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Danielle claims that her husband of nearly 10 years, John, has been living a secret life, and she’s now questioning everything about their relationship -- and ready to file for divorce. She says her suspicions first began in 2010, when she found out that John had been communicating with men online, looking for sex. Then, in November 2012, Danielle says she made another shocking discovery -- John had downloaded child pornography to the family computer. She says she’s concerned about the safety of their two kids -- and needs some definitive answers. John insists that the child porn was accidentally downloaded, and though he admits to reaching out to men online, he says he never actually met up with anyone in person. How does he explain his actions? Dr. Phil doesn’t mince words with John, who is adamant that he’s ready to be completely honest, in the hopes of saving his marriage -- and keeping his family intact. He agrees to take a polygraph test to prove that he has not had any sexual contact with men or with children -- what will the results reveal?

Find out what happened on the show.
Replied By: softee on Apr 20, 2014, 4:28AM - In reply to timball56
I thought he could be a sex addict too.

from the episode. i felt as though the only reason why he went for men in the first place is because he knows he can get sex way more easily with a man than with women. i have an instinct that he sees them all as a peice of meat so the gender doesn't matter.
Replied By: livelysoul62 on Feb 25, 2014, 11:27AM
My divorce became final 10 days before my 29th wedding anniversary. Nine months earlier I had stumbled on to my ex-husband's secrete life because condoms had fallen out of his pocket (which we never used). I found he was hooking up with men and women from CraigsList via computer history. I found pictures of him in the act with both men and women (and no condoms!). I found pictures of him dressed in women's lingerie'. I found all sort of sex toys that didn't make sense. I also found near $10,000 cash which to this day can't be explained. I found out that my ex-husband had been leading this life since 2004. I always had a gut feeling something wasn't right and accepted responsibility for a less than satisfying marriage. When I found all my ex-husband's lies, I was horrified yet relieved at the same time. Divorce was my only option. I couldn't live with him and always wonder what was going on. We have two children – at the time they were in 6th and 11th grades. To this day they do not know the reason for the divorce other than, Mom and Dad are happier not living together. I haven't felt so good about myself in so long. It's a tough road but so worth it in the end. I would recommend divorce to Danielle because she will never trust John again.
Replied By: browngirl507 on Feb 24, 2014, 7:57PM
Wake up... your calling craigslist people lunatics but ur husband is on that same sight. You dont know what he does in bed with others. I dont blame you at all for not sleeping with him anymore or for taking off your ring. DIVORCE!!!
Replied By: cmsvmom on Feb 24, 2014, 5:01PM
Danielle, please contact the Straight Spouse network ( www.straightsp[ if you have not already done so.  My ex was gay and denied it too.  And I heard all that stuff about how this was so normal and something was wrong with me for "labeling" him etc.  The Straight Spouse Network saved my life.  You cannot continue to be mired in his drama.  Talk to people who know what you are going through, in complete confidence.
Replied By: missd09 on Feb 24, 2014, 2:03PM
It's sad to see Dr. Phil pressure this man into admitting that he is gay or bisexual. Same gender attraction should not define a person. I believe that people can abstain from feelings of same gender attraction with the right support. That support should include love, not hate or pressure. If a person chooses to act on feelings of same gender attraction, that is their choice and I am not one to judge them, I'm sure there are plenty of choice of mine that they wouldn't agree with, but I also don't think it's right for society to tell people that if they have these feelings that that is who they are and they need to stop lying to themselves and embrace and admit it. There are many people who do not want to embrace that lifestyle but who are convinced that because of those feelings it is the only way to live. Where is the support for people who want to harness those feelings and live a lifestyle that they feel God approves of? Some feelings are meant to be resisted, we aren't animals who must act on every whim and desire before us. Again, if you feel that nothing is wrong with it and you want to live that way, that's fine, that is your choice, but simply because you are happy with such a lifestyle does not mean another person would be.
Replied By: timball56 on Feb 24, 2014, 11:43AM
I viewed this show with my wife. From what I saw and heard  I sensed that John was a Sex addict
and possibly has other addictions as well. I didnt understand why Dr. Phil didn't bring that out on the show.

I hope John will be able to get help  and attend one of the programs Dr. Phil has to help guys with addictions..I am still dealing with my own addictions and Demons. Thanks for  airing this show. I really Appreciate it.
Replied By: loyalalways on Feb 24, 2014, 12:02AM - In reply to raynedays
You also can't call yourself a Christian if you're going to judge others. The bible does NOT condone judging other people, either. Jesus told us that we were to love everyone as we love ourselves. He didn't say, "Love everyone as yourselves, except for those gay people or anyone else you might believe are sinners." You seem to be intolerant with any people who don't agree with your thinking or beliefs. To say that you'll never watch Dr. Phil again because you don't agree with this particular show sounds like someone throwing a temper tantrum because his beliefs are different from yours. It's not as though he stood up for a child molester. However, I admire that you don't cuss, using foul language because someone doesn't agree with you. I see that so much on comment boards.

A good Christian does NOT judge others. It's not up to any of us to say who's a Christian and who isn't, or who's a sinner and who isn't??? Just because someone interprets something differently from your thinking doesn't make them wrong. The bible was written by HUMANS, not Jesus. I was taught by the nuns that if you don't think you're doing anything wrong, then you're NOT doing anything wrong, no matter what anyone else says or thinks. The important thing is what you believe in your heart. I was taught that God and Jesus loved EVERYONE and forgave everyone.

A minister once told me to think of Jesus' and God's love as being the same as a mother for her child. That really put it into perspective for me. A mother will forgive pretty-well anything that her child does. The love and bond between a mother and her child is stronger than absolutely anything. In fact, I can't think of a thing that my son or daughter could do that I wouldn't forgive or make me stop loving them.

There's not a perfect person on the face of the earth. If you're going to leave everyone who doesn't think or believe what you do, then you're going to be a very lonely person. LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE.
Replied By: la1964 on Feb 23, 2014, 10:45PM - In reply to jselden
I, too, am a Christian who is a gay rights advocate. I LOVE Jesus. More than anything else. I know that He loves me. I try each day to walk in His way and do His will. While Jesus did state that anyone who harmed a child would be better off with a millstone hung from their neck and cast into a well, not once did He mention homosexuality. You can judge me any way you like, and I know you will, but I would remind you to judge not, lest you are judged. I am every bit as assured as you or any other person of my place with God, in this life and the next. I pray and hope for more of us to truly love one another, as Christ intended.
Replied By: krnhim on Feb 23, 2014, 10:14AM
I think for this husband to be able to get help and healing, someone needs to explore the fact that he was molested as a child.  I think they'll find that it's linked to his interest in child pornography as well as to his experiences with homosexuality.  He obviously does not want to be gay and is repelled by it.  In this case, I don't think it would be wise to send him to a therapist who will try to get him to accept his homosexuality.
Replied By: ohthat on Feb 23, 2014, 7:23AM
This is a video from Walter Lee Hampton II. He wants to know "Why did so many ... GAY MEN marry WOMEN knowing they were GAY?"

Anyone else agree with Walter?
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