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Replied By: shelmo0821 on Jul 27, 2014, 5:07PM
I have a teenage son who is handsome, smart, respectful (to other people) and I love him very much but I am afraid for him.  He has been smoking pot (not sure of anything else) and it is getting out of hand.  He lies to my face, he is disengaged with his family and now has a terrible temper. I don't think there is ever a day that there is not pot in his system. I my self have never smoked it so I do have a few questions. Is pot addictive? can it alter your personality? I have tried everything to get him to stop.  Just this past weekend I clubbed his car and his father came and took it away because he is not respecting the rules of my house.  Of course it is all my fault for him freaking out and throwing things and punching holes in the wall but I will not back down.  I DO NOT want my son smoking drugs of any kind and I need to respect me and the rules of my home.  I am thinking of rehab but do not know where to turn. Can you or anyone help me?
 
Replied By: tonysr53 on Jul 27, 2014, 9:23AM
I AM WRITING THIS MESSAGE TO WHO EVER CAN HELP

THIS LETTER I AM POSTING HERE I HAVE BEEN SENDING TO DR. PHIL AND ROBIN FOR THE HOLE MONTH OF JULY SO FAR NO REPLY I HOPE SOMEBODY CAN HELP BEFORE ITS TO LATE I HAVE TRYED EVERYTHING I KNOW TO HELP MY WIFE HOPE SOME
DEAR DR. PHIL
YOU TALK ABOUT FAMILY I HAVE WRITTEN TO YOU A NUMBER OF TIMES ABOUT MY FAMILY WE NEED YOUR HELP JUST LIKE THESE OTHER FAMILY'S I NEED YOUR HELP I WANT MY FAMILY BACK BEFORE ITS TO LATE AND I WILL NEVER GET THEM BACK TOGETHER AGAIN.
 
IT STARTED YEARS AGO WHEN WE GOT MARRIED MY WIFE IS A VERY JOULES PERSON I PUT UP WITH IT BECAUSE I LOVED HER I WAS LIKE A ROBOT IN MY LIFE WITH HER  BUT I LOVED HER VERY MUCH. WE HAD CHILDREN TONY AND MELINDA SHE USED THE KIDS  TELL THEM I WAS A BAD FATHER I LIVED LIKE THIS FOR YEARS BECAUSE I LOVED MY FAMILY. NOW THE FUTURE.
 
MY WIFE HAD A BAD CAR ACCIDENT WHICH SHE HAD BACK SERGEY DOCTOR PUT HER ON OXYCODONE , OXYCOTTEN FOR 8 YEARS NOW HER ADDICTION TO THIS HAS BROKEN THE FAMILY APART. IT ALL STARTED WHEN SHE GOT HER SENTIMENT OF 450 THOUSAND DOLLARS SHE STARTED FIGHTING WITH ME .SHE WANT OUT AND BROUGHT A HOUSE WITH THE MONEY WE ALREADY HAD ONE SO I WENT WITH HER BUT SHE DIDN'T WANT ME THERE SO SHE CALLED TH POLICE WHEN I WAS AT THE OLD HOUSE AND TOLD THEM I WAS GOING TO KILL HER. I WAS PUT OUT OF THE HOUSE. WENT TO FAMILY COURT 4 TIMES PUT ON PROBATION UNTIL JUNE OF THIS YEAR. WHEN SHE COULD NOT TALK TO ME SHE STARTED ON MY DAUGHTER MAKING HER CHOOSE BETWEEN HER OR ME MY DAUGHTER DIDN'T WANT TO CHOOSE SO SHE TOLD HER SHE WAS NOT GETTING ANY MONEY FROM HER . SHE NEVER SEE HER GRANDCHIRLEN MISSED GOING TO THERE BIRTHDAYS.FIGHTS WITH HER DAUGHTER EVERY DAY MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL 7 OR 8 TIMES WITH MIGRAINES HEADACHES VERY BAD ONES MY WIFE'S ANSWER TO THAT SHE SHOULDN'T TAKE SIDES. I COULD NEVER PLAY OR HAVE FUN WITH MY GRANDKIDS NOW I SEE THEM EVER DAY I CAN I LOVE THEM.
MY SON IS A NETHER STORY I LOVE HIM BUT I HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM HE BET UP HIS SISTER ONE DAY RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER AND MY GRANDDAUGHTER AND HIS MOTHER LIED FOR HIM IN FRONT OF THE POLICE AGENTS MY DAUGHTER ALSO HE GOT IN TROUBLE WHEN HE WAS IN THE COASTGUARD WE HAD TO GET HIM A LAWYER WHICH WE HAD TO REFINANCE THE HOUSE THE LAWYER COST 27,000.THOUSAND DOLLARS HE IS NOW A LEVEL 1 SEX OFFENDER NEVER IS GOING TO PAY BACK THE MONEY WHICH HE SAID HE WOULD IN JAIL. STUCK ME WITH 18 THOUSAND  DOLLARS OF COLLAGE LOANS I SIGN FOR. I AM GOING THROUGH A DORMICE NOW WHICH I DON'T WANT BECAUSE I KNOW IF MY WIFE CAN GET HELP WE CAN BE A FAMILY. I NEVER CHEATED ON MY WIFE BUT IN HER EYES I HAVE . I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A POLYGRAPH TEST TO PROVE TO HER BEFORE WE PART????? HOPE NOT WITH YOUR HELP I CANT AFFORD ONE RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I LOST MY MAIN JOB MAKING 60 THOUSAND DOLLARS A YEAR NOW I AM MAKING 9.00 DOLLARS A HOUR. READY TO LOSE MY HOUSE AND EVERYTHING I AM TRYING TO MAKE ENDS MEET. I CAN GO ON AND ON BUT ALL I AM ASKING IS YOUR HELP YOU ALWAYS TALK ABOUT FAMILY WELL MY FAMILY NEEDS YOU I HOPE YOU WILL SEE WE NEED YOUR HELP I LOVE MY FAMILY AND WANT US BACK TOGETHER AGAIN. PLEASE DR. PHIL HELP ME MAKE THIS COME TRUE
 
 

oldmantony@frontiernet.net
 
thank you I hope you can help
 
BODY CAN HELP
 
Replied By: csummers9 on Jul 27, 2014, 8:07AM
Guess what Dr. Phil, not everyone can afford "la Hacienda."
 
Replied By: theecontessa on Jul 25, 2014, 7:49PM - In reply to abonkows
Where in Ohio did you go?
 
Replied By: theecontessa on Jul 25, 2014, 7:36PM - In reply to greenidlady
Don't give up. Contact your children, grandchildren. Maybe seeing them again can give you a reason to hold on, it's never too late. Start with a small change and work from there. You've already realized you have a problem, that truly is the first step! Keep going! I would give anything for mom to realize she has an addiction. If you don't want to do it for you, do it for them. Heck, do it for me... I could use some of my own advice, hope.
 
Replied By: greenidlady on Jul 15, 2014, 4:21PM


I have reached the end of my rope, and there is no way I would share this with family or friends.  i have not seen my grand children in 8-1/2 years.  My little Issabelle was 6 weeks old when I last touched her, held her, and loved her the way a grandma should.  I have not seen my my family, siblings since my mothers passing in 1998.  I'm not addicted to drugs, or alcohol, I would perhaps be better off if I were addicted to a substance that I could gain help for.  Instead, I am addicted to a horrible diet of fast foods, sugary snacks, and sugary drinks. I weigh 400 lbs, and at almost 58 years of age, I have come to the realization of "this is my life", what's left of it.  I feel as though I am committing suicide with a dull knife, a slow painful death.  Ashamed and embarrassed does not begin to describe how I feel, I hate myself, I truly do.  I have heard it all, "you have such a pretty face", in other words, if you could just get ride of that body.  I'm too heavy for weight watchers scales, what more can I say.  I swallowed my pride and went to visit a gym, and while I was waiting for assistance, I had to step aside and sit down.  The two young ladies working assumed I'd left, they did not see I was still there, when the one said, "if I was her age and that big, I'd give up, holy cow".  Then they both laughed.  I waited until they walked away, and I left.  I cannot go on living like this, literally.  I feel myself heading downhill daily.  I can't believe I was once a healthy, and very active young woman.  Now, there is nothing left for me other than the thing that is slowly killing me, unhealthy eating.  If you are young, and reading this, and are overweight, I beg you, get help before


You our end up up like me, and it's just too late and you are too old.  It's not easy to say I give up.
 
Replied By: lonelyprincess on Jun 26, 2014, 5:35PM
I am 43. Attractive and so lonely in my marriage,  I just want to run away. After being rejected so many times I have lost count.  I am now in this state of "I don't care".


My husband doesn't get it. I know he looks at porn. He would rather masturbate than put effort in with me. When we have sex. Few times a month....it is so disconnected that I may as well be with a stranger. 


There is NO intimacy.  Lasts 10 minutes at best. There is no foreplay. So bored and lonely. Other men are looking more and more attractive. It is killing me. 

Helppppp!!!!!  Need advice.

 
Replied By: rmartz on Jun 21, 2014, 10:52PM
My son is 38. He has been married twice, has 2 sons who he doesn't support and he's violent, a drug addict and a thief. He seems to have NO conscience at ALL. He wasn't raised that way. I noticed when he was little that he liked to lie all the time. About silly stuff. I told him the story of the boy who cried wolf all the time. Constanly! I sat him down and talked to him about it, I tried all manner of bribes and punishment, (Not beating him or anything like that!) Not even if I took things away did it help. I think there's something really wrong with his mind! I let him stay with me last year all winter and we talked for HOURS about HIM and I tried my best to help him in any way I could think of. I then made him leave because it just wasn't working out and it wasn't helping either one of us. He left with his girlfriend and I didn't even hear from him for almost a whole year. Then here he comes. He looked like he was starving. He was SO skinny and pale, he looked like a refugee!  Against my better judgement, I let him stay in  my house. I was gone for a few days and that"s when he stole my art and dug through every single drawer and cupboard in my house. Even my BEDROOM!  I called the sheriff  and he told me he couldn't do anything about it because I welcomed him into my house. Suddenly he left and I haven't seen him since. The sheriff did come to my house looking for him. For something else.  I am so afraid he's going to end up dead somewhere and I won't even know it. I'm afraid the sheriff is going to come to my house and tell me he killed someone or that they found him dead somewhere.  It's awful. I can't afford to put him into rehab. I'm on dissability because I broke my neck in an accident  (I was misdiagnosed with a sprained neck and didn't get fixed till 6 months after. LONG awful story there!) and now I can't work. I can't turn my head and I suffer from dibilitating headaches. I don't know what to do. His Dad died in 2008 from an accidental methadone overdose, which was a nightmare. I don't have any resources to help any of my children. I wish someone could help my son.
 
Replied By: rmartz on Jun 21, 2014, 10:34PM - In reply to skpence
Dear Mom, I do know what you're going through except that MY son hasn't YET ended up in an accident quite like that of your son. My son HAS had several accidents, one in the state of Washington where he pulled out in front of a speeding Highway Patrol and was broadsided. He had a huge gash in the back of his head and the cop had a gash in his head. BAD wreck, he totalled his car. But he walked away. This was several years ago. He's almost 40 now and I am so afraid he will end up dead. He's doing meth and I can't have him in my house because the last time he was here he stole my art off my walls and pawned them along with someones lawn mower. We all had to go buy our own stuff back from the pawn shop. I didn't know that a month before this, he had assaulted his girlfriend and was fined almost $1000. and more than a year in jail, but served 3 days. He WILL sit in jail for a year if they catch him because he won/t be able to pay that. The worst part was him beating up that poor girl. It makes a Mom feel just horrible. I think I wish he'd get thrown in jail because at least he'll dry out in there. I think. I don't think it would be very much fun because they don't care if prisoners are detoxing! I'm sorry for your family. I will pray for you.
 
Replied By: skpence on Jun 8, 2014, 7:02AM
 
I am not sure who to contact but My son needs a drug intervention. I am a desperate mother trying to keep my son alive. He was in a tragic car accident at 19, 3 years ago. He hit a car hed on. I thank God everyday he did not kill the other young driver or seriously injure her. He was taking pills and drinking. He went into the hospital with a aortic dissection life saving surgery. He then had to stay 4 months in the hospital, 5 weeks in ICU. He went from 178 to 100 pounds. He already had issues with addiction while in the hospital he was given morphine, dilta, and oxytocin to say a few. He went to pain management since he will have chronic pain for the rest of his life. He was kicked out for trading prescribed pills for other pills. He now uses heroin, takes fentanyl patches and snorts or places then on his gums. If he can’t get that he abuses nose inhalers. benzedrex. I would do anything to save my son. His brain has been high jacked from these awful drugs. He is a wonderful person he just has an awful disease. He has so much worth. Every day I wonder if this will be the day I get the phone call he overdosed. His Dad found him overdosed & not breathing & had to do CPR. He was in the hospital for 5 days. A minster found him in Feb 2014 facedown in the snow. He called 911 & saved my sons life. He later baptized him. I have no tools and no means of getting my son the help he needs because I am talking to the drug not my beautiful blue eyed boy. Any assistance of getting my story out there would be highly appreciated. I pray all day everyday for my son Travis 23 years old and so gone from me. I never really sleep sound & I am pretty depressed. It is hard to go to work not knowing where your son is & if this is the day you plan his funeral. pictures before the accident and the accident I have a video of him on fentanyl patches on his gums tried to get Dr. Drew on intervention to take my story for my son. it was Christmas Eve 2013 we were up all night. He has a 12 year old sister and a 29 year old brother who lives in Baltimore with is lovely wife.
 
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