I have tried praying for things too but it seems that our luck just gets worse. Our luck has gotton so bad that we are in jeopardy of loosing what little we do have and then we will be out on the street with no where to go.

We watched the lazy husbands show and the husband rightfully so was told that his job is to do what he can to contribute to his family. If this means working in a restaurant until you find a job in your field, it's better than $ 0 .....
When Wendy was explaining herself on how woman can be better negotiators she made reference to a  six dollar an hour clerk and is just thinking about going home......
My question to her is what does the hourly salary have to do with it... Why couldn't it just be the store clerk wanting to go home shortly. This clerk could be just a person (IE. The Lazy Husband Show) that has fallen onto hard times trying to pick themselves up emotionally, economically and is trying to contribute to his family......
I think that .... comments of how much a person makes per hour does not need to be included in their job title. Especially when many of us are retraining in different fields working two and three jobs in the interim to make ends meet. Wendy came across as being very insensitive.

Thank you Dr. Phil for all you do....

Regards, Ray

Hello Dr Phil,
The women totally frustrated me on your show. I work for a very large company that is all over the globe and I hold a postion that is called "Sourcing Specialist",,,all it is ...is another name for negotiator,  and tell you what...I almost always get the deal that I want....i never leave money on the table per say...Women need to realize they need to do it too...I performed these functions in a purchasing role and I simply loved the challenge...It felt good to always save money and it also exposed just how much that we were potentially being taken advantage of....COME ON WOMEN...WE TOO CAN DO IT..I DO and SO CAN YOU !!!!

Every time I go in to buy a car I go in with the attitude that they are going to sc$#w me over.  I'm leery of every question they ask me!  One of those questions was asked on the show by the car salesman - "Are you going to be putting any money down?".  He asked the female but not the male.  Why do they need to know that or how you are going to be paying for the car BEFORE YOU EVEN NEGOTIATE A PRICE!?  Do they really need to know these things up front or is this a way for them to try to make you think they are giving you a good deal?  I've always heard not to negotiate around the monthly payment you want so I would think that you don't need to tell them how you will be paying for the car until you have a firm price.  For all they know, I might have $50,000 cash in my pocket but they don't need to know that!  Am I wrong?  How much should you tell them?

Even though it was difficult you did the right thing  donating what you could of your son. I too lost a grown son who died suddenly at age 37 years. Unfortunately his organs didn't get donated even though that was what he would have wanted. Instead the coroner had  an autopsy done because they couldn't believe this healthy man could have died.

He had  schizorphrenia but physically they never did find any reason for him dying. Instead of using his organs they draged  him from where we live to another town and then to the city . He had three autopsies before they were done . I had no say. Here autopsies are done automatically when anyone dies unexpectedly at home.Then they called me and said they couldn't find any reason for him dying.

I was devasted  by all of this. I had him cremated and buried him so no one could touch him ever again. All the time I think how much good his organs could have done had things been done right. But it is what it is and can't be changed. I just hope this doesn't happen to anyone else. You did a good thing helping others.

God bless all donors and their families for sharing all they can to help those in desperate need.

Although I can understand the husbands feeling about his wife not donating her organs, does he really understand how in her death she could possibly save another, not to mention the life enhancing gifts that many could receive upon her death.  My son died suddenly at the age of 26 on December 20th 2007.  He needed a liver transplant but was just too sick to hang on.  His father and I didn't hesitate to offer what we could to help others.  The only organ that could be saved was his heart, which was transplanted into a 36 yr. old father of 5.  Knowing he had helped save a father and at least one family was going to have a Christmas miracle helped get us through Christmas and his burial.  We also chose to donate life enhancing gifts which was a little tougher, skin, bone, cornea's, inner ears, all of which we know have helped many others.  Losing a child, especially suddenly is a nightmare, but knowing in his death he has helped others is such a blessing.  He looked beautiful in the casket, unless you touched him no one would have never known. everyo I plead to everyone become an organ donor, save a life!  Once we die our soul leaves the body and is no longer needed.

I loved the show today and you are very right. Everything can be negotiated. However in our marriage I am the negotiator and my husband doesn't know how to negotiate especially buying anything. I on the other hand consider it a game. We never have had much money so getting things cheap is always my goal.

The biggest negotiation I ever made was for our farm. I prayed about it and then walked into the bank with no job, no money for a down payment and negotiated with a loan's officer. In the end she granted a loan for $13,000. dollars based on our good name only. Then I went and negotiated another private loan for $12,000. which gave us the $25,000. we needed to buy the farm! We worked hard and ten years later we paid off the bank. Ten years after that the second loan was forgiven. Anything is possible.

The hardest negotiations are with my husband because he is so stubborn! I wanted a dozen kids and he didn't . He won.

Our house was built in1829 and didn't have kitchen cupboards. He agreed to to build some for me but we couldn't agree where they should be? He wanted the kitchen in one room and I wanted it where the kitchen wood stove is in another room.. We couldn't agree but after waiting  twenty years  I finally got a kitchen where I wanted it !  Sometimes you have to wait for what you want. 

I would have had dozens of cats and dogs but we negotiated and agreed years ago there would never be more than three cats and two dogs here at any one time.That is what is here now.

  We have goats on the farm raised for meat and milk but I wanted one for a pet. That happened and she has gauranteed life insurance and will never end up in the deep freeze!  She is now six years old. I am negotiating now for a second pet goat but  my husband doesn't know it yet. Right now she is bred and will have kids in the Spring.   So her life is safe for at least a year. No since bringing up a negotiation before it is necessary but I will win this negotiation and she will be a pet too! It will just take a little time. Have a nice day Dr.Phil

My healthy, young uncle recenly passed away way too soon from a massive heart attack.  Thankfully, he and my aunt had discussed his wishes to be an organ donor prior to her devestating loss.  He asked that everything that was useful in his body be harvested and donated when he died, and that is exactly what happened.  His wishes also included an open casket viewing, and he looked as handsome as ever, in his suit and Marine Corps tie, as if he had just fallen asleep.  Hundreds of friends and family came to stand in an ever present line and pay respects during the 4 hour viewing.  Not only were those closest to him deepely moved to see all the people who my uncle touched during his life, but our family was told that 52 total strangers were helped through the donation of everything from his skin, bones, joints, liver, kidneys, sparkling blue eyes and much more.  It was amazing to us that even in death, he continued to do what he had done during his life - give of himself and change people's lives.  What a beautiful thing!  Organ donation saves lives!

I got new tires on my car for the winter and my oil changed, the usual winter stuff.  I told them that I figured since I was a long time customer, and I bring both my cars regularly, and that I just forked out over $400 maybe they'd do something for me.  They siped my tires for free.  People are willing if you are confident.  Most always, if they mis scan an item, you'll get it for free.  Some stores will let you multiple coupon if you ask.  I get shoes for free at a particular store all the time because of this.  And these are typically $60 shoes.  All they can do is say no.