In the course of one hour these kids may have been saved from total self distruciton.


Consider this an intervention of sorts. These parents don't have what it takes to save these kids, let alone save themselves. Dr. Phil's words may have been harsh but if not so, these mother's would have not allowed him to help these kids, and bailed them out and not forced them to go into treatment. I believe he did what he had to do in order to stop these mom's from continuing to enable their daughters . Hopefully before it's too late. 


Look at the total picture here people...the outcome...OBVIOUSLY he knew what he was doing. I'd be interested to see if the Mom's accept the help they need so terribly in order to start saving their kids from themeselves and their own distructive behaviors!!

Dr. Phil, you're losing it! You have to resort to reading off of your cue cards to make a point? I agree with soooo many other writers, that it made me sick to see you once again blame the parents for a disrespectful, spoiled brat! You jumped all over the Moms for having excuses, but it was alright for these unruly "young women"? You made me sick watching your behavior, with the arms crossed and the belittling attitude of women who are doing the best they know how! Nobody has a perfect past and the way you treated those parents was uncalled for, SHAME ON YOU AGAIN!!

ABSOULUTELY AGREE WITH YOU 100%

I don't know why Dr. Phil thinks that berating the mother(s) would be the best way to go.  Hearing him do this was such a turn off.

Thank you for sharing your story.  I sure can understand this as I have had many issues many years ago with my  teenage children.  Parents dont' need to be yelled at nor does being berated by a therapist seem to be the best way to go.

I don't believe Dr. Phil is being unreasonable to the mothers; he's trying to give them a wake up call because if things don't change on their part, it won't matter if the kids get help--things will be in chaos again when they get back into the home. He said more than once that he knows they love their children. No parent is perfect but he has limited time to get through to them what their part has been. Otherwise they might 'cave in' when it comes time to getting help for their children.

Having professional transporters was probably safer and more effective than the mother's trying to get their daughters to their destination for help. The daughters are extremely out of control or they wouldn't have been on the Dr. Phil show. 

I'm looking forward to hearing the follow up on how the girls and their families are doing after they all receive the help they need. I feel there is plenty of reason for hope, here!

Man............I hear all of you. Having counseling experience myself,  I have seen faulty parents, faulty children , faulty authorities, but typically it is a mix of the three entities working dysfunctionally together. The schools have one rule, the authorities have a rule, mom has a rule and the kids have their rules. Today, in many ways, the social media is helping to create some of these behaviors. I have seen it time and time again when counseling with a teen and the parents. The teen pops up and says "everyone else is doing it and I am left out because of my mean parents". Guess what they are referring too: sexting.  And it's true. I severely restrict my stepsons activity in the social media. I have his laptop and cellphone passworded and with security so that if I feel something is wrong I can check on his activities. I suggest this to every parent. I don't want to hear that it is a breach of their privacy. Tough #%^^.  I saw fault with these parents and teens in this show and I believe Dr. Phil implemented the only thing he could have in this case, however i am with the majority in wishing he would put the blame in its proper places. This by no means is all of the parents fault but they do have responsibility in it. I thank God I did not have this with my two from my first marriage. My son got in my face one time when he was sixteen and I reacted in a way that detoured that from happening again: I showed him I was still bigger than he was, without harming anything more than his inflated ego. I spanked my two kids when they were younger but not in a way that was like my mom did me. They would have arrested my mom these days for abuse but as I see it back then it was the way the world turned and kids did not get in peoples faces either. It wasn't a healthy method by no means but todays methods are not healthy either. One time my son, still at sixteen decided to skip school, and during our conversation about that he said "I'm going to my room". I followed and so did the discussion about WHOSE  room it really was and all that was in it. He got stupid about that too so I simply took everything out of it, including the bed and generously left him a blanket for the night. The next evening, we both calmly worked together, without hardly saying a word, and put his room back together, never to travel that road again because he KNEW dad would not tolerate it. Was I the perfect parent ? Nope. Failed miserably time and again but it wasnt because I quit trying or let the kids rule the roost. That doesn't define parenting.

Those girls were not harmed in any way.  They were making a big stink because they had "control of the situation" taken away from them.  Probably for the first time in their lives, they were being told, "NO", being forced to listen and do as told and they were in shock because they were losing their "power".

A friend and I watched the show together and she did not agree with the way the girls were being treated.  After discussing it for a while, she finally saw things my way.  There were no other options.  The girls had gotten to the point where it was going to be a "make or break" situation.  If they keep on the same path, Lord only knows what their future would hold.

Now that they are getting some help, hopefully, they will grow up and see the light  and learn to respect, appreciate and give thanks for the help Dr. Phil is giving them.  I wish them both nothing but joy and happiness in this gift.  Good Luck!

He is at it again!!!  It is ALWAYS, ALWAYS the parents fault.  No matter how violent, how spoiled, how bad the behavior, it is always something that parent did in their past or doing wrong now.  Dear Lord, it is like a freakin broken record.   I stopped watching for a while and watched it only because I was someone elses home and it was on.  Before I heard the first word, I said, the kids would be off the chain and it would be mom's fault.  So one of them had a dad that wasn't her biological father ... big freakin deal.  Mom wasn't perfect, NO ONE IS!   It is zero excuse for these girls to be allowed to act like this.  The second mom is being abused by her daughter and by Dr. Phil.  She had a problem she overcame ... 7 years earlier ... the kid is just 13 so the last 6 years have meant nothing???  She is using this as an excuse and Dr. Phil allowed it.    Try something new Doc, it got old several years ago.  13 is old enough to take responsibility for your actions!

Are you kidding or are you serious?  Why is it always the parents fault? Seriously?  Children are the product of their surroundings.  Growing up, I had a Dad just like you describe your Dad.  We were taught at a very young age that you respect people, Mom, Dad, neighbors, everyone. You speak when spoken to, you do not talk back, you do not sass, even between your siblings. 

I describe that parenting as "fear based respect".  I feared my Dad because he pulled no punches. Out of that fear, I learned respect.  You respect people because you fear the outcome if you don't.  We never got spanked, grounded, put in our rooms or anything, because we respected our parents.  This is kind of the same theory I  used with my one and only child.

I did not put my knick knacks away or put the dog food and water up or put locks on the kitchen cabinets.  Why?  Because I taught my daughter at a very young age, the meaning of the word, "NO". I never had to spank, ground or punish her because I taught her why the answer was "NO".  Don't touch the things on the coffee table.  Why?  Because they are not yours and they could break.  Don't get into the kitchen cabinets.  Why?  Because there is poison in there and other things not for kids. You could get very sick or even die.  Why can't I have that toy at the store?  Why?  Because I don't have the money right now to buy it but when I do get extra money, I might be able to get it for you.

I meet the teens (aged 18 to 20) in my daughter's peer group.  I can tell right away how involved their parents are/have been in their life. Children are a direct reflection of their parents or the way they were parented. Out of respect comes trust.  I also taught my daughter the importance of trusting ME.  That she would need to trust me above all others because I am your parent and I will always be truthful with you and tell you the way it is. You may not believe me at the time, but eventually you will see that what I am telling you is true and it will appear to you.  You have to trust me so much, that if I tell you to jump off of a bridge, that you will jump.  She has taken my advice and has lived by it all of her life. She will even come to me, could be years later, and say, "remember that time when you told me" such and such?  Well it happened!!! And exactly the way you said it would!!

Parenting starts the minute you find out you are pregnant and continues for the rest of your life.  Every second of everyday, year after year.  If you are not willing to live and give of yourself for that amount of time and energy, you should not have children.  The girls on the show were allowed to grow up too fast.  My daughter was always taught to act her age.  If she was 10, she wasn't allowed to act 13, if she was 13 she wasn't allowed to act 16, etc.  That time will come.  

My daughter who is 19 now, watched the show with me last night.  She commented throughout, why she thought these girls were in the place they were.  She remembered things I had told her throughout her life and was able to see where the parents were going wrong.

So why is it always the parents fault?? Because you are the Parent!!  They are a reflection of you.  Look in the mirror.  What could you have done better or what can you do right now to make a difference in your childs upbringing? Good luck.