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Dr. Phil takes on the hot-button topic of what some are calling “slut-shaming” -- when young women are taunted and harassed, often online, for their sexual behavior, such as having casual sex, having more than one sexual partner or dressing provocatively. This form of bullying, like others, can lead to tragic consequences. Fifteen-year-old Felicia Garcia sent her last tweet, “I cant, im done, I give up,” before jumping in front of a train, while many of her classmates looked on. Friends of the freshman say she was tormented by bullies for alleged sexual encounters with football players. Did her classmates go too far? And, what can parents and students do to prevent another senseless act? Grab your teen, sit them down and watch this powerful Dr. Phil together!

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: sanjuangal on Jan 19, 2013, 1:24PM
I just watched the show as I had taped it and am glad I did.  I thought I might be the only one who was totally disappointed with Dr. Phil's hypocrisy.  How many times has he said 'you choose the behavior and you choose the consequences".  I honestly don't know what to think anymore.  These girls walk around with their boobs and butts sticking out and they do look like "sluts".........that label has been around for a very long time and it has always been something you do not want to be.........so why purposefully make yourself up to look like one and then get offended.  Then the young lady who tried to propse modesty gets criticized.........really??  I raised daughters and it would have been over my dead body walking out looking not even anthing close to what these girls look like today.  I find it repugnant - offensive - trashy and I am so over seeing their boobs and butt cracks.  Guess I am just too old and don't get it anymore.  Dr. Phil has lost his way...he has conformed and caved in to the times instead of trying to steer the ship. 
 
Replied By: chuilady on Jan 19, 2013, 1:16PM - In reply to cathyfoster5
Excellent points.
 
Replied By: chuilady on Jan 19, 2013, 1:08PM
Well, I'm not going to read all the postings on this subject, however, I will add that I was almost to the boiling point with Dr. Phil on this issue, watching this show. I was also embarrassed by the way he 'blew off' his advisor/guest on the high school rape case in Ohio the day before, and allowed that mother to rant and talk over his guest advisor in the audience. Regarding slutty dress uniforms, to put a picture of Robin on the screen comparing her attire - ridiculous. I do not believe Dr. Phil would, today or in past years, been seen in public, escorting any female dressed provocatively, as he was describing on this show, and be proud of her. Do his sons or any males walk in public with their butts displayed, their legs bare to the butt, tops cut off to the minimum and gonads featured? NO! Even guys with total lack of self esteem issues don't do this...
 
Replied By: koomta2 on Jan 19, 2013, 11:39AM
I was totally dismayed and somewhat shocked by the "Dr. Phil" who was in charge of Friday's show. If this wasn't a complete reversal of your usual perscribed principals, I don't know what is. You have had young girls on previous shows, denouncing their provocative dress, because of what it could lead to, and encouraging them to have more respect for themselves. Today, you spun a complete 360, and were down on anyone for
 advocating the very same thing!!!  Saying, they were being Judgemental!!  Hello!?  I  have 3 grown sons; they are healthy, well adjusted young men. Will they look at that kind of thing? Of course, they will!! Do they respect, and what that in a partner?  No way!! Don't say people are not judged on their clothing and appearance .If that's  true, why don't you wear your "grubbies" on your show every day?  How on earth do you think young girls are to have respect for themselves, if they follow this kind of example...if it's Ok, and encouraged in the "housewives" generation, why not them too?  DR. PHIL, write 100 lines "I WILL NOT MISLEAD THE YOUNG MINDS OF THE WORLD"
 
Replied By: cara_c on Jan 19, 2013, 10:27AM
Dr. Phil may have spent too much time in Hollywood.

Women who run around half dressed are leading with their sexuality. Whether or not they're actually promiscuous, men will view them as advertising sexual availability and women will resent them for competing for male attention by flaunting their sexual availability.

Most women don't want to compete at that level because sending a message of sexual availability can be dangerous, attracting aggressive and unwanted attention by men who are not necessarily interested in getting to know them as a person. But at the same time, provocatively dressed girls willing to take those risks - or ignorant of them - get more male attention overall. So females who choose modest dress dislike that behavior, feeling it cheapens female sexuality and puts pressure on them to compete in a more overtly sexual manner. Thus, the criticism of girls who dress provocatively.

The idea that we shouldn't judge people by the way they dress is absurd. People dress the way they dress to tell us something about themselves. If Dr. Phil went on TV every day wearing skin tight leather jeans and his shirt unbuttoned to his navel, he wouldn't be taken as seriously. He wears a nice suit every day to send the message he's serious and professional.

Objecting to someone's offensive or potentially dangerous behavior is not bullying. There's a big difference between relentlessly tormenting people about things they cannot change vs. speaking up to let someone know that behavior they are voluntarily choosing is upsetting, damaging, or may have harmful consequences.
 
Replied By: cbonhomme on Jan 19, 2013, 10:18AM - In reply to cathyfoster5
I completely agree with what you are saying and there is wisdom in your words. I just wanted to say exactly what you say but I did  not have the words. Very good response
 
Replied By: todoku on Jan 19, 2013, 10:00AM
  • Women are not allowed to express themselves sexually without being scrutinized by other men AND women.
  • Slut-shaming contributes to rape culture, where it is okay to rape a woman because she was ‘asking for it’.
  • It promotes grrrl hate, which is completely detrimental to the feminist movement and only creates more internal sexism.
  • The message it is sending to girls is: sex is bad. Sex can never be good. And having sex more than once is the worst thing you can do and everyone is going to hate you for it.
  • The message it is sending to men: girls who have sex are sluts. If you come in contact with one of these so called “sluts” you can do whatever you want to them because they are not full, whole human beings. Just objects.
  • Slut-shaming is in itself an objectification of women’s bodies. Of their sexuality.

Why does the length of a stranger's skirt or how they conduct their sex life ANY of your business?



Why does it matter if a stranger has self-respect?



The problem is that slut shaming is a way to control how women behave.
 
Replied By: oreardon on Jan 19, 2013, 9:32AM
Dr. Phil was so wrong today, I am completely shocked by his stance. It is a huge disservice to young women to say that they should not be judged by what they wear. When he stated that one of his sons was a Wall St. looking type he proved exactly the opposite. Since the beginning of time and in every continent clothing has been a way of representing yourself to the world from the hide on a caveman to the quality of beads on a native American dress. It is why business men and women wear suits and never dress provocatively because they are selling a product not their sexuality. It is why we wear different clothing for different occasions. Science has taught us that people form an opinion about you within seconds of meeting you and therefore you only get one chance to make a good impression. So the fact is if you want people to assume you are a girl with no self respect or moral judgement, don't dress like one.
 
Replied By: imacamper on Jan 19, 2013, 9:29AM - In reply to angelardh
And I agree with the premise you make.  However I see "bullying" as just another term that means the same shaming, shunning, teasing, picking on, or whatever other words one uses to decribe how society enforces it's norms.  And as such, the person doing the "bullying" will become the "bullied" if society decides bullying is unacceptable.
 
Replied By: sghooper on Jan 19, 2013, 9:25AM
I think Kyra's point was completely missed by Dr. Phil and the other guests!  She repeatedly said that she doesn't condone bullying or judging scantly  or provacatively dressed women and that it is fully their right to dress however they wish without fear of retribution.  What she did say that her opinion is that this manner of dress is becoming far too extreme and she is a "Advocate" of more modest dress and behavior.  She went on to say that people who do speak out in favor of more modest behavior are being shouted down and made to feel that their opinions are not acceptable.  Dr. Phil, you completely made her point by doing just that!  You continued to tell her that these women should not be judged or bullied??  That's not what she said at all!!  I think this is one of those times, that Dr. Phil should watch a recording of the show a few times so maybe he can "get it!" 
 
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