I am also a trained polygraph examiner, and Steven's quick and/or spontaneous answers could simply be well rehearsed from being repeated over the years - perhaps he has even come to believe them.  When you answer a question under polygraph, the person accesses his or her memory.  If the memory is practiced and seen as something other than what actually occurred, or even believed, the polygraph could show the person telling the truth, or inconclusive.   The odd polygraph results, which were inconclusive, could be the result of him controlling his resperation, etc., himself from within - not the result of some physiological condition.  It could simply be that he is a sociopath who does not have the feelings of guilt, etc. that most "normal" people have.  Offering an opinion about his innocence is reckless and unprofessional.  I didn't spend tiime with him, but watching his reactions, or rather lack thereof, make me believe the opposite.  He did not react the way someone accussed of such inappropriate conduct would act, other than the tears at the end re: the relationship with his father, but no emotion about the other?  

Julie I think you look great and I am happy for you! You were always that crazy fun girl and you need David to apprieciate you and spend more time with ya!! Hang in there!!!

Thank you for your unsolicited medical advice.Dr...hater diva.....you didn't know me before my weight loss...so you have no basis for that opinion..

You probably don't understand because your spouse does not ignore you everyday.

SHE  HAD THOSE EMOTIONAL ,MENTAL ISSUES BEFORE LOSING WEIGHT..SHE NEED,S LONG TERM THERAY

I think it is great ,that you lost weight all on your own.You are an inspiration. to women trying to loose weight everywhere. How did you do it I have tried everything, and i walk ever day?

Good for you that you have lost weight but it seems that it has dredged up old feelings and issues that you have not addressed in the past.  It seems your addiction for food has now been replaced by other addictions because thats how you are dealing with the issues (extreme in one area to another).  Unhappiness in your marriage looks like it has been that way for awhile, not really because of the weight loss.  It sounds like your husband is really nice and probably loves you thick or thin but sometimes people go different directions in life/marriage.  Hope you figure it out and both of you find happiness.   The only thing that bothered me was when your girls got upset.  It sounds like you want them to have a healthier lifestyle but I think you are failing to realize things you say to them can be hurtful and affect them in the future and relationship with food.  It sounds like your older daughter has checked out with listening to you but believe me she still does.  The youngest seems emotional about it.  Remember they are a product of you and have only known food one way from how you all ate and how you dealt with food because they did witness your struggle over the years.  Tread lightly and accept that it may take them a while to make same changes because remember it has taken you +20 yrs to think you have finally achieved control. Good Luck

Juli, I commend you for losing weight, however, cannot understand why, as a married woman, you choose to go out to bars and act like you are single.  Married people are not supposed to knowingly go out and work towards getting attention from the opposite sex.  If you like to dance, join a zumba class, if you like to have drinks then invite some friends over to your house (with your husband), and don't frequent bars without your husband.  I don't have low self esteem, I find it hard to understand desiring attention from others.  Try to be satisfied with the attention from yourself and your family.  Just because you have lost weight doesn't mean you have to dress inappropriately.  I agree with your daughters, you need to change and start living a moral, and values based life.  Find joy and fulfillment in other ways, not from the attention of men.  As a married woman, I don't understand that.

really...because my husband had dinner, house cleaning, child care, laundry on demand....i earn 4 times as much as he does so i bring home the bacon as well....is too much to ask for a little romance and intimacy in our marraige ..i think not...most men would love sex on demand.

maybe sex on demand was a little dramatic..but my husband wanted dinner on demand. laundry on demand, bills paid on demand (by me) etc etc...you would think sex on demand would be fun and exciting...geez it was the only thing i asked for.  the demands brought upon me were far more substantial than a little bit of loving