I'm extremely introverted. Being painfully shy, YES, I do wish I could be friends instantly with everyone. But if someone finds me overbearing & don't want to be my friend, so be it... I MOVE ON. Nobody exists SOLELY for the other - that'e being co-dependent.

It seems your situation is simply a case of having manipulative, uncaring "friends". Going through bad friends is part of finding real ones. Jinda is a different story. I did not sense that the other woman didn't care for her at all like you suggested. Jinda even said the woman has helped her go through the toughest times - so it WAS a RECIPROCATED friendship. However, Jinda took it as a sign to demand whatever she wanted from the woman afterwards.

You'll never know what it's like to be with a person like Jinda until you actually experience it yourself. I was good friends w/ someone. You'd only realize her true colors when you don't call/text her for a day or 2 or when you say "NO". She'll act like you're "rejecting" her, even though you were just busy or needed to be with other people, or heck, even to just be w/ yourself. Still, I didn't drop her out of her being clingy. I'd give in to her demands as her friend. But then when I'd eventually get back to my life again, she'd revert back to her jealous, suspecting ways. You could never leave her alone. She HATED me suddenly & would spite me. Despite that, I wouldn't confront.. I'd just stop bothering her the next day. But she'd ALSO hate that & so would call to say sorry & to forget our "little misunderstanding". I say it's OK, we'd hang out. Then I'd get busy again, so she gets mad again, & the cycle begins all over. The last straw was when she caused drama in my personal relationships & family just to get back at me for "constantly rejecting" her.

This is very similar to Jinda's situation where she caused drama for the other woman & her husband. It's very PAINFUL & SCARY. With these people, you cannot BE enough to them. This isn't about Jinda wanting a FRIEND, it's about her wanting to get what she wants when she wants, perhaps for an eternal sense of security & emotional crutch.. maybe she didn't get that growing up. She is of course, a human being. Which is why she needs HELP. If you enable someone who has a personality disorder, you are also doing a disservice to that individual. She will end up being alone forever & possibly suicidal or dangerous to others if she doesn't realize what she's doing & make changes.

I doubt he would stick by his family members if they continued to use him and lie. Why guilt trip people and shame them (by having the audience laugh at them when they talked) into having a relationship with a user who throws people away to get new people? Kari is a user.

Why did she cheat on her ex husband and leave her kids for another man when she flew off with him? I'm sorry, but my mother left us emotionally for a man she cheated on my father with and she never apologised either. Kari came across as self-centred like my mother and I don't blame Holly at all for taking her ex husband's side because she knew how it felt to be treated like crap by a cheater. Kari should apologise to all of the people her choice hurt. Family is not always blood and I've disowned many of my family members because they aren't worth my one sided effort and their guilt tripping (because they're "blood").

This could go real bad, real fast. Traci needs to file a restraining order by sundown today.  When an obession gets this creepy, time to think only about yourself and your family. Dont worry about Jinda and her situation.

SHE IS  DEFINITELY  A NUT CASE ..I DOUBT ANYONE CAN HELP HER..I HOPE YOU GUY,S CAN.

Agree with you 100%!

Jinda seems very codependent.  I hope she gets help for that and seeks coda.org.  


Traci could do an episode of "Stalked. Someone's Watching Me."


Traci's husband should have done his research before allowing a crazy woman's comments to blow up his marriage.


I hope Dr P includes them in a follow up show.

in your case, it sounds like she is "alone" and has latched on - but, because she is elderly.

with this show, the woman who was being stalked SHOULD have ended it way before this got out of hand.  she should never have encouraged anything beyond the initial interaction and obviously fostered a friendship with someone she had misgivings with, especially not when she had a family to protect.  

the woman who is stalking her, obviously has issues, and bringing her on t.v., might have helped her realize that her interpretation of a friendship was not the same as others, however, this kind of reminds me of a show that was on years ago, on Dr. Phil,  with the husband jeffrey, who was obsessed with his wife and had to be separated from her, etc. - and he just couldn't understand why people wouldn't let them be with her.

i feel this woman, jinda, just didn't get why this woman was uncomfortable with her, also. 
 

I was both happy and relieved to see Dr. Phil's show "My firend is obsessed with me".  I too am in the same situation and have been for over six months.  My life has been a living hell.  My ex friend follows me, approaches my husband and children, and has even contacted my extended family and friends and spread horrible lies about my husband and myself.  We have gone to the police and have requested a peace bond (restraining order) which she is trying to fight despite a mountain of evidence of email, texts, and witness testimonies.  The police have encouraged me to have her arrested on criminal harrassment charges (stalking) but I have not done so as I know that she is mentally unstable and needs professional help.  This woman is married and has three children. 

Thank you, Dr. Phil, for running the show.  It helped me and my family to know that we are not alone and that this does happen to other people.  I just want my life back.  I hope she sees your show and realizes the pain she has caused a number of people.

k.

Please never think that Stalking isn't serious or that by telling the stalker to "go away, i'm not interested" they will. The stalker and YES she is a stalker is very very sick and very dangerous.  I am a straight female and I have never groped any of my friends.

My husband had a sweet friend from high school who was murdered by her stalker ten years ago.  We do not live in an urban or dangerous area. We live in the boonies, but D's stalker got it into her head that D had "stolen" her boyfriend.  She stalked her, kidnapped her and shot her in the head. Please don't tell me that stalkers will quit on their on,