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Jackie and Darin say their 17-year-old son, Bo, is out of control. He’s currently facing two felony DUI charges -- one for allegedly running someone over and another for allegedly wrecking his car after blacking out because of huffing air duster. Is there a reason for Bo’s behavior? And, with his 18th birthday and court coming up, can Dr. Phil get through to him in time? Plus, Jackie, Darin and Bo come face to face with another guest, Janelle – who knows all too well what it’s like to live with loss after one reckless and selfish act. (OAD: 11-30-16)

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: cijaym on Mar 17, 2017, 1:21AM
I had to rewind and listen to it again to make sure I heard it properly.

You want help for him "Before it's too late." Too late for what? Are you saying it won't be a tragedy until HE is the one who is dead? It is already BEYOND "too late". He has already run over someone...is there NO respect for that person or his family? They apparently got no respect from the legal system and you're rubbing salt in their wounds by saying that what he did was not as bad as the day down the road when he gets killed.

I'm going to tell you something about being "too late". Some guy hit my mother with his truck. He was twice over the limit. He shattered her entire left side, her head hit the road, smashed her skull, fragments went into her brain and her brain mooshed out the back of her head. This was his second DUI. So does he get another chance before it's "too late"? Or would you say 'too late' would have been the time that he just got caught in a Check Stop and didn't hurt anyone?

You have given your son the power (and blessing) to kill people all because you don't want to fight or hurt his feelings or some other excuse. The next time he gets picked up - you should go to jail too. And if you were so disgusted that they printed his name in the paper because he's a minor - you're not and your face should be put on the front page of the paper.

On behalf of all victims of drinking and driving incidents (we don't use the word 'accident'), thanks a heap.
 
Replied By: emoon_1 on Mar 16, 2017, 8:50PM
Very sad case. Def troubled boy and needs to be helped and stopped. Yes the parents made big mistakes but you keep thinking if u keep loving them they will come around. However, in this case he injured others and was a threat to himself as well so giving him cars as long as he was drinking and doing drugs was neglectful to a serious degree on the parents part. Hope Dr. Phil's help will give the young man a life he can be proud if. Parents need help as well.
 
Replied By: julia_m on Mar 16, 2017, 4:44PM
This young man is both entitled and extremely irresponsible. And, his mommy has made that possible for him. Her refusal to allow him to experience the consequences of his criminal behavior has enabled him to continue to abuse drugs, drive while intoxicated, and continue with his reckless attitude towards the law and his actions. He seems to think that he should be able to ignore any law that he feels is unfair or inconvenient. He is extremely immature. Until he experiences the full impact of his criminal, dangerous, and self destructive behavior, he will continue to act out. He absolutely should be sitting in jail charged with a least one felony. 


I'm not really sure that his mommy really understands just how she has both enabled and disabled her son; thus I am doubtful that she will change her behavior without very serious intervention. And, it is unclear just what the impact of the dad's anger might be in this situation. At least he wanted to keep Bo in jail. But, he agreed to buy him another car and allow him to continue to drive and also allowed him to keep the cell phone and continue to ignore his therapy appts.. 



If this was my son, he would not have a car; he would not have a cell phone, he would go straight to school and straight home afterwards.If he tested dirty for drugs just once, I would do everything possible to get him into a treatment center, I would personally escort him to his psychotherapist and make sure that he kept the appointments. He would have sat in jail to learn that a DUI is an extremely serious crime.


 
Replied By: hulumaude on Mar 16, 2017, 3:41PM - In reply to lizawren
Lovely post, livawren.
 
Replied By: hulumaude on Mar 16, 2017, 3:37PM
Not to condone the parents but I wouldn't vilify them either. I think it is extremely easy for the parents to make a wrong decision or two when a beloved child goes wrong. Remember, they were not sitting in their living rooms calmly deciding on a remote issue, they were in the middle of a living nightmare. And they are, after all, on the Dr. Phil show. They must know he will not let them off the hook. 

The kid seems under the influence even on the show. At first glance anyway, it appears he comes from a decent family and decent background, environment, etc. So my guess is he has an underlying, undiagnosed mental illness. Or, he simply fell in with the wrong crowd, experimented with alcohol/drugs and quickly got addicted. 

In any case, I think he is already pretty well out of his parents' reach now. He will be dealt with by the criminal justice system and probably locked up for a long time. 
 
Replied By: jrod4901 on Mar 16, 2017, 1:07PM
Hello,  We have 3 children of our own and have been blessed that they have not followed into the woods that I have myself been in since I was 20.  I looked for many different ways and reasons for the bad habits I had done (alcohol, drugs, sex).  Now that I am coming out of the woods at 52 I have come to learn that I hated myself so much that it was very easy to destroy something I hated. I did'nt see the love that everyone else has for me only the blinding focus to destroy that person in the mirror. The hope we carry with this is that they are strong enough survive it.  As a parent , we can only sit on the sideline, cheer for them to make the right call, and sooth them when they fall. Just pray and have faith the years you invested in showing them the rigth path pays off.






-Joseph
 
Replied By: lizawren on Mar 16, 2017, 10:38AM - In reply to clonella
You said:

"These idiots and their criminal spawn literally make me want to PUKE.Of course we will help this fool.Meanwhile me living on disability at aalmost 60 has had no heat or hot water for two years,a leaky roof in my modest mobile home causing black mold,dental issue eating away my jawbone,having to ride the bus to the closest town and lug heavy food and dog food because I have no car and live in the sticks.Ya throw all the $ in the world at this waste of carbon.The worse they are the more help they get.What an absolute travesty."

Sounds like you're in a lot of pain. The dental problem alone would be enough to get someone down. I have all sorts of advice I could give because I used to work for VOA where we helped people in similar situations to yours. But the thing you need to have first is a hopeful, open attitude. I understand you're frustrated and in pain but instead of being angry that this person got help and you didn't, I wish instead it would give you hope that, if someone like this can get help, you can find some too.

Believe it or not, I could make a long list of positives in your life just from reading your post. Don't believe me? Here goes:

* You live in a country where you can receive disability money rather than being left in the street to die.
* You're relatively young (younger than me, and I'm not old:)
* You have clean water that you do not have to carry to your home.
* Some of the difficulties in your life -- no heat, hot water -- are readily fixable.
* You have a home of your own, and have a roof over your head -- leaks are fixable.
* The mold is a big problem, but it is also fixable. Keep in mind it might not be black mold.
* You are able to get transportation to acquire the things you need.
* You live in a rural area, which is a luxury many cannot afford. We recently moved to the country after living in a large city for 20 years and it is heaven on earth!
* You are able to have a pet who provides unconditional love.
* You are strong enough to carry a bag of dog food.
* You have access to the internet.
* You are articulate, which is a great and rare gift.

If you would like for me to dust off my old VOA skills and try to find help for you in your area, I will be glad to do whatever I can. Of course, I can't guarantee anything, but if you message me with your location I will see what I can find. I can also share the strategies we taught to help people improve their lives. It might just surprise you!
 
Replied By: aintnofoolnomo on Dec 1, 2016, 2:18PM
I'm a long time member of Nar-Anon Family Groups; I am forever thankful that this program offered me a way out of my misery.  Although I blamed the addict in my life for all my problems, it took working my own program of recovery to stop "helping" my son to live in his addiction.


Dr. Phil is helping families get honest about their denial and enabling: both can kill.  Dr. Phil often says, "When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequence."  Consequences are the "life lessons" that help us get clarity on what is healthy and unhealthy.  When parents get in the way of their child's consequences, they rob the child of opportunities to grow up and mature.  


Nar-Anon helped me learn how to "get out of the way" and to redirect my focus on the only person I could change: myself.


Please join me: www.nar-anon.org
 
Replied By: soaper54 on Dec 1, 2016, 11:33AM - In reply to pinkee1951
With your assessment the parents have not made this kid accountable for his actions ever. Yep thought the same he smmes like he is drugs and/or something.
 
Replied By: soaper54 on Dec 1, 2016, 11:25AM
Sorry but these parents should have stopped this right away!!! 2 new cars-what about him working for a car? The parents are not helping by showing more BAD behavior. This kid sounds like he has been spoiled all his life. Why did he not work as a teen?
 
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