Alex, I have two adult daughters who are alittle older than you and your sister.  I could relate to some of what you and your mother discussed on yesterday's show.  First of all, mother and daughter relationships can be difficult regardless of family history.  At your age(and older), I fought for independence, and did not feel approval from my parents.  My relationship with my mother improved once I was in my 40's(long time to wait, huh?).  I definitely get the fact that you don't want your parents stopping by unannounced or calling you to see if you're awake, etc.  However, I do understand that your parents are deeply concerned about their grandchildren's well-being.  Your parents became parents when they were older.  Even though you talk about their "bad parenting", it sounds like they were financially set and raising children was their top priority.  Being in your teens(now 21) as parent of two is definitely challenging.  Your expression on your face at the end of the show spoke volumes.  I think that you know that you need to work on YOU, without a live-in boyfriend.  If Dr. Phil can help you establish a plan so you can work, go to school and eventually have a job that can financially support you and your two children, I hope that you'll take advantage of that opportunity.  Regardless of how supportive Tony is, he needs to live elsewhere in order for you to do this on your own (and to have Nathan live with you).  If Tony is going to be in your future, he'll have to work on improving his life, too.   You looked frightened when Dr. Phil was talking to you.  I thought that you reached the realization that Tony could not live with you, if you were going to be able to keep your children.  I hope that you can find the strength to live on your own and make your children your top priority.  With Dr. Phil's support(emotionally and financially), you have a wonderful opportunity to mature and grow as a person.  Hang in there, Alex! 

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