Erin, what kind of drug test did they do on Alex, that Dr Phil said she "passed"? Was it a urine test? To your knowledge, how accurate is such a test? How far back does the test go? And, did you wonder, as my husband and I did, if Alex substituted someone else's urine for hers?

I think Tony is Alex's priority du jour.

Hi there, I really enjoyed reading your blog.  Written with such grace.  I was feeling your vibe on most parts.  I wanted to add that in some cases~~~>around the ages of 11 or so, some children are beginning to try and find their own idenity, attempt to mature, learn of more mature things.  Many parents witness this.  As parents, it is a parents duty to make rules and regulations for their child well being, whether the child likes it or not righhh.  Some parents have stubborn, rebelious, unruley children with hard heads and no matter if they communicate with their child nicely, respectfully or yell, that child does not care.  All the child cares about is having their way at all times no matter the exspense to others..Selfish & self seeking..After a parent has been disrespected time and time again after trying to be supportive, The parent gets frustrated and upset.  No good parent wants to sit around and WATCH their child distroy their life; so they fight to stop their child.  It doesn't matter to them their child age.. 15 or 55 years of age, it's still their child.  Some one they gave birth to and will always love and want to protect..No good grandparent is going to want to WATCH their grandchild go through the emotional changes if they don't have to.  Alex blames everyone else but herself and she has destructive behavor issues.  Should she have the children back?  Will she protect her child if she gets her child back?  Thank you for your blog.  I enjoyed ;-)

Thank you for the reply ;-)

I HAVE TO CONGRATULATE YOU FOR YOUR STAMINA FOR STICKING BY THAT UNGRATEFUL,SPOILED, SELFISH '"KID".
HER ATTITUDE IS SO ARROGANT AND SNIPPY. I CAN'T BELIEVE SUCH A PERSON CANNOT SEE HOW YOU HAVE SACRAFICED FOR HER WELL-BEING AND YOUR GRANDCHILDREN
GOD BLESS YOU. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORKS AND WITH THANKSGIVING COMING UP I DO PRAY YOU CAN FIND MUCH BLESSINGS WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AND ARE DOING.
hilly8 

so true

I have a mother just like Alex's mother! I'm so sorry!! Do what you can to get your kids!! My mother is just as poisonous as Alex's. My life hasn't been better since i cut my mother out of my life.. She thinks she can disrespect and backstab me then flash me a smile like what she did wasn't wrong. I feel for you Alex. I really am sorry you have such a poisonous mother! I'm praying for you!!

I want to know why Dr. Phil allows the parents to be so mean and disrespectful to Alex; it's no wonder she got pregnant at 15 and is struggling in life!  Marty has called Alex a slut and Erin says the only reason the state hasn't taken the children away from her is because the state has low standards!  When Alex wants to bring up the "real" issues, Erin doesn't want to talk about it and tells Alex not to change the subject.  WHEN is Dr. Phil going to get to the bottom of this turmoil between Alex and (mainly) her mom so some repairs and healing can begin?  Quit letting Erin dodge the hard questions so we can figure out where this all went wrong, and it obviously went wrong years before Alex got pregnant.  I believe Alex when she says her mother rubbed her nose in the floor because she didn't clean it good enough.  WHY does Dr. Phil not stop and confront Erin about it when Alex brings it up?  Dr. Phil - start helping this family!

I have spent some time thinking about this too.  Just another point that I don't think anyone else has made.  How in the world was Alex ALLOWED to sign a legal document at 15.  I don't know of any court that finds these documents legal and binding.  Erin and Marty let Alex down.  If she was my daughter, I never would have allowed her to sign.  She was not emotionally mature enough or knowledgable to make that kind of decision at 15!  If she has an attorney worth anything, they would be fighting the signing of a legal document by a 15 year old!!!

I have posted a couple messages ab out my thoughts on the Dr Phil Family. They were not posted. If they were offensive I deeply apoglize.

In my last post I was trying to say theere were no good guys or buad guys in the Dr Phil Family. All of the p[ep[;e involed have problems. They made poor decisions and they are facing  serious conseuqnces because of those decisions. I think the children and the mother have done enough blaming each other. They need to focus on the current probme- Alex is about to lose custody of her children.  In any event they do no need to hear posts from us about who is to blame for the current mess they are in.

I was trying to be critical of the entire family. I apolgize about that. In my first post that got through I said I wasn't impressed with  the mom in the show. I saw a  lot of yelling at the daughter. I thought  and still think she might get better results if tshe learned how to commucate better  with her children.  But I did not mean to emply  Erin was a bad mother.

Erin is not perfect. and I think she has her problems. But you have to give her a lot of credit. Where would Alex be pregant and 15 if it hadn't been for mom and dad stepping up to the plate? She might have  handled the situation better but we were not  there. We should no judge. Mom was the only person to provide consistant care for the two children from the beginning. 

The daughter Alex, left he rchildren for a no lgood looser. In addition she seems to blame her mother for the decisiosn she made in her life. I am not denying Alex might have had a point. I think I remember Dr Phil  was saying that for Alexx to get on with her life the relationship between mom and daughter needs to improve.  But  in my humble and uneducated opinion I also think Alex is clearly not a fit mother.

We need to think what is in the best itnerest of the children becauwse they have no voice in the sitation. Became Erin was the mom from the beginning I  said I thought she should get custody in any upcoming court battle. Mom had her faults but she steped up to the plate.  I also said Mom was fitghting for bothy her daugheers and her grandchildren. She wants to see their children get on the right track in life. She wants to be able to  see her grandchildren brought up in a consistantly safe, loveing home.

This is why Erin is fighting for. I think she has been through unimaginable stress. This is why shie might appear to be angry "cold" . She needs some hlep. But I doon't think she is getting a whole lot of help from her children.

Everyone involed needs to stop blaming each other. They need to step back take a brteat or two. They need to get rid of the bad hateful emotions and let some love in to htheir hearts. The girls need to learn how to respect themselves so they will not end up with losere men. Avbove all they need to  learn to respect their mother. who seems to be the only person that really gives two cents for them.

Well that is my opinion on this sitation. I think it is a sad sad story. but so typiecal of so many famlies these days./

I will try again...