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Parents, this show is appointment television! Sexting, a scary new trend where teens send nude or semi-nude photos via cell phone, is popping up throughout the country. But what kids don't realize is that this seemingly innocent act could change their lives forever. Julia recently learned that her 13-year-old daughter texted a provocative photo of herself to a boy, and he forwarded it to his friends. The situation spiraled out of control and nearly ended in tragedy. Find out why Julia says she overreacted, and learn how to approach this situation if it strikes your family. Then, Dr. Phil talks one on one with the teen. Will his words give her a new outlook on the situation? Next, Ben, 14, was threatened with charges after sending a naked photo on his cell phone. Should teens be arrested for sexting? Attorney Lisa Bloom, In Session anchor and special correspondent for, shares her thoughts. You may be surprised to hear what she says. If you're a parent who wants to monitor your kid's cell phone and computer activity, don’t miss the newest ways to stay one step ahead of the trends. Join the discussion.

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Replied By: jrudolbeg on Aug 7, 2015, 5:33PM

Yesterday was my son's 13th birthday.  We promised him a phone.  He has been looking forward to this day literally for YEARS.  My husband and I went to the Verizon store to buy his phone and get him set up on Sunday (8/2). I spent 2 hours with the very helpful reps getting things set up including parental controls through their Family Base program. The guys in the Verizon store gave us their cards, insisted we call if there were any issues, and assured us they were here to help us in the future. The phone was then turned off, put in the box and wrapped.  The only people who had his new phone number were my husband and myself.  Four days later (8/6) my son unwrapped his much anticipated birthday present, turned on the phone for the first time and there were 5 text messages: one from each of his parents wishing him happy birthday, a setup message from Verizon, and two predatory texts.  The first predatory text beginning "hey bro" trying to sell him drugs and another with a link to access an account to request "funds."  I spent the rest of his birthday with his phone, back and forth with Verizon.  We called, left messages an texted the people at the Kenwood Verizon store to let them know what was going on, but we never heard back.  I got in touch with Verizon help over their Twitter and Facebook pages. First I was told that what I needed to do was to block the numbers that sent these texts. Then when I asked them about addressing the larger issue, they eventually gave him a new number.  Again, only his father and mother had this new number. This morning when I turned on his phone, with the brand new number, there was a new text message, this time sexual.  Now my 13 year old has been hit with drug, money and sex solicitations within 24 hours of turning on his new phone service through Verizon, on two different phone numbers, with their parental controls set up.  To make matters worse, I then answered a phone call on his new number asking for “randy” about a “personal business matter.” This feels beyond coincidence.  The odds of this happening have to be low, or maybe this is normal? Regardless, it’s a rude awakening about what can happen when kids get a new, recycled phone number or, maybe a warning that the numbers registered in Verizon’s Family Base program may have been compromised and the kids who are supposed to be protected by this are being targeted.
Replied By: knownothing on Apr 11, 2011, 10:36AM
I'm very interested to find out what to do.  I just discovered my thirteen year old doing this.  I was appalled and didn't know what to do or say.  I thought she knew better! I thought all our discussions regarding sexting previously were understood.  I recently read the book by David Walsh, "Why Do They Act That Way?" I can only hope that her front lobe is completely under construction and shortly the connections will make sense that this is totally wrong.  We had frank discussions with her about the moral, ethical, and legal implicatins of this, plus took away all technology (hopefully she doesn't use friends technology,) We made a counseling appointment with someone who is familiar with teenage sexting, and I also had her read two articles; one on the possible felony charges, the second about a girl in the New York Times who's picture went "viral."  I am currently waiting to talk with the school counselor to alert the school.  The scary part is the things I cannot control; one that the picture won't go "viral," second is that she won't do it again.  I guess I'm not doing my job if I don't do everything I possibly can to get her to understand her actions and protect her from future dangers of the electronic world.  She seems very remorseful and claims she will never do it again.  Well, for now no unsurpervised tecnhology until she shows us she can handle the responsibility of using the technology.  I'm just trying to figure out when that will be?
Replied By: kathyejar1 on Sep 27, 2009, 11:17AM
My grandson is 14.  He and his 15 yr. old sister live with me, his grandma/guradian, and my husband, his grandpa.  He has been depressed for a couple of days now and won't even get out of bed or talk to me about it at all.  He won't talk to his sister, grandpa or his uncle.  He is eating very little and is sleeping a lot.  Although he isn't talking to any of us, he is texting on his cell phone all during this and uses his cell phone for texting quite often.   This morning I considered taking him to a doctor at the emergency room, depression runs in my family and scare me to death, but instead I decided to take away his TV and cell phone.  I went through his cell phone to see if I could find out want the problem is and found a picture of his privates and a picture of the girl he's texting naked.  Now I'm in a quandry.  I want these pictures destroyed before it's too late, if it isn't already.  I also need to talk to him about the legal and moral aspect of this.  I also think the girl's mother should know aobut this, but I don't want to get this too far out of hand or cause them major embarassment.  I've considered going to the school counselor and letting him know the situation and let him talk to the mom - asking her to delete the pics from her daughter's phone and also let her know I'VE deleted the pics from my grandson's phone.  What do I do??  Does anyone have advice.  Also, I thought I'd ask the counselor to find someone to do an assembly on sexting and let them know about the young girl who committed suicide over this.  Any advice is welcome.  Thanks!
Replied By: manofgoods on Jul 23, 2009, 10:39AM - In reply to luvrules
Well said! We feel that we're the only ones that aren't bashing girls & women like Britney out there. I just think that Britney made a very bad decision in her part, but for her so-called "boyfriend" to just send it out to a lot of people was just wrong. If a woman were to send me a naked pic of herself to me, then that's only for me to view & for me only, nobody else (not even another woman!). If I were to do like those boys did, then I wouldn't be a true friend to her, now would I? I would just either keep it to myself, or to delete the photo. I'm all about respecting their wishes & not by violating them. Girls & women like her just have to be careful...know who your real, true friends (or boyfriends) are!

Plus those of you that are condoning of what the boys did should take a good look at yourselves in the mirror. I know that many of you think that boys shouldn't be in trouble with the law or something else over this, but I just like to think of that as karma. You try to ruin lives like that & use girls & women like her, & I think that you deserve to be put in that position. Most of them only think with their you-know-what, instead of their brains. It's a good thing that there are a few men like myself who aren't like them.

Replied By: angelswngs on Apr 24, 2009, 3:34PM
So, now its finally made the news headlines and Oprah today and  Dr Phil is going to do a show on the 27th - I'll be watching Dr Phil!

But its already happened to millions of families now, and fiancees who have found their spouses and loved ones using Craiglist for "erotic services." I myself had once been engaged to a man who turned to be using prostitution rings off Craiglist and was a murder suspect in the death of a child and I also lost my young niece to an online prositution ring working off Craiglist who cotracted HIV. How many victims does there need to be before we start policing this? CRAIGLIST'S OWNER NEEDS TO STAND UP ANSWER FOR WHAT HE'S TRAFFICKING ON HIS SITE.

DR PHIL why are so many men who are in relationships already  falling prey to prostitution and objecification and corruption of young girls and women online?  I mean right before their weddings? THIS IS AN EPIDEMIC, and its touching all of us now, what can we do???

Where are all the good men dead, in the heart or in the head? What is happning to men to make it OK to use and objectify so many women in pornography (now mainstream and widely accepted as no big deal) and in prostitution??????
Replied By: jcs89115 on Apr 23, 2009, 12:52PM
I know it has been awhile since this show aired but I felt compelled to write this.  My words are meant for Julia's Daughter, Brittany.  We all make poor decisions and trust me I have made my fair share.  I have done things just to please a man only to realize in the end he left me anyway.  I am 34 now and I realize that no matter what I do I cannot make a man stay even if I do dignified acts just to please him.  If a guy really loves you he will never ask you to do something that is demeaning.  In ten years this will be small potatoes.  You are a bright and beautiful young lady who fell victim to the pressures of society to be sexy.  I think too many times the pressure is on us ladies to be and act in a manner less than who we are just to have a boy validate us.  Know one thing you are not alone in the world of women who have done really stupid things to get the attention of a young man.  I do hope the best for you and know that we as women are rooting for your recovery to get past this.  Time heals all wounds if you let it.  Take care and god bless--
Replied By: worriedmom9 on Apr 20, 2009, 8:17PM - In reply to educat6mid
What do you mean noone is saying children don't need cell phones?  My post is the one just before yours and I thought I said it very clear.  I agree that they don't belong in schools.  I have a son in middle school and there is no way he will have a phone at school.  He just wants one because he thinks it looks cool, not because of any need and I believe that is the case with the rest of them.  I wish the administration would just ban them from the schools.  If teachers hate them so much and have such a problem with them then why can't you get the School Board to ban them altogether?  Then everyone would have to follow the rules.  One of our high schools has given up trying to fight the problem.  Now they are actually working texting lingo into the curriculum.  Yeah, that helps. 
Replied By: educat6mid on Apr 20, 2009, 3:33PM
Regarding the show about teenagers "sexting"
There is such an easy solution to this problem-yet I do not hear anyone saying it!
Children do not need cell phones with cameras and texting!!!!
I work in a middle school-these kids have nicer phones than I do!
Take away the fancy phones-schools should only allow a basic phone to call home if needed and kept in their locker!
Please help teachers do their job of teaching. It is not our job to police cell phones!

Replied By: worriedmom9 on Apr 20, 2009, 10:53AM
This is nuts!!! Why is this girl a victim and the boy is being treated as a criminal? Didn't she send him a pornographic picture of herself? What do people expect him to do with it? Why is what this boy did any different than any boy who has taken Dad's Playboy and showed it to all of his friends? That is what they do! I'm not saying he did the right thing, I'm saying he did the NORMAL thing. That is not a crime! There was nothing in the story that said he made her do it. He didn't say "if you love me, you will". She did this on her own. Parents need to take away this technology. They shouldn't have cell phones, let alone picture phones. Who needs it. We have one extra cell phone that my kids will take when they are going somewhere and they may need to get ahold of me or visa versa. It is not a camera phone and guess what, it works just fine. Where did common sense go?
Replied By: apollo33 on Apr 18, 2009, 10:36PM - In reply to davewriter
Davewriter, do you also join pyramid schemes, send $1000 to Nigerians that email you promising huge returns, and click on banner ads that say "you won!" ??
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