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Dawn says she has become increasingly afraid of her 8-year-old son, Gaje, who she says is out of control -- and has threatened to kill her multiple times. She says Gaje flies into rages where he swears, hits, kicks, spits and throws things -- once even punching her in the stomach while she was pregnant. Dawn also says Gaje has become violent at school, where he head-butted a teacher and broke her nose. Dr. Phil has some tough questions for Dawn and Gaje’s father, Lee, who admit they had a volatile relationship before their divorce, when Gaje was 3. How may have those early experiences affected their son? Plus, Gaje’s stepfather, Mike, admits he spanks Gaje to discipline him, because nothing else seems to work -- but is that the best approach? Then, Dr. Phil sits down with Gaje for a revealing one-on-one talk. What does he think is at the root of the boy’s anger? And, how can the family help Gaje get back on track? Then, Crystal suffers from Fibromyalgia and says the chronic pain and fatigue are taking a toll on her -- and her marriage. Dr. Freda Lewis-Hall, Chief Medical Officer of Pfizer, shares important information about managing the disease. Will Crystal finally find some relief?

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: itsybitsynz on Aug 12, 2014, 9:37PM
Hi All

This show has just aired in New Zealand so I am very late to the message board. My son has had similar meltdowns to the boy in this show - not to that extreme luckily. We have worked hard to teach him self-regulation over the years. We traced the problem to anxiety (fear) from issues at school. We still have the occasional violent outburst but no where near where they used to be and that's usually when over-tired. 


I would love to know if I need to have my son checked for a similar neurological condition as the boy in this show or was it something to do with his (diagnosed) giftedness and learning difficulties (twice exceptional)? Who else would I talk to find out? I don't want to be letting him down in life if there are more issues than we have approached. 


Thanks! 
 
Replied By: goldenbeach on Jun 29, 2014, 12:47AM - In reply to kittty56
For your compassionate words.  I wanted to jump into the television and give that boy a hug.

I wish he was permanently with his father, who seems softer and kinder.

So disappointed that Dr Phil did not tell the mother and stepfather to NEVER hit the boy again, and NEVER hold him so he can't move.  That alone would make anybody seethe with anger and frustration..



 
Replied By: strine on Jun 23, 2014, 11:47PM
This little boy goes from one home to another. In one home he's left alone to play video games for hours (no wonder he has such a wide vocabulary of swear words and violent utterances for an 8yr old), in that same home he is ignored pretty much until he does something wrong, in that same home when he does something wrong he is spanked. In the other home he seems to get attention, talked with about what he did wrong and ways to do things differently, not spanked.

Seems his mother and stepfather want him out of the way while they live their life together. Poor kid. For the mother, if a therapist tells you not to let your child play those video games and you continue ignoring them while they play them- YOU ARE NOT DOING EVERYTHING THEY SUGGEST (like you said you are).
 
Replied By: khaleesivirge on Apr 8, 2014, 3:28PM
I feel no sympathy for this child. Parents divorce all the time these days and yet this boys behavior is completely unacceptable! How can you love a child who behaves this way? The Bible says spare the rod, spoil the child. These days Doctors are throwing meds down our children's throats left and right, and yes, sometimes there is good reason but after your child head-butts you in the face or bites you there still has to be a consequence! I saw this kid playing video games on the show.. Why is he being rewarded for bad behavior? And why is there a door to his room?! Seriously? Then the parents wonder why they didn't know their kid was building a bomb in the basement.. He has all the signs of Crazy. That's my opinion.
 
Replied By: mssmbarcomb on Apr 1, 2014, 12:24AM - In reply to debbyjean
Although I am much better than when I first got sick, I still have pain daily... I was always a hard worker and always had more than one job too. Now people look at me and say you don't look sick why aren't you working. I don't know anyone who would keep an employee after calling in sick so many days out of the month. I very rarely see any talk shows talking about this disease . i love Dr. Phil and wish he would do more about Fibromyalgia so people can understand it. I lost a year of my life when I first got sick because although they couldn't find anything wrong with me they treated the pain and I was so doped up I almost over dosed on medicines that were prescribed by doctor. My family and I then found a specialist would basically saved my life. On good days I try to get everything done because I never know what degree of pain I will have the next day. No one can understand unless they have this horrible disease how much it takes out of you to function with pain 24/7...I always say I hope you never have to walk in my shoes and feel my pain. I have recently moved to a warmer climate which I feel helps a little too.
 
Replied By: kittty56 on Mar 27, 2014, 8:45AM
I've just been watching for half an hour now, and that poor child!! So far, I haven't heard anything from the parents telling Gaje that they LOVE him, no hugging, nothing!! I cannot believe the mother just grabbing him where he can't move!! I can't see so far, one thing he did. He's a child!! He threw a block and he gets punished for it?? Let him throw a block, leave him ALONE!!! If he locks himself in his room?? Why do you go after him?? Leave him alone!!! HUG HIM!!! Tickle him, love on him!! All he knows is getting in trouble. And why does he have access to any kind of knives, etc?? Don't ya think, you'd lock them up somewhere?? TERRIBLE parenting... Kiss, kiss Gaje. God Bless you!!
 
Replied By: colabear10 on Mar 24, 2014, 3:16PM
Dr. Phil,

This show totally devastated me. I can't stand to see children being punished on your show. I realize it's part of what really goes on in those childrens homes but it tears my heart out. I cried for Gaje and I cried because I witnessed him being spanked. What made it even worse was that it wasn't even his own dad. I think  too many parents get physical with their children because of lack of patience. I wasn't able to write this until today because I was so upset.  I appreciate your show bringing attention to these children with neurological problems. I just wish it didn't show the punishments of these childrens. It made me sick to my stomach to see that mother allowing someone to spank her child. The spanking looked pretty hard to me so I can only imagine what it is like when cameras aren't there. I pray for Gaje to get the help he needs and that his little spirit is mended so he can enjoy being a child.


Thank you,

 
Replied By: donnajm316 on Mar 23, 2014, 7:26AM - In reply to bendpadgett
I hope you saw my post about my experience with my grandson. Please consider changing his diet. It has worked wonders in our case. We are filling their little bodies so full of toxins that their livers can't keep up with it and it comes out as anger. As soon as you stop giving him hot dogs (nitrites and nitrates), food dyes (in everything marketed to children including juice and fruit snacks), high fructose corn syrup (also in everything) and gluten, you will see a major difference. What we did was put him on what we call the "Trader Joes Diet". So many good foods, he won't even notice the change. Even Walmart sells alot of good healthy foods. You still have to watch for nitrites and nitrates though. Now that his system is cleaned out, we have started giving him foods with gluten again and can tolerate small amounts of the other foods. In our case, the worse culprit was red dye #40. Look it up on the internet and you'll see how it affects children. We thought our grandson had ADD or ADHD or Aspergers. Nope, none of the above. It is a slow process, but after 1-1/2 years, we have a perfectly normal, well adjusted 6 year old. Our proof came one day after we had already changed his diet. He was sick and had not eaten for 24 hours. My mom bought him some cherry Pedialyte. I didn't realize it had red dye #40. Within 10 minutes of consuming it, he went crazy. Banging his head on the wall and screaming. 


The other thing we did was cut out video games and tv shows that were not rated G. No violence. Research showed that even his favorite show, Scooby Doo, contained more violence than he should see at that age. 


I wish you luck and hope you'll take my advice. 
 
Replied By: cardiomom on Mar 20, 2014, 3:15PM
As I was watching the re-run from last week's show, my heart went out to Crystal.  I was diagnosed with cardiomyopathy approximately 13 years ago and, at the time, I was a single mom with two boys who were 7 and 2.  At the time, I was diagnosed, I was extremely lethargic and had difficulties perfomring tasks, especially as the day wore on.  I found myself being exhausted around 2-3 in the afternoon and I knew I had to get through the end of my work day to go pick up my boys and then get through a night of caring for them before I could truly relax.

I did find many years where the medicine helped and brought my EF (Ejection Fraction) from approximately 30 to about 55, which helped my energy levels tremendously.  Now, as I age, the past year has been difficlt because one of my main medicines quit working and they didn't realize that was why I was so sick for several months.  Since being on the new medicine, I still don't feel quite right, but I'm better than I was.  I still  need to go in for more evaluations... seems this disease takes a while to stabilize due to waiting for the meds to work their way through your system.

I only share all of this because it is so hard for those around me, especially my children and my boyfriend, to understand when I "crash".  Everyone wants to know "what's wrong with me?" and "can't you just do one more thing?"... all because there is no outward physical appearance to show that I just can't take any more.  As awful as it is to say, it would be so much easier to have an illness that shows physical signs of deterioration so everyone, including myself, would be more sympathetic to the nature of cardiomyopathy (and fibromyalgia for Crystal)... instead, there is a push to constantly do more and "get over it"!

I don't have any answers, but I know I feel blessed because, unlike Crystal, I do not have to rush to the emergency room every time have an episode.  I usually just break and make everyone around me crazy... Of course, my answer is that if they would step up to the plate and help out more, things would be easier for me.

Bless you, Crystal, and may your family become more understanding and rise to the challenge of being more helpful to you!
 
Replied By: sheena88a on Mar 19, 2014, 10:49AM
Hello Dr. Phil,

I am glad that you broached the topic of Fibromyalgia on your show. I am 25 and have suffered from Fibromyalgia for almost 10 years now.

At first I didn't know what was wrong. It started with muscular dicomfort and pains in my knee and went on to spread on my entire right side - shoulder down till the sole of my foot. Now it has taken over the rest of my body too. Around the age of 17 I started going to various Orthopedic surgeons and getting X-rays done but no one found anything.

At the age of 16 I also started getting what I would call panic attacks and extreme anxiety. I tried talking to my family about it but I looked normal and they thought I just liked coming up with various illnesses or problems for attention. "its all in your head' they said. Apparently they were right. After 7 years of no solution, no support and endless pain, I was diagnosed with Epilepsy and Fibromyalgia - an extremely draining combination, both physically and mentally.  All these years the scary anxiety attacks that I thought I got were actually complex partial seizures that had gotten worse with time.

Today, my daily diet of meds include anti-eplileptics, muscle relaxants and anti-depressants. Sometimes its depressing to think of my life as it is at this age but I am glad illnesses like Fibromyalgia are finally being talked about so more and more people know about it (including doctors who find it convenient to go with the wrong diagnosis or none at all)

My family has only recently accepted the idea of my illnesses. Before being diagnosed, they weren't supportive of me seeing phychiatrists or psychologists as they didn't want a demeaning label on their daughter. Then they equated Epilepsy with being Mad and insisted I keep hush about it. They even insisted I move back home as I was going to be permanently ill. My family reactions have always been very discouraging - either when they thought I was faking it or when they come across as over sympathetic but ashamed of my problems at the same time. It is painful to think that I could have done without years of those seizures if only they believed me.

I hope your show will drive more awareness and rationality into the homes of all parents watching it and lead them to think about their children's concerns a few times before coming to any conclusion. I hope they also learn that it is not, in any circumstance, reasonable to dismiss or ignore one's childrens' problems.



Best,

S
 
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