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Replied By: ravenlost1 on Jun 29, 2015, 7:00PM
 
He got to.go to Rhode Island and.Salem.,.that i was upset, that he could.of came.down to new.york, for a few days and hang out...

in the dog.house as.i call him, regardless text.amd email
 
Replied By: elenaferre on Jun 5, 2015, 4:59AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nyl0BliNKpo



Please check the link and act now.

Do not allow my weak flame fade away.

 
Replied By: melovesal on Jun 2, 2015, 11:02PM - In reply to pendicup
How long where you guys together? If you don't mind me asking. I have an ex he is 41 and Im 28 and he insist us not being together anymore after 6 years, im lost
 
Replied By: candyford544 on Jun 1, 2015, 7:01PM - In reply to candyford544
Hi Dr. Phil I am hoping you can help us I'm a single mother who raise two young men, they both are mentally disabled like me it so hard to get any help I been trying to get some help for my older son is in Modesto California Public Safety Center in jail and I've been trying to get him some mental health in there and no one is trying to help us I would talk to the Mayor, Governor I only talk to district attorney public defender and no one is willing to help andmy son is Griffin with girlfriend and first daughter and they haven't tried to give him any kind of counseling or let him talk to the psychiatrist or put him back on his medication my son disability right I was wondering if you could help us thank you very much and have a wonderful day
 
Replied By: candyford544 on Jun 1, 2015, 6:50PM
Hi Dr. Phil, on April 24, 2015 my son was in a car accident that kill is girlfriend and unborn baby my son is mentally disabled you have bipolar you have ADHD learning disability I haven't impulsive disorder we have PSD PST we have developed many disorder any so I coded psychosis and is Ben and Public Safety Center in Modesto any haven't got no kind of mental health treatment and they haven't been giving him his medication and he's hearing voices and is trying to kill himself in there and they're not doing anything to help for me and it's creeping about his girlfriend and his baby are in the public defender and the district attorney and not helping them public defender is not doing anything to help I asked her to get oh so mental treatment and she's still having I asked the DA to get them into the translation is still have a choice
 
Replied By: juliettea on May 23, 2015, 11:26PM - In reply to suicideabuse
I too lost a mother to suicide - that I know had some issues with being mentally ill...I feel compassion for you because I do know that my mom loved me - but she was a diabetic who didn't take care of herself - so she often took too much insulin for the 'high' of having an insullin reaction (drug abuse, but very 'legal' and hard to fit into a category.  Because I am an only child I was largely responsible for helping to care for her as she was so inept at doing so for herself.  Once she died, although I was terribly disturbed about it - I felt tremendous relief and then sadness because I felt such relief.  She exhausted me.  She was drama on steroids.  I think it is a HUGE gift that you are refelctive enough to know what you feel about it and that you are so clear about what the relationship really was.  People cannot give you what they don't have - and it sounds like your Mom was too much of a mess to mother you.  Dr. Phil has said that 'mother' is a verb too and it sounds like she did not treat it as a responbisilbility - but that you in fact did more parenting of your 'child'/mother, as I often did.  Dr. Phil also says that sometimes you have to give yourself what you wish someone else would.  I DON"T think you should feel guilty at all, but since the relationship was largely abusive, it would be worse to continue to abuse yourself because of this history. LET IT GO - the pain sounds like it stemmed from her and she is gone.  Your letter actually helped me a lot as I read it as a lot of your point resonated with me....so I thank you for your honestly, clarity...and insight.  That is valuable - not the pain.  Let it go...and as Dr. Phil would say, the past is over, the future hasn't happened yet...the only time is now.  Let go now and the greatest honor your could give her is to let go of the pain and move on.
 
Replied By: juliettea on May 23, 2015, 11:26PM - In reply to suicideabuse
I too lost a mother to suicide - that I know had some issues with being mentally ill...I feel compassion for you because I do know that my mom loved me - but she was a diabetic who didn't take care of herself - so she often took too much insulin for the 'high' of having an insullin reaction (drug abuse, but very 'legal' and hard to fit into a category.  Because I am an only child I was largely responsible for helping to care for her as she was so inept at doing so for herself.  Once she died, although I was terribly disturbed about it - I felt tremendous relief and then sadness because I felt such relief.  She exhausted me.  She was drama on steroids.  I think it is a HUGE gift that you are refelctive enough to know what you feel about it and that you are so clear about what the relationship really was.  People cannot give you what they don't have - and it sounds like your Mom was too much of a mess to mother you.  Dr. Phil has said that 'mother' is a verb too and it sounds like she did not treat it as a responbisilbility - but that you in fact did more parenting of your 'child'/mother, as I often did.  Dr. Phil also says that sometimes you have to give yourself what you wish someone else would.  I DON"T think you should feel guilty at all, but since the relationship was largely abusive, it would be worse to continue to abuse yourself because of this history. LET IT GO - the pain sounds like it stemmed from her and she is gone.  Your letter actually helped me a lot as I read it as a lot of your point resonated with me....so I thank you for your honestly, clarity...and insight.  That is valuable - not the pain.  Let it go...and as Dr. Phil would say, the past is over, the future hasn't happened yet...the only time is now.  Let go now and the greatest honor your could give her is to let go of the pain and move on.
 
Replied By: pendicup on May 22, 2015, 8:36PM
Dr Phil, I'm  behind and am just watching the Rebecca Ann show where the woman is stalking the family whose twelve year old daughter commited suicide. I cannot tell you how much this saddens and infuriates me.  I have been through two suicides. My Stepdad(who I loved like a father) commited suicide when I was eighteen. I can't even, to this day, express the pain I felt. It took me over ten years to come to terms with and eventually I had intense long term  therapy. In 2013, my worst nightmare came true when my boyfriend commited suicide and I found the body.. He had intentionally commited suicide in my house so I would find him. Ii loved him but could no longer be with him.  I hoped he would get help. Instead, he made me responsible for his death. I almost didn't survive it. The PTSD and depression made me not want to go on anymore.  After almost two years of fighting and intense therapy, I am finally getting better.. The point of my story is that suicide is truly one of the most excruciatingly painful things you can go through. You cannot know the intense , overwhelming emotions  one feels until you go through it. It's like nothing else. The fact that this wound is doing this is criminal. To add to that pain and to theow out allegations is one of the sickest things you can do to a grieving person.  I think she deserves strict prosecution. It just makes me sick. 

 
Replied By: tinyavenger on May 18, 2015, 3:33PM
Dear friends have been trying to help their 33 yr old daughter with drug abuse, alcohol abuse, and now bipolar disorder.  For the past several years, they are now letting her just live in a room in their house and require nothing from her.  She stays in the room all day except to eat and smoke.  Are my friends helping their daughter at this point?  Is it now enabling?  She does not contribute in any way to the household such as chores, etc.  It is KILLING me to watch my friends feel hopeless and see, what use to be a vibrant, active, young lady, waste her life.  Any advice?
 
Replied By: snappedninja on May 13, 2015, 10:01AM
Four years ago this september, I lost my best friend to suicide. I have found it hard to cope at times because the last time I spoke to her we had been arguing. The argument seems pointless now.. Her last words still ring in my ears.. "goodnight, I love you.. I'm sorry". Me being the Stubborn person I can be sometimes, was too angry to reply. Since then I have had a hard time making and maintaining friendships.. The few friends that have stayed with me through this are very understanding and help the best they can when I need to talk about it or am having a bad day. There are still nights I worry who I'm going to speak to for the last time..
 
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