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Replied By: scott7765 on Sep 17, 2014, 10:05PM - In reply to startingnew
I will pray for him but you must consider yourself if he is a abusive you must get away.
 
Replied By: startingnew on Sep 16, 2014, 9:00PM
my husband is an alcoholic. he has been drinking heavy since the age of 13. that was his way of dealing with tramatic issuses. his dad died and he turned to drinking. a few years ago he was hurt really bad, died twice and came back. he has head trama, rods throughout both arms and was shot multiple times. since then he has suffered post tramatic stress disorder. waking up in panic attacks, rage, etc. he is literally afraid to sleep most nights. i didnt connect the dots until i stopped and paid attention to how hard it was for him to stay sober. why he had to have a drink every 3 days he was self medicating. i realized he was able to cope without a;cohol if he was incarcerated or being forced to stay clean for his freedom but if it was a choice for him he could not do it no matter what the consequences were.

this is the first time my husband has agreeed to deal with more than his addiction to alcohol. i truely believe if he dont address the mental issuses he battle with he will continue to abuse alcohol and me as well.

i do love him unconditionally and i refuse to give up on him but my safety and the safety of our family has to come first. addiction is never easy to deal with not for the love ones or the person with the addiction. sometimes the only way to help them is to hurt them. its better than loosing them.

im asking for prayer and i will indeed pray for others in need, thanks
 
Replied By: limeyinbc on Sep 16, 2014, 7:17PM - In reply to jpw1325
She needs a shock, she really does. One which may make her realise just how bad her situation is. Surely she has a family or other friends?


I know this is hard, but leave her. Tell her you will contact her in three months to see her progress.


if she is still at work at the school, she must have stopped, because they will find out soon the way she is going.

if you love her, leave her.
 
Replied By: jpw1325 on Sep 8, 2014, 10:50PM
I’ve been dating my girlfriend on again off again for over 3 years. I noticed that she was a heavy drinker within the first couple months of dating. I’ve known her for years and we started dating through work, we are both teachers. She is a binge alcoholic and when she drinks its game over after about an hour. We get in the most horrible fights when she drinks and I always feel bad afterwards and, of course, she never really remembers much of the fights. She has gone to rehab twice within the past 5 months. She has done in-patient, out-patient, AA, groups everything you can think of and it hasn’t worked. Just last week she was drinking … AT WORK, with kids present, and decided to leave because she became aware the she was intoxicated. She was pulling out of the parking lot and didn’t look both ways and was T-boned by a truck. Thankfully, she wasn’t hurt but her car was totaled. I, of course, came running to save her and was fully expecting to see her go a way in a squad car because she was obviously impaired. I don’t know how she got away with it but the officer didn’t take her away. She must have a guardian angel or something because she always seems to just get by without really getting in too much trouble. She missed a few days of work and didn’t drink until today. She was drinking at work again but some how made it through the day without leaving or getting in trouble. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love the girl so much but its really hurting me and she doesn’t seem to care that she is really affecting the people around her. What do I do?
 
Replied By: veesimi on Sep 2, 2014, 6:02PM
I live with my boyfriend of 11 years. A year and a half ago, we took in his 26 year old son, who is a Heroin addict, to get him help. Since the son landed on our doorstep, it has been nothing but a hellish tornado!! The son got on Methadone, and that was about it. No counseling, no treatment, NOTHING! He has financially ruined us, we had to leave our home and move to the other side of town, and his father brought him with us. The son has his own room, sleeps ALL day sometimes until 6 pm, he curses his father out, vicious ugly verbal fights daily,and attacks me verbally even though I don't speak to him and try to stay out of his way.


The father has found needles inhis room, KNOWS FOR A FACT that the son is shooting up in our house and does NOTHING about it! He yells at him once a week to get a job and move out, and ten minutes later they are pals and hanging out together. Does not ever folloow through on anything he "threatens " his son with. IT IS COMPLETE LUNACY!!


The son was in the hospital with liver failure 6 months ago almost dead, and now he is using in our home and dad looks the other way!!


The son has it in his drug fogged head that I am the cause of all his lives' problems. He has been acting irrational, delusional, paranoid, and I fear being left alone in the house with him. I tell the father this, but he said his son would NEVER hurt me,no matter how much he hates me.


Everytime I try to the dad about treament, and putting his foot down he tells me to "stay out of it" ...yes, even though I have been living with it for almost 2 years.


I guess the boy will die with Dad looking the other way, andGrandma sending him $$$ that she knows, but doesn't want to admit, is going for dope.


I am trying to find a way to leave this house, but it is quite hard with no finances. These 2 are living in some bizzare world of co-dependency and enabling and master manupilation and emotional blackmail from the son, and it is making me physically and emnotionally ill.


I guess all I can do is hand it over to God. I am so worn out!


If anyone has any suggestions, I would appreciate it, but I think i have done all I can do, since I am not allowed to get involved.
 
Replied By: robmican on Sep 2, 2014, 9:57AM
Dr. Phil, I wrote to you a while back asking for your help with my 25 yr old who was addicted to heroin and crack cocaine as well as prescription meds too. The picture I've attached is one I used for her obituary. On her 26th birthday she was put into a drug induced coma to detox her in order to help her fight several infections running ramped through her body as a result of not cleaning her injection site for heroin. She fought for over a month and a half only to be sent home with hospice to die in my arms surrounded by her family two days later. This madness of drug addicted teens needs to stop I want your help to share our story in hopes to prevent this from happening to any other parents. Thank you Dr. Phil for all you do.
 
Replied By: jlarch on Aug 28, 2014, 6:36PM - In reply to trauma_nurse
Have tried to get my adult son to go to see a doctor who gives vivitrol injections, but he will not consider it.   He is very depressed and just not sure which came first....alcoholism or depression.  Do you have any advice about how to convince him to get help?  
 
Replied By: sdm143 on Aug 14, 2014, 3:24AM
hi everyone my boyfriend has been addicted to meth for 3yrs he says he can quit at any time but yet he has yet to be sober longer then a month he has blammed me in saying its not my fault he chooses to do it but when i piss him off he says screw it and goes an gets high he spends most of our money on it and all tho there have been several times i know he has it i dont say anything any more cuz iam fed up and just dont care anymore i have told him to get help and i have said i will be there by his side but for what ever reson me saything that in the past was not good enough he thinks i should still be supporting him in some way i dont know if ignoring him and the  addiction all together is right but i cant find it in my self to feel compastion.
 
Replied By: trauma_nurse on Aug 12, 2014, 5:01PM - In reply to shelly2642
It does not work if you are not committed to quitting, but it sounds like you are.  There is a medication that is statistically more helpful than even treatment called naltrexone.  You should not take it until you have been sober a week as it is a receptor blocker that could throw you into withdrawl depending on the frequency and severity of your drinking.  It does not work for everyone but for those it does help it is a miracle, but generally not as sole therapy.  You need support, and a way of healing, as most people drink for a reason.  After your body is sober your mind may still be wounded or have poor coping skills.  AA is the most widely available program but there are also support groups at churches and other places.  Hearing how others coped and suceeded will help as will accountability and not feeling alone.  The medication with a support group is a formidable one two punch for those who really wish to find a btter path.



 
Replied By: trauma_nurse on Aug 12, 2014, 4:49PM - In reply to motherruby
Some things you will learn if you stick around: 1. You are not alone, and supportive people can help you survive and make the right choices to support not prolong your son's recovery.  2. ANYTHING you do to help by way of a place to live, money, or other assistance while he is still drinking will prolong his recovery.  Most addicts do not seek help without consequences and pain.  3. He is an adult, pressure and cajoling are unlikely to work if he has not hit bottom. 4. Alcoholism is a family disease, you may not have caused it but you can enable and contribute to it, and it can ruin the lives of those he loves if the FAMILY does not get help.  I wish you all good things and you are in my prayers.







 
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