I get that you don't care about him or his family but, don't you care about yourself? I mean, unless you have no moral convictions about anything, THIS WILL EVENTUALLY CAUSE YOU HARM!
I would harm you if I were his wife and found out. I would hunt you down.
What are you going to do when Suzie Clueless shows up at your work or your house with a baseball bat? Some women may not be that extreme but, some are and you have to consider that. One thing to learn, the truth always comes out eventually. Someone slips up, someone gets suspicious and starts looking, someone just happens to see you together, the list goes on and on.
It just seems really unhealthy to be in an unemotional, deceitful, relationship for the sake of sex. What are you really hiding from?
You don't have to tell the world but, atleast be honest with yourself since you can't seem to be genuine with anyone else. Isn't that sad to you? NO ONE, INCLUDING YOURSELF, IS GETTING THE REAL YOU!
One day you will want a real relationship with a great guy and a happy ending but, you are sabotaging your chances at future happiness by living like a whore presently.
This will come back on you and you will regret your actions, in some form or fashion. I just hope you can deal with the consequences of your actions when that happens.
Please get help, there is more to this than what you wrote and I honestly feel sorry for you.
You mention that you used to have contact with his wife- do you have any communication with her now at this point? Does she know about the baby?
Also, why would you have to wait four years to be together? That does not make sense to me. If he is unhappy with his marriage, he has the ability to make the decision to move on. But he isn’t making that decision- that means there are other reasons…reasons that you have no idea about…for why he stays in that marriage.
I’m sure that you are an intelligent young woman. Do not allow yourself to be told stories and half-truths by this man. Just because he says he loves you does not mean that he loves you! (I don’t mean to be hurtful with these words, I’m sorry) Love is about so much more then words, love involves ACTION. In this case, the action would be this: if he is so terribly miserable in that marriage and with that wife, then he would be out of it. But no, something is keeping him there. Don’t be naive and vulnerable when he tells you his reasons or excuses as to why he stays- remember that you are a person also and you deserve to have happiness! Don’t be strung along by this man. Be good to yourself- be your own best friend right now.
I have no judgment towards you. You are a young woman, going through life, and you are having experiences that will shape/form you. This is one of those experiences that will shape you- hopefully in a positive way, if dealt with properly. Keep in mind that when he tells you she (his wife) was thinking of leaving him for another man- that could be his insecurities talking. He is saying that about his wife because actually that is what HE is thinking about doing to her! He is the one thinking of leaving his wife to be with another woman. (you)
I understand love. I’ve been there, too- felt it deep within my heart. But please, PLEASE remember this: you only hear his side of the story. Of course he will only tell you what puts him in a better, more positive light in your eyes. It feels so great for him and his ego to have this pretty 18 year old girl (you!) lusting after him. You feel stuck but the reality is that you are not stuck at all.
You can make a good decision right this moment if you want to. Look at the facts of this situation: He is a married man. He is a man with two children! He is telling you only what he believes you’d like to hear. He is not going to tell you that he did something wrong or disrespectful to his wife- of course he isn’t going to do that! He enjoys your company, he enjoys this relationship, so he is not going to do or say anything that will put it in jeopardy.
Now I ask you to think of this in a different way. Imagine that you are the wife. Imagine that your husband is pursuing an attractive, young 18 year old woman- a young woman who truly believes every word that comes out of his mouth. Imagine that you have two small children and your husband helps you very minimally with those children. He has a job, he has hobbies, and then of course he has that secret relationship with the other woman. Can you just imagine what that might feel like? It would not feel good at all.
Use your best judgment. You believe that you are in love, and of course it will hurt to turn and leave this relationship. However, you’ll be amazed that your heart can and will heal. You have no business being in the middle of his relationship with his wife; that is only between him and her. Don’t allow him to put you into that relationship! Be the smart young woman that you are, and wake up!!
i am 18 years old and i have fallen in love with a man who is 24, married with two kids. i'm so lost.
before you make judgements, hear me out.
about a year ago i met a guy and he was into a hobby.. that is where i met the 24 year old.. me and my boyfriend broke up about 4 months ago and me and this guy have been talking ever since. he prosued me. we got to talking everynight and before we knew it we were talking all day, talking on the phone and meeting up. we have not had any sexual relations.. about a month ago they got married, but before the wedding she wasn't sure if she wanted to be wtih him anymore. the first person he called to talk to about it was me. she was going to leave him for another guy. this is the second time they were attempting to get married.. and they have broken up multiple times, one which she was going to leave him for another woman. she is 22 and i know financially he can support him more, but come to find out 2 days ago she lost her job and she expects him to get another job, which will not allow him anytime with his kids.. he tells me that he hasn't felt happiness with his wife like he does with me and we don't fight while they fight all the time. i am more concerned about his kids than she is. he can actually smile a real smile when he is with me.. i want to know what to do. remember, we have had no sexual interaction cause i have made it clear that i will not step that boundry while he is married cause i don't want to be that girl.. help me..
I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22 years old. we always saw eachother around but never talked, finally mutual friends made us meet. After 2 weeks of dating him my guy friend said my boyfriend was married, but my bf denied it. i thought my friend was lieng cause he had feelings for me. Well months and months went by everything was so great i get a call from a girl. she said to leave her husband alone. we talked. she called him and he denied me to her. she calls back telling me what he said. i said iwould stop seeing him and she respected me for being honest because if i really didnt know it was true that he was married.
a few days of not talking to my bf i realized he was the guy i wanted to be with, i was so in love with him. I also found out i was pregnant with his kid. He was so happy and said things were over with his wife. i believed him. But my friends started seeing him with his wife. people would send pictures to my mom of them to at the store. he always says its his bestfriends gf he sees at the store. i never met his wife in person so idk what she looks like.
we used to talk about marriage and then that he wanted a family with me, he wanted 2 kids with me. after one kid we would try again foranother one. But his wife doesnt know about me or know that we have a 5 month old son together. i know its wrong to be with him if he is married. after a year i only went to his house once. she moved 2 hrs away and he moved to another house. but he says he knows what he wants with his life and he wants to be with me not just for a long time but forever and have a great family with me he uses the word mother in law and brother in law alot and i said they are nothing to you because we are not married. he says he wants to marry me but i have to wait at least 4 years for them to be over.. but i feel like he tells her the same. i always try to find our her number or email so i can talk to her and see whats going on but i cant find anything.
then why dont u simply find a single guy to do this with??? why someone elses husband, father, why??? one day i pray the karma misses you, but God deals with ones just like u. you will fall in love and when u do someone just like you will come along. hope u can just see it as sex.
Before I start I know that I have done is extremely wrong! However I need advice on how to move on..
I went to visit my mom for her bday about a week ago, we were hanging out at the pool drinking and having a good time.. This person is a very very close friend to my mom’s fiancé and he is married and I have meet his wife before. Later that night he kissed me on my cheek at that moment I really didn’t think anything about it, then later in the night it was more than the cheek.. I will say that we did not have sex however it was a lot of fooling around as I know I am a horrible person for this and why he says he loves his wife I know that he does!! I don’t know how to act when I see him again every time I go to my mom’s he will be there, I mean he kept saying how beautiful I was which I am sure men say anything to women these days. I just don’t know how to move on past this and cant bear the thought of my mom or her fiancé finding out about this at all!!!!! What should I do… is it possible for us to act as if nothing happened the next time we see each I will say we do live about 2 hours from each other so its not like I see him on a regular just when I see my mom
I have been seeing a married man for 4 years. I am not married.We have both been honest about the situation from the start. He said he will never leave his wife. She is mostly incapacitated due to an accident.
I am currently seeing a married man. It's only sex, I don't want a relationship at this time in my life and this is a way to have sex without having to be responsible for someone's emotions. The first time we had sex I set the rules for him. I will not call you, I will not go anywhere with you, if I see you in traffic I will act like I don't know you. I asked him if he was ok with that and he said yes and we've been having sex for 6 months now and it works for me. It's not about him right now this arragement is all about me. I don't ask about his family, I don't care.
I would harm you if I were his wife and found out. I would hunt you down.
What are you going to do when Suzie Clueless shows up at your work or your house with a baseball bat? Some women may not be that extreme but, some are and you have to consider that. One thing to learn, the truth always comes out eventually. Someone slips up, someone gets suspicious and starts looking, someone just happens to see you together, the list goes on and on.
It just seems really unhealthy to be in an unemotional, deceitful, relationship for the sake of sex.
What are you really hiding from?
You don't have to tell the world but, atleast be honest with yourself since you can't seem to be genuine with anyone else. Isn't that sad to you? NO ONE, INCLUDING YOURSELF, IS GETTING THE REAL YOU!
One day you will want a real relationship with a great guy and a happy ending but, you are sabotaging your chances at future happiness by living like a whore presently.
This will come back on you and you will regret your actions, in some form or fashion. I just hope you can deal with the consequences of your actions when that happens.
Please get help, there is more to this than what you wrote and I honestly feel sorry for you.
Only a little bit though,
Also, why would you have to wait four years to be together? That does not make sense to me. If he is unhappy with his marriage, he has the ability to make the decision to move on. But he isn’t making that decision- that means there are other reasons…reasons that you have no idea about…for why he stays in that marriage.
I’m sure that you are an intelligent young woman. Do not allow yourself to be told stories and half-truths by this man. Just because he says he loves you does not mean that he loves you! (I don’t mean to be hurtful with these words, I’m sorry) Love is about so much more then words, love involves ACTION. In this case, the action would be this: if he is so terribly miserable in that marriage and with that wife, then he would be out of it. But no, something is keeping him there. Don’t be naive and vulnerable when he tells you his reasons or excuses as to why he stays- remember that you are a person also and you deserve to have happiness! Don’t be strung along by this man. Be good to yourself- be your own best friend right now.
I understand love. I’ve been there, too- felt it deep within my heart. But please, PLEASE remember this: you only hear his side of the story. Of course he will only tell you what puts him in a better, more positive light in your eyes. It feels so great for him and his ego to have this pretty 18 year old girl (you!) lusting after him. You feel stuck but the reality is that you are not stuck at all.
You can make a good decision right this moment if you want to. Look at the facts of this situation: He is a married man. He is a man with two children! He is telling you only what he believes you’d like to hear. He is not going to tell you that he did something wrong or disrespectful to his wife- of course he isn’t going to do that! He enjoys your company, he enjoys this relationship, so he is not going to do or say anything that will put it in jeopardy.
Now I ask you to think of this in a different way. Imagine that you are the wife. Imagine that your husband is pursuing an attractive, young 18 year old woman- a young woman who truly believes every word that comes out of his mouth. Imagine that you have two small children and your husband helps you very minimally with those children. He has a job, he has hobbies, and then of course he has that secret relationship with the other woman. Can you just imagine what that might feel like? It would not feel good at all.
Use your best judgment. You believe that you are in love, and of course it will hurt to turn and leave this relationship. However, you’ll be amazed that your heart can and will heal. You have no business being in the middle of his relationship with his wife; that is only between him and her. Don’t allow him to put you into that relationship! Be the smart young woman that you are, and wake up!!
before you make judgements, hear me out.
about a year ago i met a guy and he was into a hobby.. that is where i met the 24 year old.. me and my boyfriend broke up about 4 months ago and me and this guy have been talking ever since. he prosued me. we got to talking everynight and before we knew it we were talking all day, talking on the phone and meeting up. we have not had any sexual relations.. about a month ago they got married, but before the wedding she wasn't sure if she wanted to be wtih him anymore. the first person he called to talk to about it was me. she was going to leave him for another guy. this is the second time they were attempting to get married.. and they have broken up multiple times, one which she was going to leave him for another woman. she is 22 and i know financially he can support him more, but come to find out 2 days ago she lost her job and she expects him to get another job, which will not allow him anytime with his kids.. he tells me that he hasn't felt happiness with his wife like he does with me and we don't fight while they fight all the time. i am more concerned about his kids than she is. he can actually smile a real smile when he is with me.. i want to know what to do. remember, we have had no sexual interaction cause i have made it clear that i will not step that boundry while he is married cause i don't want to be that girl.. help me..
a few days of not talking to my bf i realized he was the guy i wanted to be with, i was so in love with him. I also found out i was pregnant with his kid. He was so happy and said things were over with his wife. i believed him. But my friends started seeing him with his wife. people would send pictures to my mom of them to at the store. he always says its his bestfriends gf he sees at the store. i never met his wife in person so idk what she looks like.
we used to talk about marriage and then that he wanted a family with me, he wanted 2 kids with me. after one kid we would try again foranother one. But his wife doesnt know about me or know that we have a 5 month old son together. i know its wrong to be with him if he is married. after a year i only went to his house once. she moved 2 hrs away and he moved to another house. but he says he knows what he wants with his life and he wants to be with me not just for a long time but forever and have a great family with me he uses the word mother in law and brother in law alot and i said they are nothing to you because we are not married. he says he wants to marry me but i have to wait at least 4 years for them to be over.. but i feel like he tells her the same. i always try to find our her number or email so i can talk to her and see whats going on but i cant find anything.
Before I start I know that I have done is extremely wrong! However I need advice on how to move on..
I went to visit my mom for her bday about a week ago, we were hanging out at the pool drinking and having a good time.. This person is a very very close friend to my mom’s fiancé and he is married and I have meet his wife before. Later that night he kissed me on my cheek at that moment I really didn’t think anything about it, then later in the night it was more than the cheek.. I will say that we did not have sex however it was a lot of fooling around as I know I am a horrible person for this and why he says he loves his wife I know that he does!! I don’t know how to act when I see him again every time I go to my mom’s he will be there, I mean he kept saying how beautiful I was which I am sure men say anything to women these days. I just don’t know how to move on past this and cant bear the thought of my mom or her fiancé finding out about this at all!!!!! What should I do… is it possible for us to act as if nothing happened the next time we see each I will say we do live about 2 hours from each other so its not like I see him on a regular just when I see my mom