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Whether you're looking for Mr. Right or new to the dating scene, dating has challenges. Are you having difficulty finding “the one” for you? Have you tried online dating? Is your relationship on the rocks because your mate won't commit? Share your stories, experiences and advice.
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Replied By: believe100 on Jul 30, 2015, 9:50AM
Hello, I understand the daughter's position but I believe that if the father respects the boundaries of not dating her friends then he can date who he chooses.   Though Jimmy says he is not looking for a serious relationship, love does not know age.  There was 34 years between my mother and father.  Yes, 34 years.   They were married for 4 years before I was born and another 9 after I was born.  To blow your mind even more my dad was 63 when I born!  My male friends consider my dad as their hero or the greatest man ever!  Lol   There is no guarantee that any relationship or marriage will last "til death do us part".  So I believe, regardless of age, if you meet someone that makes you happy, treats you right, and loves you embrace it! As long as no laws or "boundaries" are being broke, do not worry about what others may say. Life is short and everyone deserves happiness.
 
Replied By: hurting1974 on Jul 29, 2015, 6:18PM - In reply to liomck
I wish I had some good advice, as I am going through the exact same thing (except I am 41 and he is 32).  If you can get him to see a doctor, then I need YOUR advice on how to get that to happen.  Interesting to me that my bf and I have also been together 7 months (been friends for 3 yrs), but our sex life has never been very good.  I just ignored my gut...He also told me that he just isn't a very sexual person, and never has been...but I recently discovered that he has been watching internet porn almost daily.  

The damage to my confidence and self esteem has been devastatin, and although he is an amazing guy otherwise (very complimentary, affection, considerate)... I can't see a future with someone who takes his sexualits outside of our relationship (essentially cheating), lies to me about it, neglects my needs, and refuses to get any sort of help.  Although he finally said he would see a doctor, he has not made it a priority or followed through with going.  He keeps asking for me to be patient, but as you can imagine, my patience is running thin.

I don't mean to go on about my situation, but I hope you know that you have somebody to at least talk to.  You definitely need to be honest and upfront with him, and unless he takes action things will not work.  Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it is an important component.  

Please let me know what happens, and I'm here if you want to talk more.
 
Replied By: justcheri on Jul 28, 2015, 11:05AM - In reply to liomck
I think a check-up with a medical doctor is a great idea, just to rule out anything physical. A 24 year old male should be, in my opinion, more sexual. Please urge him to do this, regardless of whether you have insurance or not. You can go to the free clinic if needed, that is what they are for.
 
Replied By: liomck on Jul 27, 2015, 10:52AM
Me (20) and my boyfriend (24) have been together aprox 7 months, because of finacial reasons soon after we got together (we've been friends/known each other for a long time) we moved in together. when we didn't live together our sex life was pretty healthy, my boyfriend would work away during the week then stay with me on a weekend. now we've moved in together things have gone down hill. we only have sex once every 5/6 weeks despite sleeping next to each other every night. It started out of the blue when we had a couple busy weeks and just didn't have time for sex but now it's continued. We've spoken about it before and I've explained how it makes me feel, I'm okay for the first couple weeks but then my confidence goes down massivley, I don't feel attractive, I feel unloved and unwanted.  :( Everytime we talk about it he say's "im just not a sex kinda guy" which I totally respect and don't want our relationship to be solely based on sex! but its really started to get to me..... I've asked him in the past what he wants, or if im doing something wrong or if he's cheating and he just gets upset. I've literally exhausted all efforts now and seriously thinking abot suggesting a trip to the doctors. :( any last minute help from anybody who has experiance or advice would be massivley appreciated! 
 
Replied By: gryphen on Jul 23, 2015, 2:44PM - In reply to dr_duckbutter
She has three options:


1. Abortion

2. Adoption

3. Keep the kid and sue him for support.


There are no other options, just variations of the same thing.

I suggest she make a list of all the pros and on another piece of paper, list the cons. That will help to clarify her choice


Only she can decide which option is best for her.



 
Replied By: gtcookies1 on Jul 22, 2015, 4:00PM
My father did the same thing.  I proved it was a scam.  He didn't believe it. He did it t for 15 years.  He is broke and has lost his home.  He lives with me now and suffers with hallucinations and dementia.  He made himself sick trying to get rich.  Getting help for him was a real mess. I finally had to green warrant him and had him committed.  I turned the phone off and became his power of attorney.  It has finally stopped.
 
Replied By: hurting1974 on Jul 19, 2015, 1:01AM - In reply to iwantreallove
Sorry to sound like a jerk, but how old are you?  This relationship seems super immature...
 
Replied By: iwantreallove on Jul 11, 2015, 4:33AM
Last Tuesday. July 7,2015 is our 2nd yr. Anniversary. We went out for a date. We're  supposed to eat and watch movie. But I don't know what happened to him. We went outside the mall. And he planned to go to their house. When I looked at my phone it's 7pm., so in getting pissed already. Why he didn't bother to celebrate at all?. He's so insensitive. He didn't even know why I am mad. So I'm not talking to him even if he asked me why I am mad. He said sorry. And he's disappointed also with what happened. He focused on the problem in their house. It's our 2nd yr anniversary. Why didnt make an effort at all?.we argue. We didn't talk until I went home. It's been 5 days That he didn't text me. I'm confused. I'm thinking that we are  maybe done for him. Are we really over?. What he was thinking right now?. Is he thinking about me?. I really want to know. Does he loves me?.
 
Replied By: snaggletooth on Jul 9, 2015, 9:23AM
Hello!

The title says it all. I don't think there's a long explanation needed.




I've been with him and lived with him for 2,5 years now, but I wanna leave.

He didn't do anything wrong or such, I just don't love him anymore. My bigest

fear is that if I leave him, he might hurt or kill himself which is a realistic possibillity

given that he has attemtped suicide in the past and was clinically depressed for a long,

long time. How do I get over this fear and just leave? And more importantly,

how do I break up without triggering him in some way?
 
Replied By: raea53 on Jul 5, 2015, 7:09PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now.  We do not live together as his adult 34 year old son lives with him in a studio apartment.  His son does not work and has a severe social anxiety problem.  My boyfriend says he feels responsible to be there for his son.  My boyfriend has told me he won't move in with me as his son would be too upset.  Altho, my boyfriend wants to move to a different state with me.  He said that was the only way we could marry and live together.  He is a good man, has a job, tells the truth and he is very loyal.  I don't understand why I stay with a man who won't commit to me unless we move away.  Is there something going on with my boyfriend and his son (maybe just an extremely dysfunctional relationship)?

 
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