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Raising Infants/Toddlers

Having a baby is one of life’s biggest blessings – but some new parents may be wondering, what do I do now?! Are you a new parent with questions? Or, do you have tips to offer others? How do you handle tantrums? What’s your potty-training secret? How do you calm a crying baby and get your child to sleep? What techniques do you use to get your picky little one to eat? Share your stories!
Replied By: stephenpc on Aug 28, 2015, 9:50AM - In reply to stephenpc
She likes to sleep with her feet towards me so she can kick me all night, and starts whining if I move too far for her to kick me
Replied By: stephenpc on Aug 28, 2015, 9:45AM
I work everyday and get up early, my girlfriend is 7 months pregnant and stays home to take care of her first child which is 14 months old we only have 2 months left before the new baby comes and she doesn't understand that her first baby needs to stop sleeping with us. We argue a lot about this but 3 minutes of the baby crying in her room and she's off to get her and bring her with us. She will not sleep without her mom and if she wakes up and she's not even facing her she goes crazy. I need help she doesn't understand that This is going to be a big problem when the new baby comes. Please help
Replied By: mom2pekes2 on Sep 12, 2014, 7:40PM
Is it appropriate for the opposite sex parent to bathe or shower with their two or three year old? Example: Mommy showering with son or Daddy showering with daughter?
Replied By: springglen on Jul 9, 2014, 12:38PM
A young mother on today's show (7-9-14) was at her wit's end raising young children and the advice was to get help. (I assume it meant hired help.)  If money is a factor, my first choice would be for a nice fenced in yard where they would be safe even if unsupervised. There was no discussion of the physical environment. I hope they didn't live in an appartment. Sure they could get bumps and scrapes, but that isn't too serious, and the mother can use the time to do what she needs to rejuvenate herself, be it personal hygeine, a telephone call to a girl friend, or straightening up the house, what ever needs doing.
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 3:40AM - In reply to onelove7481
Sounds like quite a pickle! I really don't have an answer for you, as I debate this question in my head every year about what I'm going to do when I'm a parent. Morally, I don't want to lie and think Santa Claus is a pointless legend now... but I'm also an adult and have not been a child in quite awhile, so I have to remind myself, well I enjoyed the mystery of Santa as a child and I was only sad for a moment when I found out the truth. It's funny how something so ridiculous as a fat man in a red suit has me in such a moral dilemma!

I found this article on the subject that brings up some good points supporting your beliefs. Your husband and his mom may change their minds:
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 3:25AM - In reply to mommao4
I like that one mom's response about having her child clean up after his accidents. It's a very important standard to uphold with kids. But I've never had experience with a foster child before. What sort of environment did she live in before you took her in? If she dealt with abuse of any kind, there could be bigger issues she is having that typical parenting practices won't solve. I've nannied for a child who had specific needs (over-active, highly emotional) and seeing an occupational therapist really helped her situation. It gave her parents and I the tools to communicate better with her.
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 3:02AM - In reply to saturnamom
As much as I'm sympathetic to how tired your husband must be after being out of town all week, there is no time off from being a parent. Even if it is just for a couple hours on his day off, he needs to have some special one-on-one time with his daughter where she has his complete and undivided attention (you can take a break!). Skype dates during the week when he's gone may be helpful as well. Her dad is the most important guy in her life right now, and it's very important that he has an involved relationship with her even when he's out of town. Maybe during the week he can send her a special postcard in the mail that is just for her. You may find that she is more disciplined when she is not desperate for her dad's attention.

Even though daycare is great for socializing and a structured day, when she starts going full-time, you will definitely need to supplement the parenting time she is going to be missing out on. Mommy-daughter dates will be important. Maybe give her something to look forward to after daycare each day like 20 minutes at the park where the two of you play hide-and-seek together or at the end of the week you can take her out for frozen yogurt.
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 2:40AM - In reply to bclarkmom
As a nanny, it never hurts to introduce kids to potty-training if they're curious about it. My rule is to keep it positive! I've been with families that really push the potty training at 2 years (requirement for entry to some preschools) and it can really be a nightmare. Be easy-going about it. Every child goes at his/her own pace, and in my experience, girls get to the potty sooner than boys. Get one of those little potty seats to go on the big potty or you can get a potty chair to go on the floor (more accessible, but can be messy if not monitored). Start out letting her sit on it in the mornings, before lunch, and before bed or however often she wants to. You can make it a routine and when you mention it act really excited about it so she'll be excited too. You can set a timer on your phone and let her pick out a special ringtone for it. It's okay if she doesn't want to go every time starting out. When she first goes on the potty she probably won't go pee yet, but it's just an introduction so don't worry. Once she starts peeing in the potty, create a sticker chart or some sort of small reward system - the little boy I work with loves to get a yogurt pretzel after the potty. Make it something small that you can give her several times a day... like, a whole cupcake won't work unless you want a sugar-buzzed kiddo running around, haha.
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 2:23AM - In reply to lisapruitt
I would use distraction for his non-egregious actions and time-outs or loss of privileges for egregious actions. If time-outs don't work, then skip to loss of privileges. Kids learn really fast when they miss out on things like going to their friend's house or getting to watch a movie. Spankings should be reserved for something horribly dangerous like running out into the street. I'm a nanny and am extremely successful using those tactics (except the spanking of course). Always remember, he's only been in the world for 2 years, so he's still trying to understand his own emotions and how to express them properly. And it must be hard that his own parents aren't there for him. Pick your battles and if you feel you can't get through to him, put yourself in his tiny little shoes and look at it from his perspective.
Replied By: wingedrunner on Mar 7, 2014, 9:13PM - In reply to nscoltsfan1
First off, it sounds like you have a pretty great kid, and pretty free home if she thinks that she can get up in the middle fo the night to do her business. I must commend you on that. A houshold of freedom promotes a detailed world and a strong willed adult. Pretty great if you ask me:)

My two year old did this too int he middle of the night, and we established room time early on. We would have go to bed in her room about an hour before us and our rules were simple, "we dont want to see you, we dont want to hear you for the rest of the night."  We wanted her to understand that she manages her sleeptime, and what she does in her room for the night.

The first few nights we had to keep watch on her door opening and her making her way downstairs, We had to keep explaining to her that she can manage herself however she wants in her room. She can keep the lights on, stay up play quietly until she falls asleep, we just dont want to see her or hear her for the night. The fourth night, we didnt see her or hear her and she stayed up till God knows when and put herself to sleep.  

You maybe thinking,"well what happens if they dont get enough sleep?" well, this is where schedule comes into play. My daughter gets one nap a day and its nothing but park time, walks and fun so she caught on pretty quick that sleep was pretty important. She is in bed by 9:30 everynight...and by choice. She is three now and her schedule still works. 

Our goal behind this is to get ther to manage herself. To many times today we see helicopter parentign and parents assuming responsibility for their childrens issues. We feel that if we teach our little one how to manage the small things like sleep, then she will grow to learn how to manage more complex things in the future.

I really hope this helps or at lease generates options.

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