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Are you overwhelmed with dark feelings of despair? Have you suffered a loss and are having a difficult time coping? If you or someone you love is suffering from depression or is grief-stricken, you know it can be a struggle, but you don’t need to suffer in silence. Share your story here.

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Replied By: lizziebeth218 on Jan 25, 2015, 3:42AM
I have suffered from depression and anixety since I was a child. I remember feeling the anixety as young as six. I did not understand what I was feeling so I would tell my mom that my heart hurt. I am twenty-three now and I feel down almost every day. Some days it is just the normal sadness and others, I just want to slit my wrist. Therapy never help because I have never been able to communicate how/what I am feeling. I guess I still don't understand. I try to tellingmyself good things about myself, but in the end, I still hate myself.
 
Replied By: yesyoucan on Jan 20, 2015, 10:03PM - In reply to dancesinthesky
So sorry for your loss...
 
Replied By: dancesinthesky on Jan 18, 2015, 8:20PM - In reply to dancesinthesky
 
Photo taken on her visit to see me in Florida. Our last time together, I never imagined three weeks later she would have taken her life.
 
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Replied By: yesyoucan on Dec 25, 2014, 11:01AM
Happy Holidays wished to All for I know not everyone celebrates Christmas if of another faith...  

Saw Dr. Phil and his son Jay began DOCTOR ON DEMAND...  

Since I know many pop in and don't post who are extremely sad I wanted to share DOCTOR ON DEMAND @drondemand tweeted if retweet their #BeatHolidayBlues tweet you can have a free video visit..  The doctorondemand post that says a free video visit if retweet.  This warms my heart SO much since shows how much Dr. Phil and his son, Jay, care about the well being of others.  

Dr. Phil says, "You are never alone if you are there for you."  I always add BE THERE!  Nonetheless, sometimes the Holidays can feel especially lonely and SAD, too, even if just due to seasonal affective disorder.  So, if this is you, DOCTOR ON DEMAND is reaching out to help and even if DOCTOR ON DEMAND is not for you remember to keep reaching out and within until you find the help that helps.  DOCTOR ON DEMAND can also call in prescriptions prn.  

Texas Sized Hugging Prayers to ALL...

Your fellow member SEA aka YYC
 
Replied By: yesyoucan on Dec 20, 2014, 1:19PM
WOW!  Especially EXCELLENT idea for persons without transportation or who don't feel like driving to doctor AND for folks who live in country like we do...  

DOCTOR ON DEMAND: http://www.doctorondemand.com/  

DOCTOR ON DEMAND has both medical and mental health doctors too.  Tells you type of doctors available on website.

I was mmediately sent a video link when inquired to see how to download APP.  

Cost is $40 per 15 minutes yet alerts you after 12 minutes I think before go over 15 minutes so best to be prepared & have written down all you want to ask doctor.  As I recall, when I used to go to my primary care, when insured, about all the time doctor spent with me was about 15 minutes then, too.

When I asked if average visit 15 minutes or longer I was sent a special code so my first visit FREE so I could experience how works first hand first.  

TOTALLY IMPRESSED so wanted to share since many on here lack transportation.  These are video chat doctor appointments you can do on smart phones and iPad etc. elecctronic devices with video capabilities compatible with DOCTOR ON DEMAND free APP you download.  Yes, even prescriptions can be called in for you should you need a prescription.  How amazing is that?  TOTALLY!  


HAVE A HAPPY HANUKKAH and a MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPY NEW YEAR  EVERYONE. 

HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL (Dr. Phil Staff Too)!
 
Replied By: yesyoucan on Dec 2, 2014, 2:15PM - In reply to sundaiz
Had family in Tulsa and Dr. Phil was born not far from Tulsa in Vinita, OK.

That sounds serious and I was unaware considered MTBI - "Mild" Traumatic Brain Injury

I agree.  I'm like you and many of the things shown on "Funniest Videos" where looks like person got hurt not funny at all to me.  I haven't had as many MTBI's as you yet a few.  Have you ever seen or do you remember Road Runner cartoon where things got dropped on Coyote's head?  At five a boy dropped a brick on my head after watching Road Runner.  i was hiding in box during neighborhood kid game of "hide and seek" & he climbed up tree and dropped brick on my head.  Still have a scar.  Hope things get better for you and your being proactive they will.  Be sure and notice CONTACT DR. PHIL and BE ON THE SHOW above.  Glad you joined us.  Take care of yourself...
 
Replied By: yesyoucan on Dec 2, 2014, 1:55PM - In reply to goodguy01
So sorry for the loss of your mom and other pain you've been through.  When my mother passed away as a VIOXX casualty I was devastated. It wasn't until one day when I woke up at the same time nurse called me to tell me mother passed that I happened to turn TV on to Joel Osteen.  He was sharing about the loss of his dad and spoke of "rising from the ashes to grasp the beauty of today."  I've lost most my cheering section and, like you, I miss tremendously my parents and grandparents being in my corner rooting me on.  Thank goodness I found Joel Osteen who is a cheerleader for life.  We can only share here what has helped each one of us as individuals all the while knowing since we are all individuals this may or may not work for you to watch Joel Osteen.  

From personal experience I have found not only is walking a mood elevator and a stress reducer too.  Breathing exercises can help too.  You don't have to do lots and can just do five in and out cleansing breaths.  To counts equally each way of 3, 5, or 7.  Recently, Dr. Phil did to count of 3 each way on his son's show, The Doctors.  Breathe in to count of three, exhale to count of three... five times.  Gently touch finger tips as you do each one to ground yourself.  Breathing in healing forces and exhaling destabling emotions I think is how Dr. Phil puts it in one of his books.  

A SELF MATTERS notebook is good too to point your thoughts in a positive direction being your loudest cheerleader.  A notebook with a schedule of healthy habits, of sleep, diet and exercise, to refer to is good too.   Medication won't teach better coping skills or habits yet we can retrain ourselves to not react and respond with practice, practice, practice.  That's not saying medication doesn't help it just isn't always the end all cure all and sometimes is just treating the symptoms of needing to create healthier habits including our thought diet, coping skills and making healthier choices in general.

I began timing myself of how long I'd roll the tapes of everything wrong, now and then, which didn't change one thing and was time consuming and draining.  I was almost on automatic pilot I had such a habit of seeing the glass half full.  Then, like Dr. Phil suggests, I took back the steering wheel of my life and got out of the passenger seat.  This is my life and my life has value and so does yours so we all need to value our lives.  Dr. Phil is correct that "You are never alone if you are there for you."  BE THERE.  Whenever, I was at my lowest it is when I was no longer there for me.  You are the star of your life... shine on...  

Sometimes routine things give you a sense of accomplishment when done, like household chores, even if don't feel like doing so have to focus on how good will feel when done.  So, on that note, I am going to fix dinner for my husband.  What are you up to today?  A good physical is always a good idea plus sometimes B12 shots can help... ask your doctor...   We don't learn from osmosis how to think positively and takes practice, practice, practice (one more positive thought at a time) especially if we no longer have a cheering section.  Your mother would want you to be your best friend and loudest cheerleader loving yourself as much as she loved you.  Wishing you all the best always...  Plan on it...
 
Replied By: yesyoucan on Dec 2, 2014, 1:38PM - In reply to alissaling
Sadly, I do believe all that is possible from the many things I've personally seen or heard about in my life and on The Dr. Phil Show... and even here.  So sorry for all you went through...  

Love your Grumpy Cat profile picture you chose.  Last night I watched Grumpy Cats Worst Christmas Ever.  Which reminds me I want to Google what kind of cat that is besides "Grumpy Cat" as cuddly cute.  Even though I'm allergic to cats I'd still hug Grumpy Cat in movie as too cute to not.  

You can copy what you wrote to copy/paste to send to Dr. Phil or BE ON THE SHOW opportunities by clicking BE ON THE SHOW above or CONTACT DR. PHIL.  Also, if you are needing dental care occasionally The Doctors, TV show of Dr. Phil's son, Jay, does dental makeovers.  I'm still waiting in line yet Dr. Phil "and" The Doctors say they choose most they help from those who write and email in and they do A LOT of makeovers.  There's lots of people writing in yet you have as much chance as anyone else to be chosen and many are.  Lots aren't chosen yet lots are.  I'm sure Dr. Phil Show and The Doctors prays for all those unable to help just like we do here.  Yet you never know... next person helped could be you.  


 Dr. Phil has a saying I love:  "Sometimes we have to rise above our raising."  Keep being proactive reaching out until you find the help that helps and "always" BE THERE for you.  "You are never alone if you are there for you," as you were coming here.

Excellent to be proactive reaching out for help until you find the help you need.  You are wise to be cautious on public boards as we all should be.  Vent all you need to with that in mind.  We all have and SELF MATTERS INCLUDES YOU...
 
Replied By: alissaling on Dec 1, 2014, 1:24PM
I am going to try to explain my story in some small way without giving way to much info because it is very easy to do that with my story and when I do people think it's to much to fast or they don't believe me. Yes I know that my story might sound insane but it is very true like it or not.



Let's start at the beginning I guess, I'll try my best to explain and please give me a chance......I remember it from the eyes of a 4 year old little girl that was never able to be a real little girl. See my "family" was not your normal family, I was born as a toy for my parents...not my name, it came from them. To my father I was a sex doll and to my mother I was a bunching bag. So much so that by the time I was 4 I had to start running away because my father would rape me any chance he could, my mother knew it was going on but she told me it was my fault for letting him do it....like I had a chose. I don't remember a lot of my childhood because of what started to happen next.......My parents didn't want the truth to come out so they made me forget...you ask how did they do that? They did that by literally bashing in the skull on the kitchen floor with a solid wood table and chairs. My father would sit on the chair that was on top of me like a cage that I could not get out of.....my mother was on the floor with me helping my father slam the table leg into my head over and over again. I do not know how many times they did it because I kept blacking out. My mother would ask me..."are you going to forget" and me trying to be strong and said no I will never forget what you did to me.



This went on for over many many hours....after sometime my father would do other things to me when he was sitting in the chair on top of me...like he would spit on me, he would pee on me, he would punch me in the mouth plus more. After the night was over I came to on the floor of the kitchen and could barly even move but when I was able to get up I found them sleeping in there bed. I went into the bathroom to look at myself but couldn't stop crying when I did. My face was huge, black and blue, covered in huge lumps, some of my teeth were knocked out, I was covered in both pee and poop , I looked like I got slammed into a brick wall face first repeatably. ......my skull was cracked on top of everything.



I was told that if I told anyone about anything next time it would be worse...you ask yourself how could it get any worse...it could and it did because that little bit that might sound like so much for a child to have to live with but that was only 5% of the story of what my parents did to me. I would go on but I don't want to freak people out anymore then I might have already.........I need help because no one ever helped me, they have gotten away with what they did to me and they now have moved onto a new doll. I have tried so hard to get someone to help me help them but no one believes me so no one will help.....PLEASE HELP, PLEASE HEAR ME, PLEASE I AM BEGGING.....PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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