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on Jul 7, 2011, 12:38AM
agreed...that stress..is the part of life... for this you can use KFC recipe...
Mental health issues
on Oct 12, 2010, 9:41AM -
In reply to kylemans
In regards to Kylemans message dated 8/8/10. I am going through the same thing with my son who is age 24, still living with me. He has suffered from mental problems for as long as I can remember. From one Dr. to another. It seems to be getting worst instead of better. I can't keep him on meds, he will take them for awhile and then he stops. I am divorced from his father, not my sons fault, and everytime i meet someone they can't take his moods. Which here recently have become sometimes violent. I recently met the greatest guy who likes my son, we both have known him for years, he's ready to walk also.I am almost fifty years old and I have no life other then my son. He has tried suicide, once almost succeeding. I'm scared to go to work some days, not knowing what I will come home to. He can not hold down a job and sometimes we will go days without him even speaking to me in the same house. I am lost as to what or if this young man will ever find his true being. He can be a very loving and compassionate person. It is hard to see him when he is angry at the world and losing his battle for a good life . Thanks for listening.
Living with Mental disabilities
on Aug 8, 2010, 7:56PM
I have suffered with depression my whole life. Of course, I didn't know what it was when I was little, all I knew was that I was very sad. Over time,I figured out how to hide how I really felt by never showing it to others. I never thought I'd live to be 25, let alone 49. After an atempted suicide and spending 5 days on an in-patient floor of a hospital. I learned that until you walk a mile in my shoes, don't try and tell me that if you work hard enough you can get over this. Unfortunatly, I have been in-patient five times from (2006-2009). I have also done a Partical Hospital program three times.
I have learned the 5 steps coping, negative thinking, low self-esteam, health, and Spirituality. Of the five Spirituality is the only one I am able to actually do. I am good at giving others advice at what they should do, but for some reason can't apply them to my own life.
When people or atleast for me atempts suicide I have no control of what I am doing. It is like having tunnel vision. You don't think of anyone or how it will effect them,. all I know is that my mind is on a mission and nothing is going to stop it.
I also suffer from OCD, PTSD, Anxiety and panic attacks. So I can be easily triggered by things or what people might say. I haven't been to a movie in 4 years, going to the store is an adventure, there is only so much time I can be in there before the panic attack starts. So people need to try and stay out of my way.
I would love to find the answer on how to live with this. I have been on almost every med there is, but I have a very high tolerance for the meds. At 5ft 5 and a half I weigh about 95 pounds and yet can tolerate triple the amount that men twice my size can handle.
I guess in all of this I hate that people say times are hard but we can make it through this. That we are worthy for the things we need or want, because it just isn't true.
Best coping technique for anxiety and stress
on Feb 4, 2010, 9:52AM
Counter your thoughts in TEA forms the cbt exercise in the book by Sam Obitz on overcoming a dysfunctional past. All you need is a pen and paper and they are pretty easy and work great. After a while you don't even need to do them much because they change how you think and react so things don't bother you so much.
I need your help Dr. Phil,
on Oct 25, 2009, 3:09PM
This is more than a stress disorder, or a sleep issue. I need the help of an expert in the form of an exorcism. A demon is trying to control my soul and well being. This has been going on for more that 4 years, and I have had a few hands on healings and it still persist. I know that Sylvia Brown and Montel Williams are aware of these kinds of things.
If you could please help me I would be most grateful. My life is at stake. I have even tried to kill myself because of this demon. The things that happen to me hurt, and the things I see are terrible. Please get back with me, or recomend someone to me.
I am a women of sound mind and great courage, and am single, loving, and kind. I want my body back completely. I have colors in my eyes that do not belong to me. I have even been sexual molested by this thing. Nobody should live like this.
Alone and scared in Nevada
Seizures can be caused by many different sources.
on Oct 16, 2009, 10:10PM -
In reply to fatznc
Don't worry excessively about seizures, they can be caused by a lot of different sources. Trauma from a previous accident can be the source, withdrawls from medications can also cause it as well. If previous MRI's and CTs are negative, the a brain tumor can be ruled out. I suffer from anxiety attacks, and I am taking Paxil to minimize them. I haven't heard of anxiety attacks as the source of seizures, but in general seizures are caused by a lack of Oxygen to the brain. As we age, the chemical and electrical components of a brain cells change. Seizures can be controlled by medications, and at the same time certain medications may induce seizures. You need to be on prescribed seizure medication constantly to control them. Also alcohol withdrawls can cause seizures. Usually if you take more than 4 different medications, then you are a high risk for seizures, and it could by the cause of them. I would recommend a nuerologist if you don't already have one. Change doctors get a second and third opinion to try to pinpoint what is the likely culprit is ... and good luck.
Unemployment stress is getting to me
on Oct 16, 2009, 1:09PM
I am able to get relief if I think about something else, but then the worries come back - a panic attack in the middle of the night, fear during the day.
I have been unemployed for more than 10 months. I have a verbal job offer with stimulus money but the employer still hasn;t heard from the federal government. They are very late I worry what will happen if the government says no to the employer.
I have applied to about 200 jobs so far. Still no job. I had a couple of interviews, but I am 58 and other applicants are much younger and are preferred. Most of the jobs in my field have been outsourced and the H1-Bs are coming here in a steady stream taking away jobs that would otherwise give to Americans. They are driving down the wages below what is acceptable to an American.
I have good contacts in companies and with recruiters from agencies, but that doesn;t help when there are no jobs.
I spoke to an agency about temporary office work, but they are getting only two requisitions per *week* and we are in a major metropolitan area. The state cut back services because of the loss of tax revenues so some of the tempoary jobs that arise - tutoring, etc. - are nonexistent.
I don't know what to do if the government doesn't start a public works program that people can sign up for. I am not able to do physical labor or stand up for long periods of time. I once tried to do filing for an audit and I had to be sent home after three hours because I got dizzy and almost fainted from bending over and lifting the piles of files on an off the cart.
I called the tax preparation company to ask about seasonal work, but they said they lost so much money last year they are not hiring.
The problem isn't relieving the stress, it is solving the problem and making a career and life for myself.
The other problem is that because I have had temporary jobs and experienced layoffs in the recession, now some employers are rejecting me because I had too many job changes - even though I had done nothing wrong and performed well on the job. So it is a vicious cycle. There are a lot of platitudes out there in the advice for job seekers, but I have to face the reality and not the platitudes.
I am trying to work on my long-unfinished advanced degree and that alleviates stress but still the next morning after working on school and on job applications, I wake up and another day - I am still unemployed and I do not see a clear path to a j.o.b.
Anxiety attacks or seizures?
on Oct 15, 2009, 7:33AM
Does anyone know if an anxiety attack can look like a seizure to a normal person?
I have had about 10 seizures in the past 2+ yrs. I have been to the Dr. including neurologist and emergency room and stayed in the hospital overnight. I have had MRIs and EEGs which came back with negative results.
At the time of the seizures I was under a lot of stress from close family members dieing including watching my mother die of cancer. And my job.
Any response will be appreciated.
Acceptance is the key - A powerful method
on Oct 11, 2009, 3:30AM
I've tried so many different type of self-help ideas over the years but quite recently I had a very simple idea pop into my head that would prove to be more powerful to me than all other techniques I have tried previously and I just wanted to share it because it might actually help other people feel better also.
I'm not a doctor so if you try this out you are responsible for your own wellbeing.
How I do it:
Whenever I feel any type of negative emotion in my body, whether it’s small or big, I try to understand what it is that my ego is afraid of and can’t accept. Then when I believe I have a grasp of what it could be I simply make up the worst possible scenario regarding whatever it is I’m fearing or resisting at the moment that would scare me the most or give me the most pain and accept that the very positive opposite of that might not happen.
Then I repeat that to myself while focusing on the negative emotion in my body.
I think the best way to explain this is to give an example:
Let’s say I fear losing my partner. I would then say to myself over and over in my head while focusing on the emotion in my body:
”Perhaps I will not be with my partner for the rest of my life…”
”Perhaps I will not be happy with my partner forever…”
”Perhaps I will not always be loved by my partner…”
…and so on.
I would say those lines, and all others I could think of regarding the topic in the same fashion, over and over until I felt a shift inside where I’d feel calmer, more relaxed and accepting that whatever happens happens and I don’t have to concern myself with things in the past that I can’t change and things in the future that I can’t control.
Hopefully this will help more people than me cope with unwanted emotional discomfort and stress.
Peace to all
Coping with Stress
on Sep 1, 2009, 9:41PM
I spent many years trying to be everyone's savior and pushing myself to the limit! I was working full time, going to school 2 nights a week, mentoring teens 1 hour away, volunteering at a prison 1 hour away, trying to date and spend time with family and friends. I thought I was dealing with it all well because in reality I can handle alot in life, however I believe I pushed myself too far. My heart rhythm went out of control last Thanksgiving and I experienced Cardiac Arrest several times and by some miracle survived! After a week in the hospital my health checked out GOOD and I was never given a reason. They wouldn't release me without protection so a defibrillator was implanted. After much research I've come to my own conclusion that strong emotions and stress caused my episodes. I had anxiety for 2 months after my hospital stay but fortunately got over that and moved on with my life. As Dr. Phil mentioned on tonights show, I had to learn to put myself first and take care of me and life has been pretty stress free in 2009. I don't let small things stress me and I don't overwhelm myself trying to be super woman. I've learned to say no to people and situations and learned to relax more. When I feel overwhelmed I take deep breathes and sometimes take bubble baths with slow music and candles. All these things really help and I feel in total control of my life. Mainly as Dr. Phil said today, one must eliminate stress such as avoiding negative people and situations and remember it's ok to say NO and put yourself first. Good Luck to everyone. I know you can do it. Please live a long happy life :-)
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