Having a baby has changed who I am. It completes me. I have two beautiful boys and everyday there is something new to enjoy. Sure there is a lot of stress and some days I may want to pull my hair out but I wouldn't change one minute. I love having kids, seeing the smiles on their faces, watching them grow and change and seeing myself in them.
Well I guess we will start from when I first found out I was pregnant until halfway through my 3 month, I didn't have any morning sickness or any other symtoms other than I noticed that I was getting bigger and I skipped a period. It wasn't uncommon for me to skip one or two months for my period. So I found out I was pregnant, the father and I hadn't planned on having a baby until a year later but during the pregnacy I really didn't comprehend that I was pregnant. I was in Germany with the military didn't know anyone. After I had my duaghter she was 2 months early and was 3.4 LBS. She stayed in the hospital for about a month then after that things were fine until her dad left Germany and I was basically alone. I started to get postpartum depression, I loved her very much I just didn't want to take care of her, and I was the only one working in my shop so if they needed me in the middle of the night I had to take her with. I then sent her back to the U.S. to live with my mom. I grew into an even bigger depression, I met some really cool people that helped me out of that depression. I then got into group threapy which is how I can tell my story and actually admit that I was depressed and had postpartum depression. I was away finishing my tour in Germany for a year and a half and now I am out of the military under a medical discharge for my back. I was reunited with my daughter and I love her so much and it is soooo much fun to take care of her and watch her grow. So if any of you new moms need to talk you can email me.
that is a hard one I have 2 girls one is 7 months and the other is 2 years and 2 months. It is hard to balance the 2 and my husband also. I suggest that you have him help you with his brother or something like that its what I did its a blessing and a curse cause my 2 year old now wants to help all the time with her sister and sometimes it makes things worse. find things theolder one like to do with his brother even if it is just asking him to bring you something for his brother like a blanket or a diaper. hope this helps. Candy
so my son is almost 2 months old. ive noticed that since i got pregnant my husband and i always fight. we planned the pregnancy and when he found out i was pregnant he was so happy. but after he got out of boot camp and we moved in our house, we always fight. we are already going through counseling, but from my point of view it hasnt gotten better at all. i think in his mind he still wants to be a kid (we are both 19). ive told him that i wish that sometimes to, but we have to accept our new life now and deal with it. i dont feel supported, i dont even feel like he acknowledges me half the time. my next step is a seperate counselor. after that i dont know what else to do. im at wits end. i know he loves me and our son, i just wish he would show it more.
get some marital counseling, maybe even counseling for yourself. Make sure getting breaks for yourself is a priority. I don't know if your stress is more related to your marraige, your 3 year old, or the combination of the two, but get help for your marraige, talk to a counselor who can help you find some balance in your life. 3 year olds are soooo hard to deal with. I know, I have a four year old. I also have a one year old. Children are a blessing, no doubt, but it sounds to me like you should hold off on having any more children until things get worked out in your marriage, if possible. I can tell you that I have a one year old also, and that people told me having 2 is easier as they entertain each other. Maybe sometimes, but overall it is alot harder. ALOT. That's my opinion. I don't know if you work or not, but if you are a stay at home mom you may try putting your 3 year old in a parents day out program which alot of churches offer 2 days per week, also, I work out at a local ymca which provides child care. The ymca figures your monthly fee based on your previous years adjusted gross income. Also, of course most churches provide child care during services. Hey, even with all of that help, I am still considering working part time.
Keep you head up. It is a hard thing to get used to being the sole of your attention for awhile and then you have a new baby so He isn't getting all your attention so just give it some time. Trust me i am totally stressed and I only have one child. I feel for you usually us moms want one and/or all of our children to feel the same amount of love and not have any of them feel left out....keep your head up I will be here to chat if you want.
I have a three year old and the whole time I was prego everyone told me be prepared they are a handfull and of course I was like
'Yea I know" but i really didn't now I have my hands so full I feel as though my head is going to blow right off my shoulders. I want so bad to know how to deal with this. I am 24 and this is my first child and I got married after I got pregnant and I am so scared that our (my husband and I) our problems are preventing me from being a better mom. It just makes my heart break to know that i may not be living up to my best as a mother.
I have a 2 month old who is the joy of my life. But I also have a 21 month who is the joy of my life also, but he is very jealous of his brother and does negative things to get my attention. When I am not spending time with my 2 month old I am spending time with my 21 month old , who does not want to spend time with me unless I am holding his brother. HELP
Candy