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Rabecca claims that three-and-a-half years ago, her mother, Debra, tricked her into signing over legal guardianship of her 4-year-old daughter, Dezira, while she was suffering from postpartum depression. She says that since then, Debra has developed an intense attachment to Dezira and has gone to great lengths to keep her daughter from her, including taking Dezira for the night -- and then hiding her for three months. Debra says she believes the child belongs in her care, claiming Rabecca never bonded with Dezira as an infant and willingly signed over guardianship. She also alleges that Rabecca, who has two other daughters, is an unfit and neglectful mother -- so why isn’t Debra fighting to take the other children? Hear the shocking reason why Debra says she's contacted Child Protective Services -- and Rabecca’s response to the allegations. Plus, could something from Debra’s past be motivating her desire to parent Dezira? And, what does Dr. Phil think is the best outcome for the child? Can this mother and daughter find common ground before the courts make their decisions for them?

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: allycatyson on Feb 24, 2014, 9:32PM - In reply to rabecca87
OMG. How did you keep it together for the entire show without ripping that smug look of her face? Well done.  Your frustration and 'hands tied' were very apparent, which is why I assume Dr Phil spoke to 'her' most of the time and not you.  A lesser (wo)man would have lost it. I was sreaming at the tv watching it, but I read in the comments that you now have your daughter back.  Only time and YOU can heal the damage that woman has done and I hope you get help getting her to trust you and ignore that women's voice implanted in her head :(

 You are soooo brave and no one deserved the hand you were dealt, luckily she gave you up for adoption as a baby, because imagine if you had've turned out like her? She does not deserve the title mother, you on the other hand do.  Any good mother like you would fight for her baby back and you did and you won.  Only someone who has suffered from post natal or depression in general can comprehend the why behind you letting your daughter go in the first place, and I get it.

You trusted that women and I am sure would never have known the outcome, as it eventually unfolded, would've come to having to fight her to get her back.

Thanking God right now that I sat and watched today's show.  I hope you can forgive her and heal.  Your beautiful deserve a mother like you.

Blessings from Oz
 
Replied By: aussiemumkate on Feb 24, 2014, 9:01PM - In reply to rabecca87
Hi Rebecca

I live in Australia and your show just went to air here today. 
I saw a post on here that you got your kids back!


I am so thrilled for you! 


Can you tell us how it happened? Did you have to go to court?


Glad i worked out in the end! <3
 
Replied By: cheekygal77 on Feb 24, 2014, 8:41PM - In reply to rabecca87
Fantastic to hear you have your daughter back. It's obvious your mother means well but has her own issues. Pray you all can resolve them one day
 
Replied By: ecjones1104 on Jan 7, 2014, 2:17PM - In reply to girlbiker
I think that Dr.Phil saw right through the grandmother and therefor didn't need to divulge into the daughters past as much. Maybe those instances were not relevent to the decision making process? The fact is - she is the bilogical mother, she got her life together and has 2 siblings and a father figure for the daughter and can provide her a happy loving home. If there was no proof of abuse or neglect then why shouldn't this child be with her mother and siblings?
If the grandmother truly cares about the child (can't say children since she obviously doesn't have the same affection for her other grandchildren) she would be more concerned with helping HER daughter be the mother she couldn't. Then again....kind of like the blind leading the blind there isn't it?
 
Replied By: ecjones1104 on Jan 7, 2014, 2:08PM - In reply to elmopalooza12
...so based on your logic the mother doesn't deserve a second chance because in a desperate time she relied on HER MOTHER to help her and now that HER MOTHER refuses to give the child back she should just give up?
And thought I don't disagree with you, post partum is very serious...it's one thing to use that as a reason in the beginning but the child is 4 and she has  had another child since then. I know there are cases of depressed mothers taking their children's lives because of situations like this but I think that in this case that is a far cry - and if ANYONE seemed desperate enough to do something like that it would be the grandmother - the same one seemingly making up molestation and abuse stories to keep her grandaughter out of her mothers care.

 
Replied By: elmopalooza12 on Dec 14, 2013, 9:38PM
I'm sorry but this woman KNOWINGLY signed away her rights to her kid not once, but THREE times? And yet she claims she was tricked? Is she really that stupid? Did she not read the documents before she signed them? And also, she claims she has PPD but didn't treat it for fear of being put on meds? I understand that not everyone wants to be medicated. But PPD can be dangerous if left untreated. She has 3 children. ANd clearly no husband(at least not at that time). Sorry but not all  children belong with their mothers! Too many kids get hurt or killed by their parents hands.
 
Replied By: lanna89 on Dec 14, 2013, 8:09AM
It is clear to me that although there are problems on both sides that this little girl belongs with her Mother. Both sides seemed overly hostile towards one another. But this child deserves a relationship with both a loving Mother and a loving Grandmother. But a child belongs with their natural parent whenever it is possible and safe to do so. The other issues between the Grandmother and her daugher need to addressed in therapy. She has no right to judge her own daughters mothering. She herself was an absent Mother and made many mistakes as a parent. The Grandmother seems to have many issues with regrets she has about mistakes she made with her own children and she is trying for a "do over" with her granddaughter. That is not right. Again. This little girl should be allowed to have a loving relationship with both her Mother and Grandmother. A child can use all the love she can get.
 
Replied By: ywastll on Dec 14, 2013, 1:15AM
I could not believe what I was watching and hearing with this story. I have been in a custody battle with my adopted mother with my own first born child, who is now 6 years old. She did the same thing where she used my daughter's special needs and for her to help me take care of her she would need her name on certain documents at the doctor's.

It was not until I got married to my husband when my daughter was almost 3 years old that I was aware that what she was actually doing was trying to take her away from me. My husband tried to tell me over and over again but I never believed him. I thought for sure she was just helping me because my daughter at-home nursing care. I was constantly rejected by the nurse staff and my mother because I was a young mom and I was looked down on because I suffered from depression. But my love for my children has always been the light in the darkness that I've have to endure in my life.

After my husband and I separated, I had moved back in with my adopted mother. During that time, I had gotten arrested for a small misdemeanor, my first time ever being arrested for anything like that, and my children were to stay with my mom until I worked with social services for 45 days. I did all that I needed to do and my children were given back to me. After that time, my mother had removed me and my son from the home but told me because of my daughter's condition that she was to stay with her and she told CPS that she didnt want her to leave because it was "all that she knew".. but she always knew I was her mother. I asked her what I needed to do in order to get her to live with me. She told me I needed to find a home and get help with my depression.

I started a program where I got help for 3 months and my husband and I got back together, we got a 4 bedroom house, so my daughter would have her own room, and when I brought up that she had a room and I was ready for her to come live with me, she denied me to see her. After a few days of her avoiding my calls, I finally called the police and asked them to escort me to go get my daughter. I still had full custody of my daughter at that time. She pleaded that I couldn't take care of her and they told her that I was her mother. My daughter ran up to me and was smiling that night. She was in no way unhappy to see me and that much was clear to the police who were there.

2 days after I got my daughter, I had 2 policemen show up at my door with a court document telling me that my grandma put an order in with a judge saying that my daughter was not safe living with me in my home. The same thing with this mother, they told me it was a civil issue, so I had to wait until court. My adopted mother wrote an entire document with a lawyer full of lies that not only untrue but I didn't know about it until the day of court when we went in. The judge looked at me and all she told me was I need to get my act together.

No one has investigated me or looked into the home of my mother. She is a hoarder, she lives in filth, she does clean out her own fridge. My home was clean, we had food, and not only that, but I have 2 other children, 1 being a step-child, but a small child at the age of 3. When I talk to lawyers, they question me because I am a stay-at-home mother but my husband works full-time and I want to go bac to school. I am not illiterate and I love my children so much. I tell my daughter she is beautiful every time I see her. And I know that my adopted family is manipulating her to think I don't like her or dont want her because they did the same thing with my biological family, and my real mother committed suicide 3 years ago, and I never got a chance to meet her. I wish there was something I could do. I am not giving up. I see my daughter every other night, but it is not enough. I know I am a good mother.

My heart goes out to this mother because my story is so much like hers. I am bawling because I thought I was alone in this.
 
Replied By: ywastll on Dec 14, 2013, 1:12AM
I could not believe what I was watching and hearing with this story. I have been in a custody battle with my adopted mother with my own first born child, who is now 6 years old. She did the same thing where she used my daughter's special needs and for her to help me take care of her she would need her name on certain documents at the doctor's.

It was not until I got married to my husband when my daughter was almost 3 years old that I was aware that what she was actually doing was trying to take her away from me. My husband tried to tell me over and over again but I never believed him. I thought for sure she was just helping me because my daughter at-home nursing care. I was constantly rejected by the nurse staff and my mother because I was a young mom and I was looked down on because I suffered from depression. But my love for my children has always been the light in the darkness that I've have to endure in my life.

After my husband and I separated, I had moved back in with my adopted mother. During that time, I had gotten arrested for a small misdemeanor, my first time ever being arrested for anything like that, and my children were to stay with my mom until I worked with social services for 45 days. I did all that I needed to do and my children were given back to me. After that time, my mother had removed me and my son from the home but told me because of my daughter's condition that she was to stay with her and she told CPS that she didnt want her to leave because it was "all that she knew".. but she always knew I was her mother. I asked her what I needed to do in order to get her to live with me. She told me I needed to find a home and get help with my depression.

I started a program where I got help for 3 months and my husband and I got back together, we got a 4 bedroom house, so my daughter would have her own room, and when I brought up that she had a room and I was ready for her to come live with me, she denied me to see her. After a few days of her avoiding my calls, I finally called the police and asked them to escort me to go get my daughter. I still had full custody of my daughter at that time. She pleaded that I couldn't take care of her and they told her that I was her mother. My daughter ran up to me and was smiling that night. She was in no way unhappy to see me and that much was clear to the police who were there.

2 days after I got my daughter, I had 2 policemen show up at my door with a court document telling me that my grandma put an order in with a judge saying that my daughter was not safe living with me in my home. The same thing with this mother, they told me it was a civil issue, so I had to wait until court. My adopted mother wrote an entire document with a lawyer full of lies that not only untrue but I didn't know about it until the day of court when we went in. The judge looked at me and all she told me was I need to get my act together.

No one has investigated me or looked into the home of my mother. She is a hoarder, she lives in filth, she does clean out her own fridge. My home was clean, we had food, and not only that, but I have 2 other children, 1 being a step-child, but a small child at the age of 3. When I talk to lawyers, they question me because I am a stay-at-home mother but my husband works full-time and I want to go bac to school. I am not illiterate and I love my children so much. I tell my daughter she is beautiful every time I see her. And I know that my adopted family is manipulating her to think I don't like her or dont want her because they did the same thing with my biological family, and my real mother committed suicide 3 years ago, and I never got a chance to meet her. I wish there was something I could do. I am not giving up. I see my daughter every other night, but it is not enough. I know I am a good mother.

My heart goes out to this mother because my story is so much like hers. I am bawling because I thought I was alone in this.
 
Replied By: upsydasy on Dec 13, 2013, 9:12PM - In reply to rabecca87
I'm so happy for you and your children.  I'm sure that there will be even more reasons now to celebrate at Christmas. 
 
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