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In the United States, as many as 10 million females and 1 million males are fighting a life-and-death battle with an eating disorder such as anorexia or bulimia. Are you or is someone you love systematically starving themselves? Or do you binge and purge? Share your stories and get support here.

If you or someone you love is suffering with an eating disorder, check out these resources.
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Replied By: corylp on Dec 11, 2014, 10:14PM - In reply to miahamilton
I actually dealt with going through an eating disorder about six years ago. I was roughly 23 years old, a wife, and mother to a newborn. My husband never picked up that I had an eating disorder until he watched a show on tv that was talking about women with eating disorders. They sometimes are extremely hard to pick upon. not only my husband, but my family as well as my in laws didn't even have a clue. When my husband finally figured it out I was down to 69 pounds. Doctors where unable to diagnose me. Finally my husband had taken me to a doctor and right away he was getting me ready for inpatient care. I flew out to Az. we are from ky, but I spent 45 in a place called, remuda ranch. Google it. If you think for one second your daughter may have an eating disorder send her for help. The ranch saved my life. I would recommend it to anyone. I wish you all with your daughter.
 
Replied By: sherryaf333 on Dec 9, 2014, 3:25PM
Dr Phil,

I enjoy your quality of programming. I was watching on local TV your show concerning the dark headed 16 year old who was getting back @ her mother by purging, etc. I was greatly disappointed when you mentioned that 'there are some things even God can't do anything about'. I understand that the work had to be done in the daughter, etc., but I felt your statement might be something that slipped out & you were remiss about saying? To say 'there are some things even God can't do anything about' is a risky statement, not to mention a false claim to make, let alone in front of so many listeners. As far as I see in God's Word, lying is the only thing God is not capable of. Our problems are no problem for Jehovah God who always has a way or a plan. I do enjoy your show.

Sherry Farmer
 
Replied By: miahamilton on Jun 22, 2014, 2:54PM
Depression, Anxiety and Eating Disorder go hand in hand, and one may not be easily recognized.  My 17 years old daughter was diagnosed with depression.  She also became vegan in the last year.  She wants to get well, and we tried different residential, and outpatient facilities.   We were reaching an impasse with her recovery, when she recognized that she has an eating disorder.  By treating her eating disorder at the awesome UCSD Eating Disorder Center, we made huge progress to her recovery.  She gained weight, is eating some meats now, has a better life and coping skills, and looking forward to start school in autumn.  I saw other depressed teens that are skinny vegetarians and are probably restricting themselves to unhealthy and unbalanced eating that contributes to their depression, and not diagnosed with an eating disorder.  I believe it is easy to miss, since the teens may not reach extreme low weights, and this is a new, more prevalent illness of these times.  I recommend the treatment at UCSD ED Center.



 
Replied By: cristaf on May 22, 2014, 9:12PM
how would you help someone who is using dxm to lose weight?
 
Replied By: idontknowwhy on May 20, 2014, 8:13AM
I don't know what keeps me from loosing weight? Twice in my 63 yrs I have lost 60+ pounds. I come right to going under 200 lbs and then I start to over eat again. WHY WILL I NOT ALLOW MYSELF TO REACH A HEALTHY WEIGHT? 


it's like I'm afraid to let myself to reach my goal. I'm in fairly hood health but would be so happy to loose this unhealthy fat! 


ANY ADVICE FROM ANYBODY?
 
Replied By: graciousgrace on May 16, 2014, 11:46PM - In reply to rlb1995
Hi this is called "restrictive eating" which is the road to anorexia. If the person was eating literally nothing, they would die. What you're describing is "a little more than nothing." There are a lot of different eating disorders as well, so please trust your health professional.
 
Replied By: rlb1995 on Mar 25, 2014, 8:53AM
If someone was to be diagnosed as having an "eating disorder" what exactly does that mean? This person does eats small portions (for example in a day they will have a hot chocolate and some mash potato), but they are still eating so why do they think she has an eating disorder and why won't they listen to her when she tells them she is fine?
 
Replied By: docdaye1 on Jan 30, 2014, 1:29PM
When I was or am enmeshed in my eating disorder, I believe it keeps me safe and in control, and makes me desirable. I thought it was there to protect me from myself.”I was wrong.



I suffered from a crippling eating disorder from the age of twelve (I am now 41 yrs old). It robbed me of any life outside of it. As it robbed me of my appearance, my skin, my touch, sight, smell and sound and many other aspects of my life. The moment I woke, my thoughts were dictated by it:  Did I eat too much the day before? What would I have to do to compensate for it? Would I show myself to people today or would I hide from the world until I was thin enough? The eating disorder demanded and I followed, never questioning it.  I missed out on social opportunities because the eating disorder would tell me I was not good enough… I missed out on experiencing my surroundings wherever I went – Even when I did go out into the world, I can’t tell you what I saw because everywhere I went the eating disorder followed. I missed out on relationships because the eating disorder told me I wasn’t worthy.  I missed out on living because I was too busy dying by listening to my eating disorder. Again, the eating disorder promised me a better life all while taking it away.


My recovery started when I realized that I couldn’t go on doing what the eating disorder was asking of me. Slowly, I began to question what it was telling me. With ever question (although at first it was very hard to do), I began to discover that the eating disorder was not only ugly, but it was a liar too. Each opportunity I got as I went through life, I immediately checked in with my body, and the eating disorder shut me down, ,by telling me to ...Say no and don’t waste your time, you won’t get far with it anyway. I knew that for sometime, quite a while, I had been growing sick and tired of being dictated to by this feeling of unworthiness. I had begun to recognize what was happening in my relationship with the eating disorder, just like many of my other relationships. I started to realize that just because my "ED" made a ton of noise when I went against the direction given, I still had the choice to change things and say no.

The eating disorder constantly wanted to jump in, throughout my stages of recovery but with every question I asked myself, I abruptly cut its voice off. I had become willing to wait and let the facts reveal themselves instead of beating myself up with lies. I started to promise myself to have confidence and try to trust myself and not allow the eating disorder to come in. Although I faced many roller coasters throughout my life with ED, and through recovery I was always able to bounce back, even knowing it would somehow end in disaster I kept going, until I could finally see myself, as my true self.


The truth is: it took patience and time in order to catch the lies of the eating disorder. It also took willingness to feel uncomfortable during those times of challenging it. I have found that change is both painful and worth it. I worked with specialists in the eating disorder field and got support by like-minded people who also desperately wanted to recover. Sometimes I fell in my recovery, but I got back up and wiped myself off. I began to refuse to listen to the noise of the eating disorder and each time I did this I gained a little bit of myself back.  My biggest tool was reminding myself that the eating disorder asked me to be perfect while it robbed me of dignity, self and just about everything. Because it’s a liar and a thief. Once I discovered this about the eating disorder it became very difficult to trust it in the way I once had.


Today, I have some recovery, behind me...some relapse, some days are better than others, but I want you to know that I am grateful to be perfectly imperfect and full of human shortcomings. I want you to also know that I now think about my dreams, hopes, passions and purpose instead of the eating disorders demands.  I want you to know, that even if you don’t believe it, that eating disorder recovery is doable and possible… and your life is waiting.

This is my story, my life, what is behind me and infront of me...I share this to help, but also because it has taken a tremendous toll on my body and my skin and I continually look for ways to help regain some youth that was stripped from my appearance.

I hope to spend my life helping and sharing for the hope to touch as many infected lives as I possibly can. This is my purpose and I hope to be flourished with beauty in doing so.

Thank you so much for reading my story, I may not be chosen for the line of Jacqueline's Beauty products, But, I can touch another life, which is the world to me.

My best,
Daye
 
Replied By: elvenfairy on Jan 20, 2014, 9:29AM
The hardest thing about treatment for things like Annorexia is that all of the treatment programs expect you to put your life on hold and live in their facility for weeks at a time.  How can they expect people to be able to drop everything and get treatment?  I have classes to do, family to care for, a house to mind, a job to attend.  Yet these places act as if it's the most natural or easy thing in the world to cast all that asside to be part of their program?  It's no wonder to me why people like myself can't get help!  The universe isn't going to stop and wait patiently while I have doctors help me stop batteling with myself about something like food and my body immage.  The world just doesn't work like that.


Then in addition, no one takes my insurance either.  So even if I did somehow manage to put my life asside, I'd never be able to afford it.  One place I called said it costs $4.000 a WEEK.  I don't make that much money in two MONTHS, never mind a week.



Any advice anyone?
 
Replied By: advicewelcome on Jan 20, 2014, 7:59AM - In reply to integrityhouse
Mr. Dekker, thank you for sharing your experience. Knowing that you are a professional in dealing with eating disorder I was just curious why I was not on my last breath as you had described that 5'6 100 lb 15 year old girl. I am an average 5'5 and lived years at 70lbs. Of course there have to be things internally at crisis but I don't see it. 

I have never sought help because of cultural and financial reasons and have been anorexic and bulemic for 11 years. From everyone's stories I feel like I fall below the weight mean for even people who suffer from eating disorders. Why am I still ok? Why am I not on my "last breath" like people you have taken into your facility? Any insight is well appreciated. Thank you. 

 
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