husband has been having an 'emotional' affair with the same cougar on and off for 3 yrs. I have given him 3 opportunities to be a faithful husband and each time he has chosen the same path, the unfaithful. The last time I took him back, I sat him down and bluntly explained to him that I would  not, under any circumstance, forgive this hurtful behavior again. He graciously agreed to be true to me and even cried when I put my wedding ring back on. Well, 3 months later, he was back in touch with this woman on a daily basis again, lying to me, denying their interaction.....I am so devistated that he has so selfishly destroyed our family. He is begging for another chance but I cannot begin to give him a fourth opportunity to break my heart but do feel that my emotional business is unfinished? Is this what you are referring to, Dr. Phil, that I should not be ready to call it quits? Very confused!!