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Whether you're looking for Mr. Right or new to the dating scene, dating has challenges. Are you having difficulty finding “the one” for you? Have you tried online dating? Is your relationship on the rocks because your mate won't commit? Share your stories, experiences and advice.
Replied By: believe100 on Jul 30, 2015, 9:50AM
Hello, I understand the daughter's position but I believe that if the father respects the boundaries of not dating her friends then he can date who he chooses.   Though Jimmy says he is not looking for a serious relationship, love does not know age.  There was 34 years between my mother and father.  Yes, 34 years.   They were married for 4 years before I was born and another 9 after I was born.  To blow your mind even more my dad was 63 when I born!  My male friends consider my dad as their hero or the greatest man ever!  Lol   There is no guarantee that any relationship or marriage will last "til death do us part".  So I believe, regardless of age, if you meet someone that makes you happy, treats you right, and loves you embrace it! As long as no laws or "boundaries" are being broke, do not worry about what others may say. Life is short and everyone deserves happiness.
Replied By: gryphen on Jul 23, 2015, 2:44PM - In reply to dr_duckbutter
She has three options:

1. Abortion

2. Adoption

3. Keep the kid and sue him for support.

There are no other options, just variations of the same thing.

I suggest she make a list of all the pros and on another piece of paper, list the cons. That will help to clarify her choice

Only she can decide which option is best for her.

Replied By: gtcookies1 on Jul 22, 2015, 4:00PM
My father did the same thing.  I proved it was a scam.  He didn't believe it. He did it t for 15 years.  He is broke and has lost his home.  He lives with me now and suffers with hallucinations and dementia.  He made himself sick trying to get rich.  Getting help for him was a real mess. I finally had to green warrant him and had him committed.  I turned the phone off and became his power of attorney.  It has finally stopped.
Replied By: hurting1974 on Jul 19, 2015, 1:01AM - In reply to iwantreallove
Sorry to sound like a jerk, but how old are you?  This relationship seems super immature...
Replied By: iwantreallove on Jul 11, 2015, 4:33AM
Last Tuesday. July 7,2015 is our 2nd yr. Anniversary. We went out for a date. We're  supposed to eat and watch movie. But I don't know what happened to him. We went outside the mall. And he planned to go to their house. When I looked at my phone it's 7pm., so in getting pissed already. Why he didn't bother to celebrate at all?. He's so insensitive. He didn't even know why I am mad. So I'm not talking to him even if he asked me why I am mad. He said sorry. And he's disappointed also with what happened. He focused on the problem in their house. It's our 2nd yr anniversary. Why didnt make an effort at all?.we argue. We didn't talk until I went home. It's been 5 days That he didn't text me. I'm confused. I'm thinking that we are  maybe done for him. Are we really over?. What he was thinking right now?. Is he thinking about me?. I really want to know. Does he loves me?.
Replied By: snaggletooth on Jul 9, 2015, 9:23AM

The title says it all. I don't think there's a long explanation needed.

I've been with him and lived with him for 2,5 years now, but I wanna leave.

He didn't do anything wrong or such, I just don't love him anymore. My bigest

fear is that if I leave him, he might hurt or kill himself which is a realistic possibillity

given that he has attemtped suicide in the past and was clinically depressed for a long,

long time. How do I get over this fear and just leave? And more importantly,

how do I break up without triggering him in some way?
Replied By: raea53 on Jul 5, 2015, 7:09PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now.  We do not live together as his adult 34 year old son lives with him in a studio apartment.  His son does not work and has a severe social anxiety problem.  My boyfriend says he feels responsible to be there for his son.  My boyfriend has told me he won't move in with me as his son would be too upset.  Altho, my boyfriend wants to move to a different state with me.  He said that was the only way we could marry and live together.  He is a good man, has a job, tells the truth and he is very loyal.  I don't understand why I stay with a man who won't commit to me unless we move away.  Is there something going on with my boyfriend and his son (maybe just an extremely dysfunctional relationship)?

Replied By: dr_duckbutter on Jun 27, 2015, 10:56PM - In reply to tealjac
I am not crazy about dating web sites also. Everybody says they are good and alot are not. None of them ask

how are we going to support ourself or are we going to just let our looks buy everything. Let not forget looks does not pay the bills. But as for men we dont like drama or fairy tales women usually like. If I get bored with the 80 % divorce rate women initiate theres always cheaper vacations to bangkok. Cheaper than paying lawyers.
Replied By: dr_duckbutter on Jun 27, 2015, 10:42PM - In reply to tanlil1
This guy does not have a good attitude. I would get to the doctor right away for a morning after pill.

You surely do not want a unloved child. The guy is just as responcible about birth control. But I would not ruin my life on it. Dump the dude he is a user. Four years and he can not come to you. Garbage.
Replied By: tanlil1 on Jun 26, 2015, 2:34PM
Hi there, I am dating a man now for nearly 4 years.  We do not live together and we live about an hour and a half away from each other so only see each other on weekends.  I am the one who always travels to where he lives as he runs his own business and it's nearly impossible for him to get away, and I live with family members where he owns his own home.

Last weekend we did a pregnancy test together and it was positive. This is something that was a complete fluke! I have never missed a birth control pill not once.  He did not react well to the result and got rather mean and started saying hurtful things.  I went to work Monday morning and we have barely spoken all week.  I spoke to him lastnight after I tried to call him every night this week but he was "too busy" to talk to me about things.  I wrote him an e-mail and told him how I was feeling and said that for normal relationships this would be a good thing but ours its tearing us apart and it's only just the beginning.  Neither one of us wants to have the child (please keep your opinions to yourself about this part please as I am struggling enough without getting hateful comments). When I finally spoke with him lastnight he said that he was angry with me about how I was talking about the situation in the e-mail and that he's not happy with us for the last week.  He's just being very cold and hurtful and I don't know what to do or say to him to make him understand how hard this is for both of us but that we need to stick together to make it through this together.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you
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