I am so very sorry for your loss, I cannot even imagine your grief.  I am totally impressed with the two of you and the love you have for each other, that came through loud and clear.  You are obviously in love and I am quite taken by your strength.  Jeremy you appear to be a wonderful husband and seem to know what you need to know.  The two of you are strong and will prevail.  May God be with you.

I know the sister flaked. The point is that the preschool should have known that Grandma was not allowed to pick up the kids alone. Instead they said "Well she looks okay to us" and handed the kids over! They should be sued for that. They are supposed to protect the kids in their care and they failed. They handed the kids over to a woman who was not allowed to be alone with them, mom told them that.

You know I often think to myself whenever I’m being judged that whoever is judging me at that moment will probably forget all about me in a very short time, while I carry the weight of their criticism much longer than I should.  And that is the wrong thing to do.  I can’t speak for everyone, but I think that you have apologized enough.  It’s time now to turn the page and move on with your life in a positive light surrounded by your family and friends who love you and understand what you are going through.  Mental illness is such a difficult burden to overcome and there will always be those who will never understand its hardships.  You made mistakes as we all have in our past one way or another but nobody paid for them more than you. From this day forward my hope for you is that you learn to forgive yourself for being born with an illness that you had no control over.  The naysayers are much fewer than you may think and are far outnumbered by the people who want to see you succeed and be happy.  Please take heart.  You are not alone.

Happy Easter.

Hello... Pay attention she said she agreed to have her mom and sister pick up the children 

but sister flaked....

i totally agree with you dr phil went out of his way to not mmetion the fact that she said a Black womandid this to her. clip even showed her smiling when giving an interview at the hospital. supposed they did arrest a woman that looked like the composite they drew up.i wonder if she would had ever told the truth. how he said that she doesn't need to ask for forgiveness is just wrong.

Thank you for the link to the Huffington Post article.  I used to work in a daycare/preschool, and my question was, "Was the grandmother on the list of approved people to pick up her grandsons"?

I was also wondering why the grandmother was allowed to pick up the children.  I worked at a preschool, and while I'm no expert, I am guessing that all preschools/daycares have a list of who is able to pick up children.  That has to be completed by the parents, so was the grandmother on the list?  Such a tragedy happened, but to me it seems like it would have been an easy fix.  It's not easy on daycare workers to deny people access to members of their own family, but I've done it.

I'm sure I won't be the only person to reply to your post and strongly urge you to immediately stop letting the bipolar father of your child take care of him alone. I know money may be tight but especially now that you have heard yet another one of these tragic stories, I would hate to see you live your life with the inevitable remorse that would follow if this happened to your child. PLEASE, find someone else to care for your baby!

Lately Dr. Phil has been referring so much to his book Life Code and the fact that we can no longer give the benefit of the doubt to people the way we used to. I wholeheartedly agree with him, but find it strange that he did not mention this when he spoke about the family member who allowed the grandmother the opportunity to prove her responsibility to the parents of these little boys. I know it must be difficult for family members to fully realize the implications of a relative's mental issues. Perhaps we need something like Al-Anon to provide support in these cases; or maybe support groups do exist, and family members need to take advantage of what they have to offer. Either way, whenever parents set rules for their children's safety, these rules must be adhered to without question.

It was never explained during the show just how the grandmother was able to pick up these two little boys from daycare. As the parents had always insisted that she not be left alone with them, I wonder if there was not an order to the daycare workers to prevent the grandmother from picking them up on her own; it would seem that, combined with the fact that apparently the woman did not have the correct carseat, should have prevented this tragedy. I believe it would have been very helpful for Dr. Phil to clarify these issues so that other daycare workers might better protect their small charges. Also, at the risk of insulting any family members at such a terrible time, I feel it should be mentioned that everyone in this family should have abided by the parents' directive to prevent the grandmother from having this kind of access to the children. My heart goes out to these parents and I hope they can manage to put their lives back together.