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Replied By: mimom2975 on Feb 11, 2015, 6:31PM
While Watching the Dr Phil show regarding substance abuse and mental health treatments, I guess I foolishly believed that the treatments centers he promotes such as Hannas House would be a great facility to help me with my mental health issues and substance abuse.  Don't get me wrong I believe the facility is wonderful, that's why I sent them a email asking, no begging for help, for myself and family.  I do not have money, I'm poor, I receive state insurance, I'm on disability and have very little income.  My depression is overwhelming, its debilitating, i rarely get out of bed, I have let my house go, I have no energy, I rarely leave my home or communicate with anyone for days other than my children. They are teenagers and I know they know more than they let on, how embarrassing to have such a mother.. I have a history of suicide attempts, abusive relationships (physically and mentally), PTSD, and a new prescription drug addiction which I know is getting out of hand due to physical illnesses which i have great pain from.  I have three children, I'm a single mom, I'm separated from a husband from hell that put me through things that you would not believe from his alcohol use, cheating, lying, suicide attempts in front of our children several times, to a attack with a knife and slitting his wrist  in front of 7 children and my mother then running from the police to finally committing crimes and jail to leaving us with a great amount of debt and just walking away off to another woman with two new step children to harm. And I cant even get divorced because I need a atty, which i cant afford, but his mother financed him with one to keep me from getting health insurance from him and alimony care. Id for sure be feed to the wolves without a atty representing my interest. I have not heard from him in over a year. I choose him so I guess I deserve what I've gone through but my children didn't, I put them in harms way buy trusting someone so evil and sick, my fault.




.I feel i'm ruining my children s lives with my problems and I know for a fact my life will end shortly if things do not change. Contacting Hannas house was a blow to reality. They of course do not take poor people with state insurance only private well off insurance or you can pay for the first 60 days of inpatient care at $70,000.00 then they could possible help you pay for the remaining 30 days of a 90 day program...If i could afford the first 60 days why would i need financial help with the rest? lol... I now feel foolish in contacting them, it kind of showed my worth when they called me to say we have contact information for medicare and medicaid individuals but we don't assist people in that situation? Why not help everyone?So only well off people deserve quality care, i felt my worth as having non, and I'm only lucky enough to get state care which is not quality care and a short 3-7 day stay then a kick out the door.  As Dr Phil says thousands of people would beg for his help, lineup out the door for miles, and I see him give care to some very ungrateful people..but he believes in them and of course helps.  I feel my life slipping away, I no longer care about things, my home, my health and I push everyone away from me.  i have had mental health treatment since i was 15 years old and I feel that no matter what care I have had it doesn't work. I'm tired of failing, I honestly believed that Hannas house would be my saving grace but unless i win the lotto that's not happening.  I see Dr Phil care about people, I wish he would give resources for those of us who are not wealthy, middle class, but those who deserve great care and a chance at life even though we are financial handicapped.  i dream of having a better life, finishing school, having a great career, but unfortunately my depression has always help me back. I get involved with abusive men who themselves have issues of mental health or substance abuse and believe that's what I deserve.  The innocent ones in all of this are my beautiful children, but i'm afraid my problems have overflowed onto them and they are now starting to have some issues of their own, Basically we are a family in crisis. I would sell what little i have for help, I beg  barrow and steal to get my life back to some sense of normal where I have control over myself and choices.  The last year I have developed a substance abuse problem to prescription drugs. My Dr. has recently made national news as a "drug Pusher" and I hate to say it but its true, he does push pain meds, and now that  i'm addicted to them I'm fearful to say anything to him about charges he is facing because I don't want to lose my medication, honestly its like I don't want to lose my Drug Dealer...and its my Dr..How sad is that, what kind of evil person am i, that i know this Dr has done illegal things that are being alleged to by the FBI and in the news but I don't want to lose him as a provider..I fear detox, I have gone several days without my medication before and experienced withdrawal which was absolute hell, I'm fearful what I honestly would do If i did run out of meds or no longer had access to them, would I go to more serious drugs? Would i further endanger my life to keep the withdrawals away? i don't honestly know, i'm definitely physically dependent on the medication and see signs of addiction,




I really wanted to go to Hannas house, the setting, the care, the programs..Id do anything for their help and not a referral to a state run program which i have tried for the past 25 years, I'm 40 now, if I don't stop doing what I'm doing or get some help I wont live very long. My greatest fear is dying and my children saying my mom was a drug addict and had mental health issues and dies because she didn't care about us...I wish I had 70,000 for care I wish I had private insurance..but I don't,  and like Dr Phil tells those who don't follow through with his programs, many others would be grateful for this opportunity but i don't think he knows just how true that really is.  I pray each night for treatment that will work and be successful but i feel like i deserve more that a state run hospital where medicating and sedating is the goal.  i know if I ever had anything of value Id give it all for a chance at Hannas house, just a chance at recovery..Please Dr Phil help those of us who are in poverty we deserve help too, id make you proud and be forever grateful. 
 
Replied By: fawnfawn7 on Feb 3, 2015, 12:41PM - In reply to stellalulu
It is important to find someone to talk to. A professional that can give u an nonjudgmental and second opinion on what is going on with u. Be careful about talking to non professionals. Not to say that u shouldn't, but always take what they say and see how it fits with whats goin on with u. Take it with a grain of salt. It is difficult to trust i know. I feel that way myself alot, but if u want to feel better, to heal it is important to do find a way to do that for yourself. Maybe get refrences from someone u really trust. It took me some time to find a therapist that i trusted , but now i trust him with my life. He has helped me throughout the years. It is just that my experience is so extensive and i blocked my past  things come up still. Please find someone to help u and take care of yourself

 
Replied By: fawnfawn7 on Feb 3, 2015, 9:22AM
I am actually commenting due to a different show about a family dealing with a daughter with and eating disorder, but my thing is that i really think that alot of people would get better and over their issues if the they were helped with counceling more and medication less. The insurance companies pay out easily for meds, but for gettin counceling they don't cover enough so u are able to go when needed. Even when u go impatient for help. All they do is keep u safe so u don't commit suicide (which is good) , but don't deal with the issues u are dealing with. You get no individual counceling when you are there. I am really contacting u to bring up the issue of  not being able to get the help u need to heal because the insurance companies and health professionals only want to give u a pill and tell u it will be all better. I disagree. I think u have to get to the bottom of the issue or u will not heal and the meds are just a bandaid. I have been goin through mental issues due to abuse for oaver 15 yrs and as long as u have money you can get help. Once you can't afford it anymore ur out of luck. Only the rich can get help. Go to treatment centers that actually help. I am not looking for pitty or anything i am just expressing what i feel and maybe others can look into how to help to average person to get help for their pasts or mental health and actually heal.
 
Replied By: storytotell on Jan 16, 2015, 4:19AM
Hi, 


I'm working on a project about mental health in a corporate environment. But instead of just using statistics to fight for my message, I want to tell stories. Stories are so much more powerful.


Please comment to tell me about your expereinces with mental health in the workplace. I really want to help!

 
Replied By: stellalulu on Jan 7, 2015, 6:22PM
I think i have an undiagnosed mental illness; more than depression. These are the symptoms:


- Anxiety, especially social anxiety

- Mixed moods

- Self medicate with sugar (now addicted to it)

- Self harm (by hitting my head against the wall, not cutting)

- Too much daydreaming 

- Very sensetive to rejection

- Easily offended or annoyed

- Anger issues

- Mixed sleeping pattern

- Almost no trust in anyone


Im not good at talking in person, even to professionals and im trying to avoid mental hospitals, my experience with centegra tells me they do not work
 
Replied By: raynebowpromis on Dec 12, 2014, 8:08PM
I finally figured out this summer that I have DID, disassociative identity disorder, also known as Multiple Personality Disorder. For years I have been bounced around from therapist to psychiatrist to 72 hour holds, everyone with their own opinion as to my strange behavior, but no one zeroed in on DID. Unfortunately, rumors have followed me since college that I had schizophrenia, which did not fit my symptoms but was the popular label classmates and well meaning professors gossiped about, thus ruining my college experience.  Later, because of my sudden moments of   childlike euphoria and optimistic future plans, I was diagnosed as Bipolar. This again did not fit my symptoms, as I am not an emotional person at all, neither laughing or crying for months at a  time.

It wasnt until this summer that I stumbled upon a smattering of novels/autobiographical novels, which opened my eyes to the world of someone with DID. It fit me exactly. I have since secretly studied my own erratic behaviors and strange mix of personality traits to find that I have at least 4 distinctive personalities, each personifying an emotion that had been stuffed  over and over again as a child for fear of being beaten and abused if any emotion was expressed.  Stardust -- the angry one. Rayne-- the sad one , Shiloh--the joyful one, and The Governor-- the unemotional intelligent one. 

My two major problems with having DID is that Stardust and  Rayne often sabotage the work that Shiloh and Governor are doing. Stardust and Rayne scare people off,  and so I am always losing friends quickly after making a connection. Secondly, whenever I decide to embark on a new career, take college courses, join a group, etc Stardust and Rayne find a way to sabotage it all and I go fleeing into the night.

I have had a  therapist since May, and though she may be picking up on some hints of my DID, she doesnt say anything and I am afraid to tell her.  I am afraid to tell anyone,  since people are scared of such diagnosises.  I know I will have to put up with these personalities forever, I just wish I could live free and open with others without being ashamed of my problems. Please help.
 
Replied By: sloomis on Dec 12, 2014, 3:27PM - In reply to tori626
If I am reading it right.... I would get like some sort of support group together even on like facebook. As someone who does struggle everyday suppot is the only thing to keep us strong.
 
Replied By: sloomis on Dec 12, 2014, 1:06PM
I suffer with epilepsy and because of that I have major depression and it makes my life hard to the point where if I wasn't one a anti-dression med. I would not be here. It is a struggle and I'm to the point where I'm about to stop taking that med to be able to take my life bcus I no longer want to be here.
 
Replied By: bgriggs on Dec 12, 2014, 12:18AM

My husband and I are exhausted, scared, and worried. His 10 yr. old daughter has become so violent, that we can no longer control her.  She has been in and out of a mental help facility numerous times over the last year and a half.  We've been told there is no help or cure for her and that she will continue to be in and out of the hospital for the rest of her life.  She has become so aggressive, that she physically attacks us, threatens suicide and homicide, and does physical damage to our home.  The periods between her aggression and calm times have become shorter and shorter.  We just don't know what to do anymore. We live in fear for our lives and hers. She recently begged for me to kill her with a knife and swore at me when I said no. Then she threatened to kill her dad and I with a knife.  She was being admitted to the hospital again, when she suddenly tried to choke herself with a coat she wrapped around her neck.  Currently she is at the hospital where she shows violence to others and attacks staff there.  We have been told, once again, she will be released soon and we are going to have to start thinking about the future with how strong and dangerous to others and herself she is becoming. 


A little history on the situation: 


            My step-daughter, whom I will refer to as "S" from now on, was born in May of 2004 to a mother who was drinking and using illegal drugs during and after the pregnancy. Her father was busy working 3 jobs and doing his best to take care of his little girl when he was home.  S was a wonderful little girl and very well behaved.  She was later diagnosed with ADHD, but that is not the problem. 


S's mother was known for drinking a lot and stealing her daughter's ADHD medicine to snort or smoke.  She left most of S's care to her husband.   She was abusive towards S's father both physcially and mentally. S witnessed these attacks many times.  The father never fought back.  He took the beatings.  


Christmas of 2009, S's biological mother moved out without warning.  Leaving S and her father in the home. 


The divorce went through in 2010.  The father,  whom I will refer to as "A", received custody of S and the mother, whom I shall refer to as "M", was allowed supervised visitation every other weekend.  During visitation, it was reported that S was sexually molested by her half brother.  It went through court and there was to be no contact between the siblings.  Sharing the same mother,  S and her half brother did see each other and mother kept it a secret, until S told her father about it. 


Fast forwarding, in 2013 S's mother began seeing her less and less.  A and I started dating and S was very happy to have me around.  M began causing problems and probing S with questions about A's and my relationship.  S was in 3rd grade at this time.  At the end of 3rd grade, S saw her mom for her last weekend visit.  Her mom did not come around at all or try to contact S all summer.  It was by her choice. At the start of S's 4th grade year, M came back into the picture.  While having lunch with S at school, M was asked to leave. She was using vulgar language, scaring the other students,  and asked to not return to the school.  S then continued a downward spiral with grades and attitude. She started lashing out at A and me both physically and verbally. This lead to her first stay in a hospital specializing in people with pyschological problems.  They tried numerous different medications on her and continuously sent her home with no real diagnosis.  The conditions at school and home started to worsen gradually. 


In January of 2014, S was sent to an Alternative Learning School (ALE) at the request of her home school.  She was bullying, being bullied, agressive, and could not handle being in a "normal" class room setting.  S was doing ok with the smaller classes and more therapy, but then again started to bottom out.  In May, S was admitted to the hospital again, but this time S was kept until October. 


In October, S started schooling through the hospital in their Theraputic Day Treatment (TDT), which S continues to go to at this time. Also, A and I married. S showed excitement and wanted to call me mom. S did this for a short time and now just calls me by my first name. We are not sure what caused her to change with this. She has had no contact with her biological mother in over an year.  S has stated she wants to kill her biological mother with a knife. She even came up with the plan to tie a knife to a jack-in-the-box and let her mother open it. When it popped, her mom would be stabbed.  


Over the next few months, S has become very violent and stays at the hospital more frequently. We have been told that there is no help for S and that she will never get better.  We now worry for our lives and hers.  4 days ago, she begged me to kill her with a knife and when I said I would NOT do that, she yelled, " shut the fuck up!"  and told me to "go to hell" Then she said she would kill her father and I with a knife since I wouldn't kill her. She has had to be restrained numerous times over the last few days.  We had to remove all but a bed and dresser from her room.  We live in constant fear of her.  Her outbursts are usually triggered by the word "NO".  It can start from something simple like telling her to tie her shoes, to something more like telling her to do her one chore... cleaning up after the dogs.  We've had to lock her in her room and hold the door. She almost ripped that off the hinges. She's put holes in her bedroom walls with her feet and head. She will kick, bite, punch, slap, spit on, and scratch us and her herself.  She will scream vulgarities at us, talk in a different voice, growl, and spit.  She has banged her head on cement floors, picked her fingernails til they bleed, and thrown things. Her newest things are to roll her eyes back in her head for at least 5 seconds and then attack.  She will go from nice to aggressive in a blink of an eye.  She will tilt her head down and look up at you with an almost evil smirk on her face.  Just sitting calmly, staring us down.  We have found she can control these outbursts.  She can stay quiet when she is trying to listen to what is going on, but will then scream and lash out when she hears something she may not like.  


Yesterday, December 10, 2014,  S was taken to the hospital, where she was put into a room with no furniture.  We had already had to restrain her numerous times in their lobby and it became quite the battle in the room.  They removed the furniture, because during a previous admittance, she had picked up the chairs and table, which  are not light, and thrown them putting a hole in the wall. This time she seemed more out of control and violent.  She was screaming, "those mother fuckers can go to hell", towards the stafff.  She was physically fighting her father and I.  At one point, she grabbed her coat, started walking across the room slowly twirling it,  got that evil smirk again, and then very quickly wrapped the coat around her neck and began strangling herself.  Her father tried to pull her hands off the coat, but that pulled it tighter.  It took us both to get it off her.  One of the staff was able to talk to her enough to get her to walk back to the unit she would be staying on.  


Most of our battles with S last from 2 to 6 hours. Before she was admitted, I had been up for almost 40 hours.  Sleeping was too scarey of a thing to do. We've been told to lock our bedroom door, but she will still get in. She seems to become super human with her fits. We've tried everything from awards with good behavior to straight up being stern.  Every suggestion we have ever had, we've tried.  She is only getting worse.  Now we got a call today, from a new therapist she is seeing at the hospital, and she said we need to start looking more to the future with S.  She is out of control now, but with the onset of puberty and her period, she will get seriously worse.  We have been told to make her a ward of the state, but we don't want that for her. It's not her fault for the way she is.  It's no ones fault.  


We could really use some help with this. We don't want S to be a guinea pig used for different medicines and we don't want to lose her.  Despite everything, we do love her and I love her as if she were my own.  We may not like her at times, but that doesn't change our love for her.  She needs help and we fear she is not getting it.  Changing up her meds to make her "tolerable" for short amounts of time, will not work for any of us.  Her aggression is getting to the point of homicidal and suicidal.  We don't want to see things get to the point of a tragedy happening, but that is the path we are on.  


Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.  We feel we are at an end with all this and there is no where to go, but down.  The help being offered is full of dead ends and no one seems to know anything.  Please help, if you can.  




Thank you.
 
Replied By: tori626 on Dec 11, 2014, 7:25PM
It frustrates me as a parent of a young daughter who has struggled with mental health issues since she was little and now she is in 7th grade that so many people are ignorant to her struggles.  I get tired of the educators in her life thinking that she is just a brat and not treating what is really wrong as a disability.  She has even said to me that it would be easier to have a visual illness because then people would acknowledge that something is wrong.  It is hard to watch your child struggle with their own self acceptance and then see adults that are supposed to role models treat her so poorly.  There is so much awareness for so many disabilities and yet it seems like this goes unsupported and misunderstood.  I teach special education for a living and have been blessed with a daughter that opened my eyes so that I can do my job better.  I have had so many parents breathe a sigh of relief when they get acceptance and understanding and not judgement.  I wish I could start an initiative to help support kids that suffer from mood disorders, anxiety, ect...  And their families but I don't know where to start.  Thoughts?
 
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