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Replied By: greenidlady on Jul 15, 2014, 4:21PM


I have reached the end of my rope, and there is no way I would share this with family or friends.  i have not seen my grand children in 8-1/2 years.  My little Issabelle was 6 weeks old when I last touched her, held her, and loved her the way a grandma should.  I have not seen my my family, siblings since my mothers passing in 1998.  I'm not addicted to drugs, or alcohol, I would perhaps be better off if I were addicted to a substance that I could gain help for.  Instead, I am addicted to a horrible diet of fast foods, sugary snacks, and sugary drinks. I weigh 400 lbs, and at almost 58 years of age, I have come to the realization of "this is my life", what's left of it.  I feel as though I am committing suicide with a dull knife, a slow painful death.  Ashamed and embarrassed does not begin to describe how I feel, I hate myself, I truly do.  I have heard it all, "you have such a pretty face", in other words, if you could just get ride of that body.  I'm too heavy for weight watchers scales, what more can I say.  I swallowed my pride and went to visit a gym, and while I was waiting for assistance, I had to step aside and sit down.  The two young ladies working assumed I'd left, they did not see I was still there, when the one said, "if I was her age and that big, I'd give up, holy cow".  Then they both laughed.  I waited until they walked away, and I left.  I cannot go on living like this, literally.  I feel myself heading downhill daily.  I can't believe I was once a healthy, and very active young woman.  Now, there is nothing left for me other than the thing that is slowly killing me, unhealthy eating.  If you are young, and reading this, and are overweight, I beg you, get help before


You our end up up like me, and it's just too late and you are too old.  It's not easy to say I give up.
 
Replied By: lonelyprincess on Jun 26, 2014, 5:35PM
I am 43. Attractive and so lonely in my marriage,  I just want to run away. After being rejected so many times I have lost count.  I am now in this state of "I don't care".


My husband doesn't get it. I know he looks at porn. He would rather masturbate than put effort in with me. When we have sex. Few times a month....it is so disconnected that I may as well be with a stranger. 


There is NO intimacy.  Lasts 10 minutes at best. There is no foreplay. So bored and lonely. Other men are looking more and more attractive. It is killing me. 

Helppppp!!!!!  Need advice.

 
Replied By: rmartz on Jun 21, 2014, 10:52PM
My son is 38. He has been married twice, has 2 sons who he doesn't support and he's violent, a drug addict and a thief. He seems to have NO conscience at ALL. He wasn't raised that way. I noticed when he was little that he liked to lie all the time. About silly stuff. I told him the story of the boy who cried wolf all the time. Constanly! I sat him down and talked to him about it, I tried all manner of bribes and punishment, (Not beating him or anything like that!) Not even if I took things away did it help. I think there's something really wrong with his mind! I let him stay with me last year all winter and we talked for HOURS about HIM and I tried my best to help him in any way I could think of. I then made him leave because it just wasn't working out and it wasn't helping either one of us. He left with his girlfriend and I didn't even hear from him for almost a whole year. Then here he comes. He looked like he was starving. He was SO skinny and pale, he looked like a refugee!  Against my better judgement, I let him stay in  my house. I was gone for a few days and that"s when he stole my art and dug through every single drawer and cupboard in my house. Even my BEDROOM!  I called the sheriff  and he told me he couldn't do anything about it because I welcomed him into my house. Suddenly he left and I haven't seen him since. The sheriff did come to my house looking for him. For something else.  I am so afraid he's going to end up dead somewhere and I won't even know it. I'm afraid the sheriff is going to come to my house and tell me he killed someone or that they found him dead somewhere.  It's awful. I can't afford to put him into rehab. I'm on dissability because I broke my neck in an accident  (I was misdiagnosed with a sprained neck and didn't get fixed till 6 months after. LONG awful story there!) and now I can't work. I can't turn my head and I suffer from dibilitating headaches. I don't know what to do. His Dad died in 2008 from an accidental methadone overdose, which was a nightmare. I don't have any resources to help any of my children. I wish someone could help my son.
 
Replied By: rmartz on Jun 21, 2014, 10:34PM - In reply to skpence
Dear Mom, I do know what you're going through except that MY son hasn't YET ended up in an accident quite like that of your son. My son HAS had several accidents, one in the state of Washington where he pulled out in front of a speeding Highway Patrol and was broadsided. He had a huge gash in the back of his head and the cop had a gash in his head. BAD wreck, he totalled his car. But he walked away. This was several years ago. He's almost 40 now and I am so afraid he will end up dead. He's doing meth and I can't have him in my house because the last time he was here he stole my art off my walls and pawned them along with someones lawn mower. We all had to go buy our own stuff back from the pawn shop. I didn't know that a month before this, he had assaulted his girlfriend and was fined almost $1000. and more than a year in jail, but served 3 days. He WILL sit in jail for a year if they catch him because he won/t be able to pay that. The worst part was him beating up that poor girl. It makes a Mom feel just horrible. I think I wish he'd get thrown in jail because at least he'll dry out in there. I think. I don't think it would be very much fun because they don't care if prisoners are detoxing! I'm sorry for your family. I will pray for you.
 
Replied By: skpence on Jun 8, 2014, 7:02AM
 
I am not sure who to contact but My son needs a drug intervention. I am a desperate mother trying to keep my son alive. He was in a tragic car accident at 19, 3 years ago. He hit a car hed on. I thank God everyday he did not kill the other young driver or seriously injure her. He was taking pills and drinking. He went into the hospital with a aortic dissection life saving surgery. He then had to stay 4 months in the hospital, 5 weeks in ICU. He went from 178 to 100 pounds. He already had issues with addiction while in the hospital he was given morphine, dilta, and oxytocin to say a few. He went to pain management since he will have chronic pain for the rest of his life. He was kicked out for trading prescribed pills for other pills. He now uses heroin, takes fentanyl patches and snorts or places then on his gums. If he can’t get that he abuses nose inhalers. benzedrex. I would do anything to save my son. His brain has been high jacked from these awful drugs. He is a wonderful person he just has an awful disease. He has so much worth. Every day I wonder if this will be the day I get the phone call he overdosed. His Dad found him overdosed & not breathing & had to do CPR. He was in the hospital for 5 days. A minster found him in Feb 2014 facedown in the snow. He called 911 & saved my sons life. He later baptized him. I have no tools and no means of getting my son the help he needs because I am talking to the drug not my beautiful blue eyed boy. Any assistance of getting my story out there would be highly appreciated. I pray all day everyday for my son Travis 23 years old and so gone from me. I never really sleep sound & I am pretty depressed. It is hard to go to work not knowing where your son is & if this is the day you plan his funeral. pictures before the accident and the accident I have a video of him on fentanyl patches on his gums tried to get Dr. Drew on intervention to take my story for my son. it was Christmas Eve 2013 we were up all night. He has a 12 year old sister and a 29 year old brother who lives in Baltimore with is lovely wife.
 
Replied By: donnamt24 on Jun 5, 2014, 10:02PM

Help!!!!!!!!  My sister has been living with an alcoholic mentally abusive husband for 15-16 years and she could not get out, so now she is trying to kill herself to get out.  My baby sister (Christa Priest, Age 45) is currently in the hospital.  Her liver has shut down, she has been diagnosed with alcoholic pancreitus,(sp?) malnourished, jaundice, esopheigal tears, all due to severe alcoholism.


 


She can't walk, barely talk, think, she is lethargic, angry, she wears adult diapers, shows no emotion.  I don't understand what is happening.


 


Her husband has called her names on a regular basis (i.e. "piece of s***",  "waste of life", "waste of spunk", she's been too fat, then too skinny).   When she broker her leg, he use to take her crutches and hide them so she would have to crawl around on the floor like an animal.  She lost her job, friends, family and now her own children.


 


She has two boys (ages 14 & 12).  She has been married about 15/16 years.  She married an alcoholic.  When she could know longer take care of everything and continue to protect and hide it from family and her own kids, she gave in and began drinking.  We are estimating the drinking began in 2007 with a progression reaching one bottle or 2 bottles of vodka a day/combined with an eating disorder, depression and anxiety.  She was mentally abused by her alcoholic husband and berated and put down by him (and then eventually her boys started on her the same way because the father has completely brainwashed them into thinking she was "sick" and this was all her own doing. 


He drinks a case of beer a day (Keystone Light).  He can't be without it at any time.  Its hidden throughout the house.  He drives with a case of beer in the trunk.  A cooler in the car.  He works from home and has been able to hide this for years.


He has kept her from her family.  I am her older sister and I have tried and tried to save her.  Last year I held a family intervention while her husband was out of town at work (it was our only opportunity) and it didn't work.  I tried four days before he dropped her and a bag of adult diapers off at the local hospital.  I called the local police to do a welfare check.  The police offer said he saw them and she appeared very sick and he said she was trying to eat.  The officer stated it was out of his hands.  My sister was dying and her husband was/is allowing it..  There is no way 3 people living in the home with my sister could have watched this deterioration and not call for help from someone.  This is a criminal act he has committed and until she is treated or passes away, I will remain calm and try to get her help.


I have contacted Origins and La Hacienda because I do watch your show and have heard what great places they are for recovery.  They have been wonderful to work with, but they are unable to take someone in such medical distress.  They have forwarded me to Caron Treatment Centers (Hanley) in Florida.  I am TRYING everything to work with the hospital, the doctors, the medical rehab and Hanley.  I just feel like I am getting nowhere and we remain stagnant.  There has been one psych evaluation the day after she was admitted.  She recalls nothing of it.  Her cognitive and physical needs are detrimental to getting her help. I don't know what to do.  I am tired, stressed, worried and sick.  I have to plan and do everything because he can't or will not.  He doesn't care.  They tell me at the hospital he comes to see her and leaves the room several times.  He leaves the room to go to the parking garage to drink.  He has to drink all day.  He is home with the two boys and keeps them from all of us. I am worried.  The boys were down to see their mother once.  She told me on the phone tonight when she asks to talk to them on the phone, her husband states they are busy.  These boys are being scarred for life.  They were active happy, friendly boys.  Now they have no cares for their mother.  This family is falling apart.  I am scared.  I need professional help to help me - help her.  (I know this sounds like you talking), but I really respect what you and your staff (combined with all the facilities you work with) can do to save a life.  I am asking you to save more than my sister, I am asking you to save her children.


I have photos, information, diaries and I will do whatever it takes to have you help,  This disease and what it can do to women (mothers, wives) is beyond belief.  I can go on and on, but I don't know if someone will really read this.  I wish there was an option here to attach the photos so you could see her.


This was a non-alcoholic, smart, funny, career-oriented, caring, loving mother.  He has shattered her, alcohol has just about killed her.  All she has left are her children and they are now distant.


Please, please help me - guide me - get her help and through this process.  I will do whatever you need.  I am begging. 


We are from a family of 5 (I am the oldest, almost 50, a sister 48 (who is currently being treated for possible breast cancer), my sister who is an alcoholic and dying, brother who is 35 and a brother who is 33.  We lost our own father who was an alcoholic when he was only 43. 


I could not save my father.  I tried.  Please help me save my sister. 


 


 


 


 


Help.  My baby sister (Christa Priest, Age 45) is currently in the hospital.  Her liver has shut down, she has been diagnosed with alcoholic pancreitus,(sp?) malnourished, esophageal tears, all due to severe alcoholism.


 


She has two boys (ages 14 & 12).  She has been married about 15/16 years.  She married an alcoholic.  When she could know longer take care of everything and continue to protect and hide it from family and her own kids, she gave in and began drinking.  We are estimating the drinking began in 2007 with a progression reaching one bottle or 2 bottles of vodka a day/combined with an eating disorder, depression and anxiety.  She was mentally abused by her alcoholic husband and berated and put down by him (and then eventually her boys started on her the same way because the father has completely brainwashed them into thinking she was "sick" and this was all her own doing. 


He drinks a case of beer a day (Keystone Light).  He can't be without it at any time.  Its hidden throughout the house.  He drives with a case of beer in the trunk.  A cooler in the car.  He works from home and has been able to hide this for years.


He has kept her from her family.  I am her older sister and I have tried and tried to save her.  Last year I held a family intervention while her husband was out of town at work (it was our only opportunity) and it didn't work.  I tried four days before he dropped her and a bag of adult diapers off at the local hospital.  I called the local police to do a welfare check.  The police offer said he saw them and she appeared very sick and he said she was trying to eat.  The officer stated it was out of his hands.  My sister was dying and her husband was/is allowing it..  There is no way 3 people living in the home with my sister could have watched this deterioration and not call for help from someone.  This is a criminal act he has committed and until she is treated or passes away, I will remain calm and try to get her help.


I have contacted Origins and La Hacienda because I do watch your show and have heard what great places they are for recovery.  They have been wonderful to work with, but they are unable to take someone in such medical distress.  They have forwarded me to Caron Treatment Centers (Hanley) in Florida.  I am TRYING everything to work with the hospital, the doctors, the medical rehab and Hanley.  I just feel like I am getting nowhere and we remain stagnant.  There has been one psych evaluation the day after she was admitted.  She recalls nothing of it.  Her cognitive and physical needs are detrimental to getting her help. I don't know what to do.  I am tired, stressed, worried and sick.  I have to plan and do everything because he can't or will not.  He doesn't care.  They tell me at the hospital he comes to see her and leaves the room several times.  He leaves the room to go to the parking garage to drink.  He has to drink all day.  He is home with the two boys and keeps them from all of us. I am worried.  The boys were down to see their mother once.  She told me on the phone tonight when she asks to talk to them on the phone, her husband states they are busy.  These boys are being scarred for life.  They were active happy, friendly boys.  Now they have no cares for their mother.  This family is falling apart.  I am scared.  I need professional help to help me - help her.  (I know this sounds like you talking), but I really respect what you and your staff (combined with all the facilities you work with) can do to save a life.  I am asking you to save more than my sister, I am asking you to save her children.


I have photos, information, diaries and I will do whatever it takes to have you help,  This disease and what it can do to women (mothers, wives) is beyond belief.  I can go on and on, but I don't know if someone will really read this.  I wish there was an option here to attach the photos so you could see her.


This was a non-alcoholic, smart, funny, career-oriented, caring, loving mother.  He has shattered her, alcohol has just about killed her.  All she has left are her children and they are now distant.


Please, please help me - guide me - get her help and through this process.  I will do whatever you need.  I am begging. 


We are from a family of 5 (I am the oldest, almost 50, a sister 48 (who is currently being treated for possible breast cancer), my sister who is an alcoholic and dying, brother who is 35 and a brother who is 33.  We lost our own father who was an alcoholic when he was only 43. 


I could not save my father.  I tried.  Please help me save my sister. 

 
Replied By: xraulxcrucesx on Jun 5, 2014, 7:37PM - In reply to xraulxcrucesx
My bad hate typing the title suppose to say voices cuz I'm crazy
 
Replied By: xraulxcrucesx on Jun 5, 2014, 7:35PM
My name is raul and I've suffered with mental illness since probably before I started walking. I'm 26 have an 8 year old boy that I love so very much. I really don't know my diagnosis but I know I have bipolar ADHD ocd and schizophrenia. Just stopped all meds 6 months ago and sobber off method for 3 weeks. I'm an addict for everything in life that brings me joy but aren't we all is some way. Started playing billiards about a year ago since then I've obbssed of ancient cilivilations, astronomy, math, science, and still haven't made up my mind about my spiritual thingy yet. Lol. I'm going fucking crazy parndon my French and I really hope there's someone out there that relate to me. I've been through it all so I've learned not to be judgmental andisten to what people have to say.... Idk
 
Replied By: dreaminofanend on Jun 5, 2014, 2:32PM
Hi my name is Aria and as someone who has struggled with an addiction to self injury I have started a twitter and tumblr to try and create a community of support and understanding not only for those who are addicted to self harm and struggling with their mental health, but also the loved ones who are trying to understand what their loved one is going through. If you or anyone you know is struggling, the people at dreamingofanend.tumblr.com want to talk to you and help you through it. There is hope, and with the support of others we can make our voices heard and end the silence and stigma surrounding self injury and mental health. Thanks so much for your time!


Keep strong, stay safe, and never lose hope,


Aria 
 
Replied By: abonkows on May 28, 2014, 12:07PM - In reply to raycid74
I think you are human and definitely allowed to feel whatever you're feeling. I do think it is wrong to blame her for your smoking habit however. Although difficult to stop, it is your choice. Not hers. I understand you live with her and so it makes it much harder for you to stop because you are constantly triggered, but where there is a will there is a way. I agree that you could stop buying them for her. If she wants to smoke then that's on her and getting the cigarettes are on her also. If she respects you then she will understand that you are taking that step to better your life and health. Break the cycle and do something different. I have learned that quitting smoking is one of the hardest habits to break, but it can be done. And 99 percent of it is changing your daily routine!! Go to different gas stations..drive a different route, replace the cigarettes with something positive and healthy! Good luck!
 
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