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(Original Air Date: 05/25/09) Over half a million kids live in foster care, and many are neglected, unloved and viewed as a paycheck by their new family. Dr. Phil takes a hard look at the harsh realities these forgotten kids face and sends an urgent message about the need to repair this ailing system. Jessica, 24, aged out of foster care six years ago, but before foster care, she says her childhood was horrific. She says she experienced things a child never should, including witnessing the murder of her 5-year-old sister … by her mother and stepfather. Will Jessica find the strength to overcome her abusive past? Don’t miss Dr. Phil’s surprise for her! And, Dr. Phil and Robin are the national spokespersons for Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA), which trains volunteers to watch over and advocate for abused and neglected children. Find out how Robin laid down the law at a recent CASA graduation. Then, Juan is 18 and has lived in 25 foster homes during his childhood. Now that he's been emancipated, he has no job, no identification and jumps from couch to couch. Can the young man get the tools he needs to turn his life around? Plus, find out how the New Orleans Saints head coach, Sean Payton, his wife, Beth, and The Dr. Phil Foundation scored a touchdown together! Join the discussion.

Ten years after the Columbine shootings, Anne Marie found a way to give back. She became a CASA volunteer. Read Anne Marie’s Blog.

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Replied By: delisak on Oct 20, 2010, 5:36AM - In reply to skbee1980
Amen.
 
Replied By: chozenwon on May 9, 2010, 8:27PM
" Where Was Your Warrant ? "

 

 

The state of California, city of Sacramento has a CPS system that I've found to be VERY flawed. I'm not an expert, but don't have to be one to see the things CPS does to get custody of, and keep a child. Neither am I going on hearsay but personal experience with these people.

You have a Public Defender who seems to get upset and exasperated at anything the Defendent might ask or say. This I witnessed with my eyes. These are the people defending parents? Of course it makes no difference whether the case gets won or lost, they still get paid.

Then, you ave a caseworker that didn't use sound judgement, did NOT o an investigation, clearly again iolating the parents civil and constitutional rights. Noone of the legal requirements were met to even warrant removal of the child. If this woman had done her job, she would have found all allegations to be unsubstantiated.

Then there was the child, who finally admitted to several CPS workers that she lied... admitting that the parent didn't do any of the things she had said. I'm not speaking of a 2 or 3 year old, but a 16 year old. This girl said none of the allegations were true. CPS was more than willing to listen to lies, why aren't they willing to listen to the truth?!

Tell me, what kind of justice is this? I wonder how many other parents have proclamied their innocence, only to have their cries fall on deaf ears? How many other children has Sacramento County CPS removed from their homes to gain money? It's obvious this is why because of the numer of children removed from homes in Sacramento alone is staggering.

Dr. Phil has done episodes on Sacramento County. I know for sure... The first episode aired on Monday, May 25, 2009 and it repeated on Wednesday, August 19, 2009. This alone itslef should have the governor and senators of California, concerned enough to want to look into and nvestigate this very " flawed " and " unjust " system that was put into position to impose actual child abuse! or do they not care because for each child placed in a foster home the state is alotted o much money!?

It's obvious and very clear to me that Sacramento County misuse their power by setting parents up for monetary gain, even when another social worker admitted to parent that CPS doenst have a case against her. She, the social worker seems afraid to speak up. Where is her human dignity? How heartless and calloused can she be? Sacramento CPS in this case, " Where was YOUR warrant? " You had none! Only hearsay and lies, all of which turned out to be unfounded.

Way to go! Get your money by any crooked measure... It's disgusting!
 
Replied By: beckysmalls on Sep 9, 2009, 2:00PM
My husband grew up as a foster child. He recently found out that his adopted siblings were being taken from the foster home that he grew up in. Two of the boys are biological siblings and we were told would not be separated. The other brother Max would be alone in this journey and my husband felt he could relate. So we took it upon ourselves to contact the local court systems to see if we could possibly seek custody of Max. We would love to be able to help all three brothers, however we do not have the means to support them all. Nor do we have a big enough house. However, this task was easier said then done. We have made several attempts to contact Max's local case worker with not much of a response. This process has now taken over 6 months and Max has now been placed in a facility 2 1/2 hours away from us... we have also learned that the other two brothers, Tom and Joe, have been separated. Just wondering what the next step is on our part... I've contacted the judge with no response as of yet either. We want to help these kids. Max is 17 and does not have much time to catch up education wise, so timing is crucial at this point. Please help.
 
Replied By: heartbroken_sd on Sep 7, 2009, 11:18PM
My kids were taken into DSS custody 1 year ago. I have been fighting to get them back. It is to the point I am facing them terminating my parental rights.   I have an attorney I feel is doing nothing for me.  I see him maybe 5 minutes before court, but that last two times not even that. I go into the court blind and not knowing what is going on. I was accused of neglecting my kids, which I did plead guilty because my life was out of control and the house was unlivable for my kids. I have done sooooo much over the last year.  I am getting the run around and don't want to give up without a fight.  My kids need to be home with ME!  I have done what DSS has told me. I am not taking medication. I Have gone through anger management, I have gone through a psychological evaluation, Alcohol abuse evaluation and a lot more. The kids attorney I believe hasn't ever even spoken with my kids at all. As far as they know she doesn't  exist.  I don't agree that leaving my kids future is up to the dept of social services, or child protective services.  I read some of the threads in here and I have some power to use!    My kids are ages 9,10,11 and 13. Yes I made some mistakes in the past but I am not a bad person.   I came from an abusive home where my dad was very abusive to me. DSS came in my house when I was a kid but FAILED to protect me!  I  LOVE my kids more than anything and It is so frustrating to go through this.  It makes me sick to read the stories of the kids in foster care and I don't want my kids being one of these stories.  I have a sister and brother in law that are the foster parents of my boys. They are trying to get all 4 kids and be long term guardians of my kids. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas on what I can do? I don't even know what my rights are. I read a post on the child's rights and am going to talk to my oldest daughter about possibly writing a letter to the judge on my behalf. I have some people from church that have also agreed to write letters on my behalf, as well as my counselor. He is probably my biggest strength. He said when you get into DSS's  path you have to be sooo much higher of a better parent that the regular American.  I would even be willing  to put cameras in my house 24/7 that they can view at any time to prove I am being a responsible parent that I should. I would do anything to prove to them I am a capable parent.

I have until around christmas until my final disposition where they are talking about terminating my rights. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Thank you
 
Replied By: thecrazywifed on Sep 5, 2009, 1:58PM - In reply to skbee1980
Thank you....Why are the people that help the bad guys alot of the time??? Sometimes the world is backwards....and you wonder why there are less and less people doing good???
 
Replied By: jmeikxx1 on Aug 26, 2009, 11:59AM
Dr. Phil,
A few years ago, I took in 2 foster children.. I took in these kids because I felt a need to give back since I've been very blessed in my life. Anyway, doing foster care and interacting with this large family taught me to be a lot "LESS" sensitive to these children and families.

I now feel the fix for neglected and abused children is to make people who have kids take care of them. And, if they aren't taking care of the 1 or 2 they have, we need to stop them from having more. The mother of the children I cared for, has 7 kids by 4 different fathers. She was a drug addict through the first 6, then left those 6 with a guy who seems to have abused the kids and went on to drug rehab. There she got pregnant  and now lives with that child and his father. She's now clean but will not take back her daughter. She tells her she loves her and she's going to get her back but after 3 years and being advised she can have her, she refuses to take her back. The father of one of the kids, has 17 kids that he has fathered, all of whom he never cared for.

This woman and her family (now including 4 grandchildren) are sucking the lifeblood out of our society. All of these children and the mom are costing us in some way. We have drug addicts/pushers going to jail with free attorneys, going to rehab for free, going to counselling for free, having free health care, getting free housing and for as 'handicapped' as they advise us they are, they sure know how to get everything for free and they feel entitled to it.

We need to stop the flow of these children. I think this is an obvious solution. We need to demand that if you have a child, you care for it. We need to be teaching about how to be a parent in our schools, especially in areas where they have no role models. We need to increase minimum wage to a livable salary and then get rid of the free handouts.

Dr. Phil, you have a lot of power. You can make a difference. Start the conversation now on this issue. don't promote spending millions more on foster care of any other stop-gap methods that will never work. I could tell you so much more on just this one family that would make most of us sick to our stomach but I just don't have the time.
 
Replied By: duckslucki on Aug 20, 2009, 2:19PM
I WAS ACCUSED OF FALSE ALIGATIONS WITCH THEY NOW SAY WAS CLARICAL ERROS AND MY TEEN AGE DAUGHTER AND  NOW GRANSON ARE STILL NOT HOME ,IM STILL FIGHTING TO GET THEM BACK A YEAR LATTER.MY TEENAGE DAUGHET WAS COUGHT WITH A 38 YEAR OLD MAN AND WHEN I TOOK PHONE AND INTERNET AWAY SHE TOLD SOCIAL SERVICES SHE WAS AFFRAIDE TO LIVE WITH ME..THEY PUT HER WITH HER BIO FATHERS PARENTS WHO I TERMINATED THERE SONS RIGHST WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS TWO CAUSE HE ABUSED HER ,THESE PEOPLE STALKED US FOR 5 YEARS NO ONE CARED TO HELP.THERE ARE POPLICE REPORTS TO THIS BUT THE JUDGE AND SOCIAL SERVICES DIDNT CARE I WAS TOLD TO SHUT UP IN COURT BY THE JUDGE I DIDNT HAVE A SAY TO WHERE SHE WENT WHEN I WANTED HER TO GO WITH FAMILY.I HAVE NO SEEN HER IN A YEAR AND HAVE NEVER SEEN MY GRANSON AND SOCIAL SERVICES DOES NOTHING TO HELP MAKE A VISIT POSSIBLE.THEY EVEN SAID I DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG IT WAS A TEEN OUT OF CONTROL WELL THEN GIVE HER BACK.SHE HAS SENSE GOT COUGHT WITH THIS 38 YEAR OLD MAN AGAIN .THE PEOPLE SHES WITH KEEP HER PRISONER FROM ANYOF MY FAMILY NO ONES ALLOWED TO CALL HER.I HAVE THEM WERE IT HURTS RIGHT NOW THEM MEANING SOCIAL SERVES I MAY HAVE A CHANCE OF GETTING MY DAUGHTER AT LEAST MOVED TO A FAMILY MEMBER,WE WILL SEE THEY BROKE ALOT OF LAWS AND I STILL HAVE ALL PARENTAL RIGHTS.ITS JUST REDICULOS HOW THEY THINK THEY CAN TRY TO GET AWAY WITH BREAKING LAWS.MY TWO BOYS ARE TRAMATIZED OVER THIS AFFRAIDE EVERY DAY THEY ARE GONNA TAKE THEM FROM HOME
 
Replied By: rosesspirit on Aug 20, 2009, 2:04PM
They are in foster care (I read the Foster Children's Rights that is why I am sending this other email.) when I went to visit my kids this pasts week end I notest the at the first visit they looked durty except the baby the girls breath smalled and the oldest the one that went throught the sexel abuse is the one that looked  homeless the foster mother told me that she did not have clothes that fit her. I said that I will bring some the next vist and also said something about her hair being tangled and that her hand smalled bad. the foster mother said that they had takin a bath they did not look like they did only the baby looked clean.  The 2nd meeting the oldest  hair was worse it looked like a births nest. I expected to see her all brushed and clean because the foster mom told me that she was going to buy detangeler and come her hair that night.  This is what I saw but what I felt about the foster mother was uncofterable but the visit was in a Mcdonals and there was alot of people so that had alot to do with it. The 2nd meeting I was some what comfortable there was less people and it was the foster gandparents. This time the two yungest looked  nice and clean. The girls breath still smalled. I asked if the oldest if she had brushed her teeth she said no.  


I need a new lawyer I have been trying to find one but It is heard to find one near me and that handles c.p.s.(child protective services) cases. I call and I am getting nowhere I truly don't know what I need to look for. I want may children back and the public defender is not calling me back. The 2nd hearing on 8-26-09 for a P.R.I. ( the paper the lawyer gave me with the dates do not have times)  I what to get a new lawyer before that  date and then I think I will be able to get my children back by then because there is some thing that is not right with the hole thing and I know If  I get help from out of the dept. the truth will come out. The 3rd meeting will be on 9-23-09 and that is for P.R.C. I do not know what p.r.c. or p.r.i. mean
This last visit with my children the two girls screamed and yield that they wanted to go with me they ran to my car and did not what to go with the foster grandparents. I talked to my girls and calmed them down and they got in there care. They need and what to be with me.  The baby did cry but he is small he does not understand what is going on he just knows that mom is not with him. I have had only 2 visits with my children and that was on sat. and sun. I have been trying to set up visits to see my children but no one calls me and the one person that I did get to talk to told me about the t.d.m (team decision making meeting.) that will be Mon. 8-24-09 at 11:00 at xxxx.  With the recording of the interviews I feel that  It will prove that the social worker on the case is making up things and tried to make me say things that are not true.
 I feel that she was angry with me because I believe the forensic specialist and not her.  she said that the forensic specialist did not now what she was doing and that she ( social worker )can do a better job then her. She said that the specialist was not good with my girl. I asked my oldest if she liked the lady ( specialist ) that talked to her and if she was nice she said yes and that she did like the way she was with her.  That is why I feel that now she is railroading me. I told her superviser that I don't now how she can say she can do a better job then the forensic specialist she is not specialized in that she is a social worker. I also said that  I disagree with what she said about the specialist I believe the specialized knows what she is doing.
this is the 2nd e-mail I send
thank you
Please Help my Children and Me


 I need help I went to the police to report child sexual abuse for my little girl. I told them every thing with all the Truth that I know. Now the social worker is trying to say things that I did not do or say. I have a public defender he is not doing what he needs to do to help me. He wants to leave the false allegations on the record. I   talk to him this morning and I don't now if he is trying to do what is right for me. The police, detectives and social worker never let me now when the taping was going on or not. I know of two tapings that they did not tell me of. So I know that with any tapings they have I will be able to prove that what they are saying is not true.  I feel that the social worker when she did not agree with what I said she tried to make me say what she wanted to hear. I would say that is not what i said. I now they try to find the truth under every thing and they are looking out for the children and that is all I what the safety of all my children. but I do not what to be railroaded in the process. They tuck the girls to c.a.t.s and every thing came out normal no signs of any abuse as per what the forensic specialist told me and showed me.  But that does not mean that he has not touched her as per what forensic specialist said. as far as that goes I believe everything that my daughter is saying.  I need help there is so much that is not right with the way the detectives and the social worker or doing there investigation.  please help the social worker tuck my kids away.
thank you for your time ps. This social worker I have a feeling has done this to many peole and I do not think that is right.  I do not what this to happen to more people I what the social worker out of that field of work  
 
Replied By: helpgranma on Aug 20, 2009, 12:08PM
Yes ,I understand where your coming from. We have done our best to keep our grandchildren out of the foster care system.  There are a few good foster-care homes out there ,but you don't know which ones your children will end up with.  Cps has placed our 4-grandchildren with us and now they are trying to get it so we can adopt them.  I pray that we can.  We don't have a lot of money ,but we all get by.  and what we lack in finances ,we make up in lots and lots and lots of love. They are A students ,in boy scouts and girl scouts. And at their well check-ups , the doctor said she thinks they are fonamamal ,seeing all they have went thru.  We will be praying for these other children.
 
Replied By: skbee1980 on Aug 20, 2009, 11:31AM
Meth seems to be the devil behind many of these children being removed from their bio parents.  The incidents of children being thrown into foster care would be greatly reduced if meth were banished from this earth.
 
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