Sounds like Anne is the narcissist in that family. If her daughter lies, then she created it when she got her daughter to lie for her while she was having an affair. I'd stay away from her if I was Lynn because she will continue to make herself the centre of attention and the victim all at once. Ofcourse someone who received no attention as a kid will find it and now Lynn needs to grow up and not be like her mother. Love your kids and teach them that you will stand by them and stand by your brothers (be close to them so they know you wouldn't say anything behind their backs) because they didn't choose to be placed in that position by your mother. I think Lynn looks more like her father than her mother.

What are you talking about the Feminist Movement was and or is a joke? Really?? So more women that are college educated that can make their own money and not rely on someone else is a joke??? I guess I am joke and I will be all the way to the bank, honey.....  I am not and wont ride on some man's coat tails and no one will ever pull my strings and make me dance their song ! Your wallet is your best friend.... sad but true......... and no not your  husbands wallet cuz he can pull the wool right from under your eyes anytime!  A little food for thought.......

Whatever just happened to bad behavior and bad choices?? Why does everything have a title or a category........ why does everyone need a pill or need therapy.... what people need to do is worry about paying their bills, getting a college education ( or some type of education) and worry about BIG issues. I could be considered depressed etc... welcome to the American Dream! We have so much time and money on our hands to label everyone a disease...... There are people in this world STARVING, they would love to have our problems!

Dr.Phil is empathic to victims and has empathy , he also wants to get to the truth. People nowadays are always attributing behaviors on mental problems or illnesses and want to give everyone a pill. Everyone's behavior needs to be disected and it is a pill or a potion that they need. That is asinine. There is a simple solution to the problem, TAKE OWNERSHIP. If the mom doesn't like the daughters behavior and conduct stop dealing with her. If the daughter doesnt like the Mom's stop dealing with her. Sometimes people act out, they are emotional , they need drama, they need reassurance, etc. Be an adult. The mom is not perfect nor the daughter. I have had problems with my Mom before and have cut her off before. We have established boundaries in our relationship. If the daughter wants to mudsling and accuse go ahead it is a free country and vice versa. If you know your truth so be it. I dont need to prove to people or my Mom my life and what I do or dont.

This is the first time I've felt compelled to post on a talk show website.  The content of the show as well as the comments by many viewers I find intriguing.  It seems like there are several themes to the comments: mother is victim and daughter is villian/drama queen, daughter is victim and mother is villian, one or both of them have BPD, Dr. Phil missed the boat and should have offered help, let the mother/daughter have it.  BPD is a complicated diagnoses and one that would take more than a one hour show to determine.  I understand that viewers may feel that one or both have attributes of BPD.  However, they would need to see a licensed professional for an accurate diagnoses.  BPD overlaps many mental illnesses including depression, anxiety and PTSD.  Dr. Phil has more information on both parties than what we got in a 1 hour episode minus commercials.

What truly saddens me is the lack of empathy from many people on this board.  What if the mother has BPD?  BPD is an illness that has both environmental and physiological factors.  There is a fear of abandonment.  It also tends to occur more often in people who grew up in invalidating and/or abusive homes.  That is one reason it continues from generation to generation.  If she had a fear of abandonment, how difficult would the tragedy of losing her husband be for her?  It would be difficult for anyone - multiply that by about a thousand and you get a sense of how it would have been for her. 

As for the daughter being a drama queen, how difficult would it be to have your own mother say the negative things about you that she received.  I'm sure she acted out as a child and I'm sure she lied, but there was nothing so terrible that justified the mistreatment and judgments she received from both her mother and the audience at times.  They clapped when her mother recalled how she hit her in the mouth when she called her a "bitch"?  Also, her acting out appeared to be caused by her past.  In addition to her mom mistreating her she lost her father and has the memories of seeing him in his wrecked car as well as in the hospital bed.  Think of a 4 or 5 year old you know, how devastating would that be for them?  She was a child and as expected to pick up the pieces of everyone's life.  In addition, her mother showed all of us how she is incapable of putting her daughter's interests a head of her own.  When she found out her daughter had told the truth about the miscarriage, she said two things that I felt were very interesting: 1. I'm glad you told the truth and 2.  I'm sorry you had to go through that.  She didn't say sorry I doubted you, sorry I wasn't there for you, sorry with any kind of personal responsibility.  It was "sorry you had to go through that" and only after Dr. Phil kind of prompted her along to say something.  She also parentifies her daughter and berates her at the same time.  Asking your child to lie for you (the affair) is WRONG and abusive.

Back to the mother: if she has BPD how effective would it be for Dr. Phil to chastise her on national television?  She would not have heard what she probably would have perceived to be judgments that are inaccurate.  Remember she is in pain too.

Lastly, the brothers.  It doesn't seem like either of them had to deal with what their sister had to growing up.  They saw the loving and caring side of their mother - a side she no doubt has.  If you are watching all of this through the lens of a child, you need to make sense of it.  Mom can't be bad, because how scary is that?  The very person you count on for survival is flawed??  They had to make Lynne the scapegoat for their own survival just as Lynne had to make herself the villian in her own eyes to explain things to herself.  She was saying "I don't have these problems with anyone other than my own family."  That is a very typical of a child who was raised in an abusive environment, blamed themselves for "being bad" and then later on in life had many people tell them they aren't the monster they view in their own head.  Yes, Lynne was abused.  Anne may not have meant it, but she did abuse her just the same. 

Everyone in this family has pain and needs help.  I don't know if the best thing for Lynne is to forget about Anne - only she can determine that.  I have a feeling Dr. Phil has some plans he didn't mention on the show to help the family off camera.  It will be a long and difficult road for all of them, but I wish every single one of them peace.

I have never posted on a "talk-show" site- but days later I am still seething at Anne's behavior. Lynn is a beautiful woman who deserves so much better! Even when Dr. Phil told Anne point blank that her daughter had indeed had a miscarriage- she was cold as a clam and made excuses for sickening behavior. I don’t care what Lynn has done in her past! There isn’t ANYTHING that my 27 year old daughter could ever do that would justify my going on national television to expose and humiliate her!? Lynn’s brother needs to open his eyes and search his soul on this one!

And to Lynn- RUN LIKE THE WIND! I will gladly and proudly be  your mother!

Because there are so many bad husbands out there.  The youth of our country is a lost cause also.

Honey, I'm so sorry that you have the misfortune to have a mother like you do. I seriously doubt that she will change or that your brothers will have the strength of character to develop a point of view that is different from your mother's. If that proves to be the case, you should save your money and your time for other people. There are many who will love and appreciate you. Furthermore, you will hopefully someday have children of your own. From them and your husband you will hopefully receive the love and appreciation that you deserve. I wish Dr. Phil had offered you some therapy. Since he didn't, I hope you will be able to get some so that you don't keep struggling with a situation that you probably can't change. It is sometimes very difficult to accept certain situation in life but once you do, it is easier to cope and move forward. God Bless you dear.

I absolutely agree!

I watched this show and I had to write in hope that I can reach out this daughter and Dr Phil. My mother has BPD and the similaries were striking.. I know the pain of this daughter. I think this daughter is in pain and needs help, I feel that this show did not highlight the pain this mother has inflicted. It took me 2 years of therapy to finally realize that my mother was who she was, I spent many years torturning myself. This mother hates her daughter and scapegoats hers. This daughter needs to break away from her, get therapy and live a happy life. The mother said so many hateful things and actions. 

To the daughter, I know what you are feeling and please get support from your husband, friends and a therapist. The best thing I ever did was move on from it and to say goodbye to someone that didn't love me, didn't want to get to know me, didn't care about me.There is a light at the end of the tunnel when you begin to realize that love is about acceptence and compassion. not mulipulation and hatred.