I am a 30 mother of 5. I was very young when I gave birth to my first two children nad at the time I became homeless and lost them to the state. 2 years ago I remarried my ex of my second daughter and stopped drinking and smoking. I have been doing well with not running to get a beer. It's really hard though because I chose to marry men who were worthless. I finally chose to marry the one I should have married to begin with. My first husband was very abusive to me and I had my first and third child with him. My second husband which I had my fourth and fifth child from was an abusive jerk that wouldn't work just sat around playing video games and abusing me and my children until I left and now he disappeared which I thank the lord everyday for. I married my current husband and pissed my ex husband off. His dad has custody of our daughter and he uses it to control me. My ex for years has stalked me and moved down the street from me and tryed control everything I do using my 2 children over my head to get his way. Now  last year around christmas my ex and his dad had this big discussion with my daughter and after that my relationship with my daughter feel apart. She started calling me names yelling at me and telling me she didn't want to see me anymore. I  had a great relationship with her always she is my baby and I miss her so much. My duaghter used to cry when she would come to visit me because she wanted to be with me. I would ask them to see her more and they would always either yell at me for asking or tell me that she doesn't need to spend that much time with me. Her dad always would back what his dad would do even if our daughter was put in harms way. I have to the state about the mwental abuse she has endured from them and they don't do anything about it. my daughter has not talk to me in about three months. I have heard that she is being with girls and watching porn smoking pot. No one cares about it. I found her on my space and she is saying that she is 17 when she is only 14. I tell my ex's parent what's going on and all they are prepared to focus on is why it's my fault that she is that way. I tell them who cares who's fault it is just help her, let me help her. Nope they don't want me around. They have tryed for years to run me off and it didn't work I slapped them with my courts papers and that really pissed them off. Now they have brain washed my daughter to the point she won't visit me at all. What do I do? I know she is heading down a road I have gone down many times and I am scared for her. If I have hurt her in any way I am sorry I want her in my life. I miss her so very much please help?

Does anyone else have children who attend? Lost faith in the school system, this is a wonderful alternative. Do any of the teachers or parents for that matter, know they have a choice!  I enrolled my child after realizing that the conventional eduacation that we are all used to, was not allowing me to be involved in what my child is being taught and who was teaching my child in the most important and impressionable years of their lives. After seeing my child come home from middle school with no homework and telling me they raised a question or concern in class and were told to sit and be quiet because they weren't listening close enough, so to bad so sad. Then the last straw was when the superintendent was "retiring" and his computer confiscated because there might have been child porn downloaded on it and the gym teacher was allegedly fired for photographing boys in the locker room, I knew there had to be a choice to allow my child to be more then a paycheck to a system that doesn't count for much. My child is thriving and is in touch with all the faculty and teachers on a daily bases as am I. Not one question goes unanswered by e-mail or phone and the same day. The charter cyber school has taught my child "we" are in charge of his eduacation and the school provides everything to my child right down to the internet service. They socialize and have virtual class rooms, all equipment is provided by the school and my tax dollars are staying in my house and used by my child to do what I see fit. It works, and just like fading out other jobs with technology so can these teachers jobs be changed by our times. Also my child has become proficient in the computer which is needed in todays job market. Wouldn't you like to learn a foriegn language with a teacher from the country you are learning thru a virtual classroom in that country. Search Cyber Charter Schools.   WE HAVE A CHOICE!

I have a 18 year old daughter that just come back home from first year in college, I came to find out her GPA is 1.15 and she got kicked out because her grades, I paid about 20G for her school, also I found out that she got in trouble forshoplifting in a store at the local mall.  I don't have no more money to help her anymore, she is now working a few hours a week in a local restaurant.  She got in an argument with a "friend" and  her car, that I gave to her,  got the tires slashed.  I'm getting tired of her behavior, she comes home to change clothe and shower, sometimes i don't see her for days, when I tell her that she need to slow down and spend more time at home she says "being in the house is boring, the house is just like a locker room to shower and change and is a place to keep stuff", since she doesn't have a car now she keeps asking for rides to clubs and to friend's houses, I refuse to do that, I only give her rides to and from work.  She parties all night long, I have told her she's getting into a wrong path and the amount of partying she's doing is going to get her in more trouble.  
My job requires traveling and staying long period of time away from home, since the university my daughter was attending was close to home I came to find out from the neighborers that there was wild parties almost every weekend in the house, of course she deny it, I now had to spend $2500 on a security system and cameras in the house.  I don't know what to do with her or what to tell her, please help.

I am desperate in OHIO. I have a 27, 25, and 14 year old. Have been divorced since Jan. 2003. was married for 23+ years to my high school sweet heart. Well he will not be civil now. And my kids will not talk to me, or evenconsider that I exist. I miss them so very much, the pain in my heart and my head is too much too take. I have been in couseling for so many years, and on so many different medications, its past depression. I lived for my kids, but now.........it hurts to much to go on. I want to talk to them, see them...one more time.......Karen

I resently became a mom of 3. 2 step kids and one of my own. I find myself alone at times. I feel like its them agaisnt me. I know that im suppose to love and care for them as if they are my own but I just dont feel that bond. My husband and I have different disaplinary skills. Basically hes the good guy and im the evil step mom. "They" meaning my husband and kids keep secrets from me then I find out when things really hit the fan. I feel like im only wanted when kids need to be taken to doctors or register for school. things like that. but when they want to visit friends house they dont even look my way to ask me. At times I feel like I want to take my baby and start a new life. But is that what I want ?? I just want these kids to go back to there mother so I can have my family back. Im confused. Should I stay for my baby ? or should I go ? Where would I go ? how would I start over without eployment? can I afford it ? these are all the things I ask myself before I might make a mistake. so if I get advice from some people whose been in my shoe then maybe that can help me come to a conclusion.

back in 2000 I made a dumb decision. I moved away from my 2 boys. They were very young. I regret what i did with every fiber of my being. I don't remember parts of what happened. I was going through a divorce which is what i wanted but I can't explain why I just up and left. I left the kids and the home, everything to my then husband. I spoke ot them on the phone, saw them on summer vacations and Christmas time ( with a lot of crying when they had to leave) Now, a few years later, I have custody of them again. They love me, we all get along great as a family but to this day  I think about the time when I left them. i see pics of them when they were young and I cry and I feel so sad that i lost so much time with them. It is really gut wrenching. The boys forgive me, they are very happy they are with me now but this guilt is eating me up. Does anyone have any advice for me? Although we have moved on....I still have not moved on mentally from this.

I am a mother of 3 teenage girls. Their ages are 14,16,and 18. As a parent I have been a failure. I've kept them safe,fed them, but never really connected with them. A lot of things have happened through our lives but, I always wondered did I do that right... did I say the right thing... have I messed them up for life?How do you really know when you are doing it right? I'm not looking for sympathy or aknowledgement that i've done something right and quit being so hard on yourself...I want some constructive criticism. In the past 2yrs... we've lost everything to a house fire, had my now 16yr in and out of trouble with the law,caught her with drugs, had my 18yr move out to live with her dad, gone through 2 surgeries, totaled 2 cars, and had to face a pregnancy decision with one of them. In my mind i'm standing on a ledge and I use to think...no your kids need you, don't do it but, now i'm thinking...what if im just messing them up...

My teenage daughter has anger issues and gets very angry when it comes to any discipline.  Any time she is punished she gets very angry and cusses in your face.  I have taken her into counseling but she does not want to go, and the counseling service said I should not make her come if she does not want to.  I am open for some suggestions and desperate.

 If there are any Aussies out there, please come in.  I hope we can all be friends and keep in touch.  Who knows.  We might even learn something new.

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