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Replied By: yesyoucan on Sep 19, 2014, 1:49PM - In reply to oceanentity
I'm proud of you for being so proactive and you set a good example for all of us being so proactive.  So glad that you found a doctor who knew how to test blood more accurately.  Like Dr. Phil's wife said in her first book, "Inside My Heart," about her son's leg... you knew that you knew that something was askew that doctor was missing.  A good physical is always a good idea since thyroid, diabetes, etc. can also effect our emotions and feelings of general wellbeing.  I know that Oprah said that for the longest time she felt out of sorts then finally learned thyroid related.   B12 and other vitamin deficiencies can make us feel out of sorts both mentally and physically too.  You were wise being so proactive and I'm glad you shared with us the positive results of your proactiveness.  Here's wishing you and us all a blessed every day...
Replied By: yesyoucan on Sep 19, 2014, 1:40PM - In reply to lilybelle1
I hope everything works out. My grandmother used to always say, "Things have a way of working out..." My mother would always retort, "God helps she who helps herself." They were/are both right. Often most times the only reason we don't see how things will work out isn't since won't and ONLY since haven't yet. Let us know how things are going. Anything you learn that works for you share with all of us too. All the best to you and all those dear to you always...
Replied By: yesyoucan on Sep 19, 2014, 1:27PM - In reply to kashmir66
Hi Guitar Playing Led Zeppelin fan...

Roosters Fonzie & Kernal Sanders were up early this a.m. They are so cute now that they are becoming pets and come running to us when we go outside. I SO hope they live long healthy 12 year rooster lives w/o any incidents from the Hawks & other wildlife. So far so good after over a month on the farm. Roosters make great pets if you like birds and like to hear them crow like we do.

Lynn mowed a nice walking path around both hayfields like he said he would last year. I'm SO happy about because I think my doldrums were from missing my walks both physically and emotionally. My friend who works at SMU University is coming up tomorrow to take me to see her new SPA bathroom. I'm unplugging from all my electronic devises for a week until she brings me back next weekend. That's likely the only way I would. I don't have a cell phone or iPhone so it'll be interesting. I may be begging my friend who works at SMU to use her laptop...

I always like to spruce up things especially well so Lynn can enjoy the farmhouse or whatever house we're in while I'm on vacation. Vacuuming done, Mopping done. Next... last load of laundry and washing lunch dishes. I may wait until after I make steamed fresh spinach for dinner to wash few lunch dishes we have.

This will be the longest vacation I've ever taken in over ten years as usually just go for three day mini vacations to my home town to stay in my fave B&B. Though, it has been over a year since I have been to B&B in my home town. My friend and I had talked about trying out SPA at Preson/Forest Whole Foods yet they got rid of so never did. I've never been to a SPA. I've known my SMU friend since she was six so I'm sort of like her second mom and she wants to show off her SPA and let me enjoy too since almost my Bday. It is an honor. I'm so proud of her. She's come a long way from her asking if she could ride my bike when I was sixteen and she was six and I'm SO proud of her.

Lynn saw two deer yesterday while mowing a walk path around both hayfields... How's your day? :)
Replied By: oceanentity on Sep 19, 2014, 5:02AM - In reply to yesyoucan
Thank you very mush for your helpful response and guidance. The links have proved very beneficial. Ive finally been diagnosed with HYPOTHYROID only after seeing a specialist dr who KNOWS how to correctly test for it. The regular GP blood tests keep coming back normal but something was nagging at me so i further sort help and found this wonderful DR who knows how to correctly test. the blood test done through drs on an every day basis only test basic thyroid funciton. but in some one who is hypothyroid ( hashimotos disease) the regular thyroid test comes back normal if not elevated due to the body compensating by producing MORE thyroid ... but you need ALL thyroid hormones tested to recieve an accurate picture. many of my depression symptoms etc are BECAUSE of this thyroid insufficiencey. im due to commence thyroid natural medications soon. i will report back on any improvements. im told once this absorbs i may be able to go off antidepressants if not lower the dose. I also found out im zero for vitamin D, folate and b12. so im onto that. 

Thankyou for your response.
Replied By: lilybelle1 on Sep 17, 2014, 4:10PM - In reply to yesyoucan
Thanks, 'yesyoucan', those are a lot of good resources I will try. So far I've talked to my psychiatrist who has no idea what cptsd is and I talked to a therapist who has sort of heard about it but I'm not sure if she knows enough about it to treat it, so it's good to know there are other resources out there.
Replied By: kashmir66 on Sep 17, 2014, 3:40PM - In reply to yesyoucan
Replied By: yesyoucan on Sep 17, 2014, 12:22PM - In reply to lilybelle1
So sorry for your feeling out of sorts yet good for you being proactive reaching out for you certainly WILL find the help that helps being proactive as you are here, today.  I have heard of Complex PTSD which usually involves prolonged trauma such as if a battered wife or a victim of child abuse, held captive etc. There may be a PTSD message board on Dr. Phil Website yet I didn't see one when searching just now.  That said, many here over the years have said have PTSD because symptoms of PTSD are depressing to cope with, as you say too.  

You can search in white search box above for  PTSD or Google PTSD with drphil or w/o for PTSD resources etc.  You may already have.  Sometimes there are so many choices it is hard to decide which is best right...  On below Dr. Phil Website links Dr. Phil usually includes help links too.  Plus above top comment you will notice GENERAL AND MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCES link.  Also, you may have already seen BE ON THE SHOW and CONTACT DR. PHIL options above as well.  So glad you joined us.  Your fellow member, SEA aka YYC



Above website even Dr.Phil recommends now too as I have for years.  PTSD first coined during Viet Nam War for returning veterans with highest incidence among medics then.  Now, PTSD has been expanded to encompass all persons experiencing traumatic event(s) as in a hurricane etc. or prolonged as in domestic abuse etc.

(Dr. Phil Website) COULD YOU HAVE PTSD?


(Dr. Phil Website) PTSD SYMPTOMS
Replied By: lilybelle1 on Sep 16, 2014, 10:21PM
Hi I am new to this forum. I have had depression most of my life though have tried to function 'normally', working full time. Recently I've read research that makes me think I have something called Complex PTSD. Has anyone ever heard of this? My challenge is it looks like I'll need a lot of therapy for this but my insurance only offers 6 visits a year, and my medication management visits take those up. I'm not sure what I'm asking, maybe to connect with others who might have this? One thing with being depressed and trying not to disclose, it's a lonely world. Although my husband is very supportive which I appreciate, it's still hard for him to understand what I'm going through. And for whatever reason, it's to the point that I feel like I need some kind of treatment for this to continue to function in society.
Replied By: yesyoucan on Sep 16, 2014, 4:46PM - In reply to kashmir66
You pegged me.  I AM a sock lover big time and no longer an anonymous one.  Always wanted a sock monkey too.  I finally found a sock monkey in my curb side adventures of discarded garage sale items a year or so ago.  Donated sock monkey after I kept a couple of weeks... in case anyone else had always wanted a sock monkey too.  .  

So sorry about your neighbor's wife and pray she has a full recovery and feels even better than before.  That's depressing and enough to make anyone witnessing to have a mood nose dive.  You sounded so upbeat message before last, before you went to the hospital.  Nonetheless.  



You are you 

I am me

WE are WE 

Another cure for the doldrums I personally used this a.m. is orange juice mixed 50/50 with DHA Omega 3 Silk Soy Milk.  WOW!  That stuff works fast so really must be good for the brain like it says on the carton.  Kicked my doldrums to the curb this a.m. after I had a cup of.  

This is somewhat short as tons of chores seem to think only I can do them...  Always feel lots better when done so off to do.  Dr. Phil says "Life isn't cured it is managed."  Isn't that the truth.  I never have been able to cure my chore TO DO list.  Everytime I DO my chores they pop right back onto my TO DO list to try to manage to get done again.  I pray you, me, WE all here manage well.  Someone was just praying for you...  Be Blessed...
Replied By: kashmir66 on Sep 16, 2014, 9:22AM - In reply to yesyoucan
Loved your story, brought a smile to my face.

I went wish a neighbor to see his wife, she had a stroke, not quite sure but I think she is a bit more worse off now, they just moved in and I only know the guy from him hearing me on guitar and stopping over.

About a week or two later she was hospitalized and he asked me to ride with him to visit her.

I am so sick of everything, I can not funtion and I am so mad at myself that I cant even hold a conversation with you on here.

Man this sucks to be me.

I am going to comletely self distruct and I have no where to go to fix it.

nervious wreck all the time, cant funtion, and just stare off into space all the time.

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