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Replied By: motherincrisis on Apr 29, 2015, 8:07PM - In reply to motherincrisis
Today we admitted our son to a teen rehab center.  It was the best decision we could have ever made.  It was something we contemplated for 1.5 years.  No one knows what it is like to experience this unless they have gone through it themselves.  If anyone out there is contemplating this for their child, have faith that if you think it is the right thing for your child it probably is. Have the courage to do it for them and for yourself.
 
Replied By: cgabriela1209 on Apr 21, 2015, 7:07PM
Hi everyone one, my boyfriend is 28 years old and has an addiction to herion. Iv known him for about ten years but been together for almost two years I didn't know about his addiction until 5 months into our relationship. He's tried to get help twice now, first time he was in the hospital for a day and he discharge himself out that was back in January then again in June but that time he stayed there for a week he was so positive and really wanted to stay clean told me he would go to group meetings but nothing he stayed cleans for a few months I was really happy to have the old him back he was more involved with the kids ( not his but treats them like his own) and wanted to do more things as a family I was happy he was doing good. About a two months ago I notice he was acting weird being distance falling asleep all the time he didn't want to do things with the family anymore always just wanted to sleep. We were arguing more,I knew something was up I would go threw his phone his clothes his car while he was sleeping and never found anything I thought maybe I was over thinking things then when I would do laundry I would find rolled up dollars with powder and I knew I would ask a him and he would just deny it and I told him I'm not stupid I know your using again when your ready I'm here to help. But the other day just threw me over the edge my daughter who is a year and a half was in the laundry room and came out with bags of herion and I lost it I couldn't believe it and he just denied it that there werent his and he grabbed the bags and went into the laundry room with them and I followed him and I told him to flush them down the toilet well he "lost" them he said he was in shock and didn't know where he put them I knew that was a lie. I am so lost and been really emotional the past few days I haven't spoken to him since it happened and its awkward because we live together I always think the worst and when that happen I thought what if my daughter put a bag in her mouth and something happened to her. Besides the drugs he is a good guy he has a job and works really hard he has a family that loves him but he's just spends all his money on drugs and is always complaining how he's always broken I hide my money because I know he would steel money from my purse. I'm just so lost idk what to do.
 
Replied By: emmaface on Apr 20, 2015, 11:37AM
My son is 26 and has been using drugs for several years. I do enable him and I know it. He lies so well I either  believe him or I want to believe him. He tells me money is for something that makes sense or he needs and it turns out he uses it for drugs. If I don't give him the money he steals it from me or pawns my things to get the money for drugs. This is something you read about but never think it could happen to you. He is the youngest of 5 children and nothing like this  ever happened to the other 4. I am behind on all of my bills, the car he was driving when arrested for drugs was impounded and about to be repossessed. I still owe $20,000 on the car. I am about to be sued for the impound fees. He knows all of this yet constantly hounds me for money. He says he can't work because he will fail the drug test, so he has lots of time on his hands and no money coming in.  I feel like my life will never get any better. He has been to rehab 5 times. He always is better the first week he comes home, but then he relapses. His Dad was MIA for years and died recently, so I have been handling this on my own. His siblings are done with all of this they say. They want me to kick him out. I told him after his courts dates are over next week that he needs to move out. I have told him to go  before, but he won't leave. I am so depressed and feel trapped. What can we do?
 
Replied By: motherincrisis on Apr 18, 2015, 1:27PM - In reply to undonenohope
I am going through the same thing with my son.  Marijuana is ruining the lives of many adults but the new victims are the kids.  I cannot find the right help for my son and us parents are left to deal with this very difficult situation.  People do not take you seriously until they are addicted to heavier drugs.  Pot is cheap and most kids can get it for free at school.  It is a huge problem.  The schools, police, etc. look the otherway. I was told by the school that school fights were a bigger priorty for them.  I question myself as a mother and feel guilty that I should have prevented my son from going down this path.  Even though no one in our family smokes.  I find it is an issue too big and no one wants to do anything about it.  Legalizing it has just made everything worse.
 
Replied By: motherincrisis on Apr 18, 2015, 1:10PM
I sit here with tears running down my face, listening to my 10 year old and friends playing in the pool while wondering where my 16 year old slept last night. How is it that my life has spun out of control and all my hopes and dreams feel so far out of reach. This is not the life I imagined.

I am the mother of 2 beautiful boys. Unfortunately one is addicted to smoking pot.  We have been struggling with this issue with our son for almost 2 years. I have him seeing a family therapist and a drug addiction counselor. Recently he saw a psychiatrist who prescribed him with Prozac. I have contacted a few drug addiction clinics for teenagers and their first question is "what kind of insurance" I have and then the follow up response is "all 16 year old kids smoke pot". The majority think I'm exaggerating and expecting too much from my son. Why is it that no one cares enough to help?  Why am I being told to let my son grow out of this?  Smoking pot has become normal in today's society and I cannot accept that I am the only mother that thinks this is wrong.

My son is throwing away all potential in his life. He has started stealing to get money. He smokes on a daily basis. He obtains it at school which is where it all started and he currently has Cs, Ds and Fs with his last 2 year average 2.0 (as required for football).

I feel like I have lost my son. We were so close. Through family sessions I came to understand that I was codependent on him. As crazy as that sounds to me, I will admit I had/have the classic signs. I just thought I was loving my son and wanting the best for him.

My husband and I have become closer through this crisis that is affecting our family. We also came to realize that not everyone thinks this is a big deal. We are trying to keep this issue as private as possible.

Our 16 year old is now using our 10 year old as an excuse to leave the house. He invites him to play at the park with him. We now fear that our 10 year old is at risk by the hands of his own brother.

If you were to look at our family from the outside, you would think it is perfect. However it is so far from the truth.

There is obviously a lot more that is happening but this is a quick summary. There is the process of how I reached this point of not knowing where my own son is even though he still lives at home.

I believe that my only option now is to find the right clinic that will take my son. But....will it help?  He is convinced that his life is not being altered by his decisions. He will debate with you for hours as he feels very passionate about this subject. If the clinics don't think smoking pot is a big deal, how will they actually help?

Am I an overbearing mother or do I have reason to be concerned for both of my boys? 

 
Replied By: tylerusmp on Apr 6, 2015, 1:42PM - In reply to redrum844
hi well im sorry to hear about your son with herion addiction. i currently live in texas due to the military but i lived on long island my whole life. if you are aware of the addiction to herion on long island it is no joke. i have lost more friends over the past few years then i can even imagen. i personally was addicted to roxys blues whatever you want to call it and in new york at least, thats what you start with before herion. i was in alot of trouble abck home and got into it with some bad bad people and when court came around so did the drugs. i used and spent money did stuff for money that i would never talk about not even to my wife. then one day i was beyond high i had a friend who asked if i can take her to the army recruiting office...well after that my life changed i have become a military police officer, ben clean 2 years and im telling you i was bad it was beyond bad but im ok now. i would have him talk to recruter personally.
 
Replied By: hollishirley7 on Apr 3, 2015, 9:57AM
Watched intervention saving jamie. What Brandon is doing is amazing. I'm 45 and was addicted to meth for 12 years. I've been clean for 2 1/2 years. I quit on my own with the grace of God. It was like  looking in the mirror watching the anger in Jamie. Hard to watch. Everyday I get up I will be a recovering drug addict and that's OK because that means I not an addict anymore. There's real hope in the battle of addiction. And there are success stories everyday. I am trying to find ways to use my mistakes to help benefit other people going thru the same struggles I went thru. I don't know where God will take me but I know we r headed somewhere to do some good. Thank u Brandon for giving me that extra reminder that I need to try and help others. I've been so ashamed and didn't want anyone to know my past due to fear of being judged. Not anymore. Im.moving forward. Again thanks for the push.
 
Replied By: scottygirllynn on Mar 28, 2015, 9:13AM - In reply to redrum844
My heart goes out to you! My daughter is now 29 and has been useing the needle for 6 or 7 years now and my life is not my own any more! She has now been stealing  every thing out of the house which I never thought she would do! I don't know who this person is any more used my bank cards credit cards by takeing out  of my purse while I'm sleeping ! I have never thrown her out because  shes my daughter and Detroit mich is a hour away that's where she gets her dope! She's getting out of rehab for the  third or fourth time next week but this time she's going to a three quarter house close to Detroit which scares me! But it's hard at times to remember I'm a Christian woman through this and let go and let God!  I pray for you and your family and yes I've heard bad aNd good endings and I'm praying for the good!  Good luck God Bless
 
Replied By: undonenohope on Mar 18, 2015, 11:57AM - In reply to undonenohope
I see by reading all the enrties that I am not alone with trying to get help for a loved one.. I often wonder how Dr. Phil selects the individuals for his show and how does he decide who gets help and who doesn't. Most of us cannot afford the types of treatment centers he sends addicts to. If we could we would have been there and not on here begging for help.   None of us want to lose our loved ones... I feel like the door has been closed in my face. I have written for 3 years to ask for help. I'm sure the rest of you have attempted also. We all are different but we are all experiencing genuine grief for someone we love so much.  Theres an old sayings that money cannot buy happiness but if I or my extended family had money we could send our loved ones to the treatment prorgrams that apparently work...I want my grandson to live...
 
Replied By: undonenohope on Mar 18, 2015, 11:42AM
I have a 19 year old grandson..been thru treatment x2 attempted suicide x2 used meth.molly,spice. Now claims only pot. I never knew pot would creat such a monster..  Violent outbursts that he can not control. dropped out of school at 10th grade. only friends are those who provide him with pot. Has juvenile temper tantrums when unable to get pot. Mom has kicked him out, I have kicked him out biological father disowned him at age 6, adopted father disowned him when he divorced his mother. Thinks selling drugs would be a good career..totally uncontrollable. States he will NEVER stop using pot because its the only thing that calms him down. Great manipulator.. If he doesn't kill himself someone else will....has high IQ but will not apply his intelligence to anything meaningful. Dope Dope Dope... I can't stand this anymore. I love him but he won't go back to treatment and he is slowly dying..Weighs only about 120 ..Where can I get help?  We run thru everyone and every program possible in this area....   HELP
 
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