Dr. Phil professes to be a Christian but encourages Nick & Jane to hate the person who has committed these heinous crimes against them, thus placing them both in bondage to their hatred & ignoring the command of Christ to forgive our enemies.

Dr. Phil thus has said it is "OK" to carry unforgiveness in your heart toward another person. The fact is that unforgiveness places us in bondage & causes ill health physically, mentally & spiritually. Forgiveness brings healing, restoration & release from this bondage. When you hate you cannot forget; when you forgive you can forget. It's not a simple pricess but if you believe in Jesus as Dr. Phil professes to then you can get God's help & deliverance from the curse of unforgiveness.

We cannot be truly happy unless we learn to forgive. Nick & Jane will never be truly happy unless they forgive those they have been told to "hate."

I got an advised for Nick..What your father has done is so unforgivable but What that got to do with you ? This is his crime and not yours. Even though you are the son of your Father who did the horrible crime . You must learn to sow the good seeds in your mind that you are not him and he is not you . You are related/connected  to your Father , you are his seed but your mother is the fruit . Your father is part of you but  still he is not you . Believe me when you fulfill sowing good seeds in ur thoughts , it will reap and start  harvesting positively in your mind ,body and soul.
Also, I think ppl should think wisely and positively that Nick didnt commit the crime and he shouldnt be entangled or blame for his Father's crime . I think ppl shouldnt even judge him or add more burden to Nick's life.My strong belief that  Nick just need to understand that his father commit this crime and it is wrong .  I felt nature put to stop and chosen Nick to realised this truth so he be able to stand up and face his world with reality .  I am so proud to see that someone like Nick  so brave to came forward and be true to himself and expressed how he felt about what has happen and also he is so brave to challenge him self seeking the "Truth". I believed his Father's crime will not repeated to Nick in the future because he has confronted his father's darkness and Nick has came out from the dark and walk into the light now.. May God Protect your Path Nick..........Luke8:17.... John 8:32

Cahaya777

To Nick and Melissa:
For some reason, the universe required the DNA from your "sinful" father and your mother to create you for this time and place in the history of the world. Please celebrate that you have life.

For all of you:
There's a story in the Old Testament in the Bible of a talking donkey:  Numbers 22 - 24. The donkey talks in chapter 22. However, that is not the real message in this story. The message is this:  " the Lord your God turned the curse into a blessing unto you, because the Lord your God loves you." (Deuteronomy 23: 4 - 5) This verse is repeated in part in Nehemiah 13: 1-2. My prayer this week for all of you has been based on that scripture. You could not choose your DNA or control everything that happened to you. However, if you let Him, God can turn that curse into a blessing for you,

Dearest Nick, I just wanted you to know that I knew your father very, very well in Charlottesville in the mid-1970's.  I even have some information about him and his past that the investigators didn't seem interested in, but you might be. 
I know Michael had his demons.  But I also want YOU to know that  he was one of the nicest, sweetest men I have ever been privileged to know, and I hope you are proud to be his son because of all of his good qualities.
Michael suffered terribly after his ordeal in Vietnam (and perhaps before that too, according to some of his Army buddies), but I believe that many of the accusations that have been spread around about him simply are not true.
It almost sickens me to see the "face of evil" portrait they paint of him.  Your dad was NOT the face of evil, not by any stretch of the imagination.
I still have something that belonged to Michael (from before you were born), and I would be happy to give it to you if you're interested.  It may help you recall happier days.  I live in Florida and would be glad to travel to see you and talk to you and give you this item (if you want it).  I would also like to share with you some of Michael's history before he met Michelle that no one else seems to care (except me, and perhaps you).
I have never written to Dr. Phil before, but I hope you get this letter.  I'm leaving my e-mail address so you can contact me if you wish.  I can't help you out monetarily, but I would be willing to travel and spend some time with you talking about happier times.  It would be an honor to meet the son of the man I admired in so many ways.  My name is Jackie, my e-mail address is Sing4Parts@aol.com.
Like I said, I hope you get this, and I hope I hear from you.  I'm sorry you have had to suffer the way you have for things that were not in any way your fault (and not really Michael's fault either).  Thanks for listening to me ramble.  - Jackie

I can't imagine what Nick is going through, but I just recently found out that my father had molested both my sisters and that my grandfather molested his daughter. I broke that trend cause as Dr. Phil points out, I may be my father's son, but I sure as hell am nothing like him. I would rather cut off my own limbs rather than touch a child. Sadly, I became short tempered and abusive and don't know where that came from at all cause I never saw my dad lose his temper and hit my mom. My father was murdered when I was 9 years old and I held so much hatred, then found out about the molestation and then felt like a weight lifted because I felt the murder was what he deserved for his terrible things he had done. We all have our pasts that we would rather forget, but you can't hide from the truth, face it, deal with it and move on.

Reason I'm calling Dr. Phil out, is because he never really dealt with the step-aunts letter. Nick didn't do anything wrong, but the way she wrote the letter basically sounded to me like she didn't blame him and loved Nick still, but wanted nothing to do with him because she can't forgive Nick's father. That is fine, but Nick isn't the one to blame so she shouldn't be blocking him just because his father did something unforgivable. That would be like me disowning my sisters because my father did what he did to them. Nick didn't do it, the step-aunt should accept Nick with open arms, hell they may need each other to find the strength to heal from this. I can't believe Dr. Phil didn't comment on the fact that the letter basically siad, I don't blame you but I don't want to see you because I can't forgive your father for what he did. Well alright then I will do the same, I don't blame my sisters for being molested, but I don't want to talk to them because I can't forgive my dead father for molesting them.

Nick,
     This is my first time ever responding to a Dr. Phil show. I felt so compelled after seeing your story. I felt so sad for you. I just wanted to say that know that God is always with you, know matter what, and that he does love you. For example Psalm 23 among others. I can't say I can relate to what you're going through, but trying to imagine it is just unfathomable. When I was little before my parents divorced I'd be filled with such fear. I remember being in the backyard with one of my friends, my brother and my parents. My mom was starting a bbq, and my father was trying to trim some of the branches on a tree that hung over on to the neighbor's yard, and they started fighting about something, and the next thing I know my father tells my mom that he's going to use the trimmer or saw on her. That never happened, but I was filled with such fear for a second. My father ended up severing a nerve in his finger, without ever approaching anyone, and my mom took him to the hospital, and it was like any other day at the time. I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for what you've been through. My heart breaks for you, but I'm praying for you that God will help you find peace and a new beginning filled with peace, joy and love and everything that you deserve. You seem like such a nice and sincere person. I get the impression that you're someone who I could envision going dirt bike riding with my fiance. Anyway, if you wish to contact me please feel free to do so. I feel that I woudl be honored and blessed to hear how things are coming along for you. My email address is travelgirl2123@yahoo.com God Bless!!

Nick,

I wanted to say that I also thought Dr. Phil reading that letter was inappropriate the way he handled it. It was as if to say her feelings were legitimate. He should have told you that she was wrong in the way she felt and that she needed help coping too. Once again, it was NOT your fault. I know he said that over and over but should have especially made that clear after reading the letter. That was disheartening Dr. Phil. There is nothing to forgive on your part Nick. Please remember that. You have a beautiful soul and I believe you will be rewarded greatly one day for that.

Many Blessings,
Kate

I agree you have a friend in me too!! Maybe if more people reached out to let him know that  maybe it will help

Nick--  I served in the Army in Vietnam with your Dad.  You should know that he was an outstanding pilot and he was fearless in combat.  But he had problems, too.  I think he brought those problems into the Army with him long before he ever saw combat.  He was a troubled man long before you were ever born, so there is no way that YOU should ever feel any guilt over anything HE did.  

Jane--  You are the most courageous woman I have ever seen.  You were magnificent on Dr Phil's show.  To show such love and compassion to Nick as you did, speaks wonders about your strength and your character.  Watching you interact with Nick makes one believe that there really are Angels living on earth.

I saw God at work with both of you on the stage of Dr Phil's show.

Nick,

I can not even try to understand the pain you are going through.  I don't remember the last time I cried so hard watching you.  You totally touched my heart.  I have a son probably about your age and he always says how huge my heart is.  It's not always a joy to have such a big heart.  I don't usually comment online but this time after thinking about it all night I was drawn here.  I don't know if you read any of these comments but I feel better expressing my thoughts.  This world is full of good and evil and I have no doubt that you are a victim.  You are a good person with much sensitivity and God loves you.  It's hard to see sometimes but He has a plan for you and it is up to you to follow His guidance.  I wish nothing but the best for you and will pray for you and your heartache.  I know it is easy to say "move on" but good things in life just don't come easy.  I hope you get the help you need and are never judged.  "Judge and be Judged"  Remember Nick, there are still many good people out there.  If you ever have the time and would be so kind to drop a line as to how you're doing, I would feel truly blessed.  katelee46@yahoo.com

Love and God Bless,
Kate