She shouldn't be telling them about things he's doing and choices he's making. How did she think they would feel when she told them their father chose to take a day off work to go to his other child's birthday when he didn't take a day off for their's? Emerald feels stuck with him because he has the money. She wasn't admitting it there, but that's what she's interested in. She is selling herself and her kids for his money.

Regardless of everything that ou "feel" you cannot do! Trust me you can do it. Change is the fear yet hat you have. You do not NEED him to bring home the money! You do not NEED him to make you feel wanted or complete! 


your children are depending on you to make the right decision so please make the move!

We as women allow others to treat us like trash. If you have any courage or love or your childn you would leave him and not look back. The things we allow to take place not only corrupts our heart (spirit) it also does this to our children. Use a little common sense and give your children a better life.

I don’t think other women whom others are thinking is bashing this women are being mean, they…me are just pissed at her that she would continue to play the victim and not stand up for herself.  She just sits on the sideline, throwing up her hands saying “what”  “what do I do?”  I have a friend that continues to go from one bad mirrored relationship to the next.  She will get involved with a married man (#1 problem), who has like 5 plus kids, either another one on the way or his youngest is 3 yrs or under.   Go throw so much drama, can’t go out in public but he can come over after a night out of drinking, to which she is never invited for sex.  We are no longer friends, I got tired of her late night calls when he didn’t show, her calls to only discuss him, her need for attention was way too much.   I don’t respect women who knowingly put themselves in a not with situation just to see if she is loved enough, continues to give herself excuses why she should stay and willing to see if he is willing to leave his wife for her, etc. etc….

Because this lady has already ruined her children by telling they exactly what their dad did and having conversations when she knew they could  and listen because that is what kids do, now it is time for her to keep her month shut.  I don't believe in lying to children, but I do believe in telling they what they can handle.  I had to tell my daughter at the age of 11 that her father was dying, totally told her the truth and set an good example of taking care of him and making sure their relationship was in tack before his last days.  I didn't matter about me, my broken heart, my disappointment what mattered was my daughter, making sure their time together was meaningful and when it was over she didn't have any wondering questions.  Him being a cheater, liar, disrespecting male had nothing to with it, she didn't need to know any of that about her father.  Kids don't stay kids forever and they don't forget their parents actions either.  So, its time for her to be quiet because she isn't helping her girls with all the garbage she is telling them.

I just divorced a man who was also a serial cheater.  I didn't know about it until the end of our 25 year marriage.  He was a great liar.  BUT I never talk badly about him in front of our son.  I believe that adult issues are just that....adult issues.  I want my son to have a healthy relationship with his father.  Mind you his father has chosen to focus all of his energy on his new wife, but that is his choice.  It is my responsibility to raise my children, not to use my children as pawns.

Emerald, you are not married to a man, let alone a good one.   Hightail it out of there, stat.   What a smarmy, cowardly and silly guy.  Ugh.

Wow what a surprise she's pregnant again! What a coincidence! Sorry no sympathy for women like this one, she has CHOSEN this life

Sadly, this man is just perpetuating a sterotype that bigots can point to and say, "See, we were right." And the wife is just an idiot to drag her children into this mess and then to continue to have sex with him risking her life.  Did anyone ask if they had been tested for HIV?

That’s just the point.  There are so many here who wrote to you about their experiences with philandering husbands because we know exactly what it’s like.  My 33 year old daughter is also going through a divorce.  She is a receptionist, earns a meager salary and has two young children to support.  She must sell her house and move into a much smaller apartment soon, but she’s completely unafraid.  She tells me all the time that her children will be her saving grace in the difficult months to come.  Even though she’s only been separated for just a few months, her oldest daughter aged 3 ½ came home the other day saying that she already met daddy’s “special friend”.  She immediately recognized that this was a pivotal moment and that she needed to tread very carefully.  Despite her feelings of deep betrayal and final confirmation that her husband was indeed having an affair after all, she thought of her daughter’s welfare first and did not react in front of her.  However, needless to say, she had she had some pretty choice words to say to her soon to be ex-husband privately afterwards.

The point is that you have choices to make.  You cannot remain a victim for the rest of your life because your dreams of a fantasy life with your current husband were dashed.  It’s not a matter of sticking around long enough and wait until he changes his tune.  As long as you keep catering to his every whim, he never will nor will he ever respect you for doing so either.  We’ve all been through it before and know exactly how all of this is eventually going to play out if you don’t learn to stick up for yourself here and now.  Like my daughter always says, she intends to raise little Beyonce’s not wimps.