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Have your children gone from little angels to kids gone wild? Are they whiney, tantrum-throwing, feet-stomping, door-slamming, spoiled and entitled? Well, good news, Mom and Dad! Dr. Phil launches his parenting boot camp and teaches parents how to take back control and live in peace for the very first time. Meet four families who say they live in chaos and can’t take it anymore. Tammie says her 11-year-old daughter is stubborn, uncooperative and annoying, and she finds herself with no desire to hug her. How can she rediscover that mother/daughter bond? And, Janice says her 11-year-old son is a spoiled little baby whose tantrums are so obnoxious, she’s ready to throw in the towel. Next, Tiffiny and Ron say their two oldest daughters make them regret becoming parents. They say living with their 14-year-old is like living with Hannibal Lecter, and the 10-year-old won’t stop lying. What are they doing wrong? And, Laureen is a single mom who says her 16-year-old daughter is so out of control, she could be headed for jail. How can these families regain control and find peace? Plus, see exciting updates on two mother/son pairs who left their madhouse for The Dr. Phil House last year. Remember the child who slapped his mother in the face? How are they doing one year later? Share your thoughts here.

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Replied By: patty531 on Dec 10, 2010, 4:21PM
It would be very good if Dr. Phil could do a follow up now with all the teens that have been through Turnabout Ranch. It would be interesting to see if the program actually did work. 
 
Replied By: faithdemaz on Dec 30, 2009, 10:33AM
I can not believe that Tammie can treat Davia like that. I am a social worker and thats is abuse. I had to look away, cause seeing how Tammie talks to Davia makes me very angry. Davia keeps trieng and is even hopefull and Tammie heartlessly breaks her down. Tammie is causing serious selfasteem issues to Davia. I can not understand how you can treat your child like that, it makes me so sad to think that Davia actualy believes its her fault. The only way I can understand why Tammie treats her like that, is if she hates herself so much that she somehow feels the need to take it out on Davia. I can understand why you can hate yourself if you are abusing your child like that. Unbelievable how she tells Davia to sit down like she is dog! How humilitating can you be towards someone!?! Craziest thing is that Tammie knows that Davia needs love and attention (not like a dog, but like a child), and that she is not giving it to her. Dont take childeren if you just wanna push them to suicide.
 
Replied By: mollybrooker on Jul 23, 2009, 12:43AM - In reply to momtjk
You think because u got medical problems that makes you exempt from parenting? my mum has ms, she never behaved the way you did! Also dont use your husbane as an excuse, if you felt she was effected and upset from this, why did you go on to treat her so badly! it does not make sense! you are condradicting yourself. Davia, love dont listen to your mum, you need to believe in yourself what ur mum says is not true ok! just ignore her concerntrate on ur studies and get the hell out of their soon as ur 18-21!
 
Replied By: margolas2 on Jun 4, 2009, 4:59PM
I understood some of the other parents problems with there kids and how they could happen but I did'nt understand Tammies feelings for her daughter, she gave me a bad feeling even when she cried , I guess I didn't beleive her! I get a sick feeling about  Tammie and feel sorry for her daughter.
 
Replied By: gurl_heroin on May 13, 2009, 10:24PM
At 16 years old I left my mother's home because I knew I either had to take control of life; by realizing that there was no way I could have done anything to ruin my Mother's life. If i stayed, it is entirely likely that I would have taken my life.

No one could convince me that is wasn't an issue my mother had with me, but rather an issue she had with herself. It was not until I married and had my beautiful daughter. I knew that there was no way at only a few months old, that my daughter had designs to make, difficult my life. That is when I knew for sure that my mother's hatred of me, had absolutely NOTHING to do with me.

I stopped the cycle, adore my child and treat her as I needed and deserved to be treated, In parenting to her and having those tender affectionate monets, snuggling, hugging, loving - thats when my heart gets healed a bit.

Now I have contol over the legacy my mother gave me, but it contributed to me staying with my daughter's father, as he abused us, for longer than I should have. I hope that where I am now, with another father that adores her, that we give her a proper role model for a healthy relationship.

I contribute a large part of our success to reaching out to a counsellor trained and schooled about abuse. We started to see him even before I even left my husband. He has now knowd and counselled my daughter a good chunk of her life (from 4 yrs of age to now, 11 yrs old!)

My message - just because you grew up being told your were the beginning of the end, worse than garbage (because my father "didn't bother to take anything other than the garbage" when he left my mother - me included in that pile of garbage), and were the impetus to all things bad to your mother - you don't have to live in it always.

It takes time to hear your voice saying positive things, rather than hearing the audio from one's childhood. Once you get to that epiphany, things go upwards, as quickly as you allow them too. Strength comes to leave abuse (most seek out patterns, as I did with my ex husband), to believe in yourself and be a better mother than you ever imagined.

Please Davia know - your mother is wrong. Even if things are not fixed right now (after the cameras are gone), hang on until you are in control of your destiny, and remind yourself constantly that you are a good person,

By acting with respect and self control in a flurry of yelled insults (i know, believe me I know!) you are almost guranteeing that you can overcome where you are now.

I'd give you my email here to write me to talk if you wished - but that seems rather unwise to post here. But I would love to sit down with you, console and re-assure you; if only because I wish I had someone to do that for me. It is hard when you have to keep your sanity in the midst if all that choas!

I have been thinking good thoughts for you as soon as I saw how your mother treated you in the very first show.

To Davia's mother - please realize how much you are damaging her!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please get a punching bag or a journal to take out your anger.That is not your daughter's job. I know that you have stuff to deal with too, and I am not saying that you are a bad person. Just a person not knowing which path is correct and until this point chooing the "not good" choice. If you want to be a better person, you can be!

As long as you keep saying sorry when you know that you are wrong, I rhink that you are on the right road. The worst you can ever do is tell your daughter that she "deserved it" Hearing that in a conversation with my Mother as an adult destroyed me, and hurts no less than it was, when i was a child.

For me (even as a young, successful adult) - I had to get rid of the person who always told me i deserved all her actions. The heartache is still immeasurable.

I am lucky that I have a wonderful mother in law to be (09/19/09!) This time around, in a healthy relationship celebration, the person that gave birth to me will not be invited.

If you continue on the same path with Davia, that may be your future, as a mother, as well.Your daughter getting married, and you having not the faintest idea about it happening.

Please love your daughter enough to treat her the same way you would like someone to treat you.

S.
 
Replied By: filoet_17 on May 13, 2009, 12:54PM
Kay, this is to Tammy I think your name is? LOL. Chill out, will you? And get over yourself! You daughter is how old? Children don't grow up on hate, disrespect and put-downs. Yeah, I've been in the whole fighting with parents place once, that's a normal stage, but at NO point did my parents turn away and tell me that I'm a bitch, that I'm only sucking up, etc. Why do you? I'm not defending your daughter, because a part of the fault is definitly hers. But has it ever occured to you that she doesn't understand anymore how to do things differently? That she's lost? Is she not a good person? You definitly think that YOU are a good person and you've raised her, so isn't she a good person inside as well? Take a moment and look iiiiiiiiiinside, stop focusing on the outside behaviour, because it only means that much! And what if you win your stupid fights, Tammy? What if Dr. Phill says that you are right and that you are perfect and your daughter is messed up....then what? Are you going to be happier? Won't you want to fix your daughter, to help her? When people lose their way, it doesn't mean they're bad. It's the effort you have to put into it, not her, YOU, you are the number one. She is not the problem, Tammy, the problem is what YOU have created yourself. You daughter is a child, she isn't capable of much...but you are. So might as well use your power for the better. And to stay together and to keep it together. So get over yourself and start working, instead of trying to prove something that only exists inside your head...
 
Replied By: cortesfamily1 on May 12, 2009, 2:29PM
I am so angry watching the behavior of this "mother"...........I spent Sunday, "Mother's Day"  mourning the murder of my son, and she wishes her daughter were not alive!!!!!
 
Replied By: aprilw814 on May 12, 2009, 1:25PM
Tammie (the woman that video taped her daughter) is so damn fake.  She's crying because she got caught.
 
Replied By: ebond4 on May 12, 2009, 12:07PM - In reply to momtjk
I have been reading the posts on here, and can understand why you are getting defensive about some tings that have been written about you.  Hopefully you understand that after people watch your episodes on TV, they need an outlet for what they are feeling at that time, and this is why they cannot necessarily wait until they have seen them all.  I know I couldn't.

I am very happy that you have doctors who are helping you to implement discipline ideas for you and your daughter.  While I don't agree with all of the ones you talked about, it shows that an effort is being made.  One thing I have learned for working as a Child and Youth Worker in a group home for teens, is that "natural consequences" tend to work the best.  (I.E.: If they are late getting home, they lose that amount of time off their curfew.)  I am not too sure about the "writing consequence" you talked about, as that is one of the things we are not legally allowed to do (it is considered a repetitive task), along with many others, like locking them up, depriving them of basic necessities, yelling, etc... 

I am hoping that my experiences with my work will make me a good mother one day.  At least a better mother than the one I had.  Her parenting style was a lot like yours used to be, but she never recognized what she was doing.  She still to this day (14 years later) has not accepted any responsibility for what happened when I was 15, nor has she ever apologized. (Please read the other post I did to understand what I am talking about.)  I just hope that you are truly willing to do what needs to be done to heal the relationship between you and your daughter, before it gets to the point that ours did.  Right now Divia is at the age where you are her world.  You are her hero, no matter what you say or do.  But, there will come a time when she is old enough to realize what is really going on, and this will be the true test as to whether or not you have made all the efforts required. 

No one is perfect.  All we can do is have the strength to recognize the mistakes we have made, and do everything in our power to right them.

Again, I am very happy to know that the changes continued past the final taping of the show.  I know that my opinion, as well as everyone elses on here, are of little or no consequence to you.  But I just wanted you to know that some of us do recognize that this isn't a quick fix, and will take time and effort on both of your parts.  And that you do seem to be willing to put the work in. 

I hope that Divia can avoid the issues that have plagued me throughout my life as a result of my messed up childhood.  And please remember that you are the one who will dictate this.

I just have one question... With the help from the doctors, are you now able to show her physical affection?  The hugs and kisses that children, especially girls, crave so much from their mothers?  I am just curious.
 
Replied By: hollymama on May 11, 2009, 9:18PM - In reply to jusmaryeed
I agree. You can see the hurt in Davia's eyes, and the beast woman that bore her just stands over her, mocking her. Oh, you want hope> This woman is probably the most selfish person I have ever seen. Have you noticed that the only word she uses is me. This is my chance. I can't do this. What about this little girl who needs someone to hug her and love her.
 
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