Raising Infants/Toddlers

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Replied By: mavacat on Dec 30, 2015, 7:16PM
So I have this friend.... (seriously, it's NOT me) who is in a toxic abusive marriage. Screaming, fighting, physical vilolence, verbal abuse, death threats, the whole nine yards- keep in mind it goes BOTH ways here AND they have a small child with some special needs. Yes they fight in front of the child and yes the child is 'aware.' Neither one of the adults will back down.  I'm a little concerned about the child- I don't think either one of them would ever harm the child but this can't be a healthy environment to grow up in!

Friend doesn't want to leave/divorce because they don't want to lose parental rights- they were told by a lawyer that because they child is special needs they would likely have very few, if any, parental rights.

I've spoken up and said I don't think this is a healthy way for a child to grow up, friend agrees. I've asked- if you're staying 'for the child' at what point do you leave FOR the child's welfare? Friend agrees. Still doesn't want to change. Now do I just let it go? Is it none of my business?
Replied By: bonesinadrum on Oct 30, 2015, 6:12PM - In reply to bonesinadrum
Reason to water down fluids is so isn't as harsh on their skin. If they are happy simply drinking water, perfect. May want to apply some vaseline to areas urine may run .... especially if drinking something acidic.
Replied By: bonesinadrum on Oct 30, 2015, 6:07PM - In reply to mountainwoman1
Having trained many kids .... may be able to help. First, they are walking (please don't wait until they are two); 13-19 months is best potty training time. Take two or three days that you will be home. Lose the plastic diapers/pullups. Get cloth underwear, socks ...... have several sets clean and ready. Find something they really like to drink and water it down .... put ice in it, fruit, whatever is gonna make em drink up. Try not to make a big fuss. Every hour, encourage potty; never make em. Soon enough, they will pee themselves. Be calm, no biggie. Offer paper towel to clean up (you clean up properly when they aren't looking), let them change (have patience) underwear and socks themselves. They'll quickly learn this is uncomfortable and pee on pot. Watch ..... one accident in a week. If, after week, tempted to put back into diapers ..... go ahead and try in another month. Should not need pullups ....... please do not use pullups (messes whole thing up). That being said, with the twins i used pullups for long trips in minivan. They never piddled in them and complained were too hot. Their older brother was a big help with patience ...he was easily trained before first bday; one accident. CLOTH diapers and underwear.
Replied By: chrissy4114 on Sep 11, 2015, 3:01PM - In reply to mom2pekes2
My husband and i have a 4 month old and he takes a bath with her every once in a while. She is a girl, so my husband wears boxers/bathingsuit shorts when he does. He said he would feel wierd if he otherwise didnt. Everyone h]is going to have different opnions on this topic. I personally think it is okay to do if its being done maturely and properly- in our case, with him wearing some kind of shorts clothing. I think it is okay if you do this a 2 or 3 year old. When they get a little older than that i would just let the child be by themselves in the tub, but have supervision in the bathroom.
Replied By: stephenpc on Aug 28, 2015, 9:50AM - In reply to stephenpc
She likes to sleep with her feet towards me so she can kick me all night, and starts whining if I move too far for her to kick me
Replied By: stephenpc on Aug 28, 2015, 9:45AM
I work everyday and get up early, my girlfriend is 7 months pregnant and stays home to take care of her first child which is 14 months old we only have 2 months left before the new baby comes and she doesn't understand that her first baby needs to stop sleeping with us. We argue a lot about this but 3 minutes of the baby crying in her room and she's off to get her and bring her with us. She will not sleep without her mom and if she wakes up and she's not even facing her she goes crazy. I need help she doesn't understand that This is going to be a big problem when the new baby comes. Please help
Replied By: mom2pekes2 on Sep 12, 2014, 7:40PM
Is it appropriate for the opposite sex parent to bathe or shower with their two or three year old? Example: Mommy showering with son or Daddy showering with daughter?
Replied By: springglen on Jul 9, 2014, 12:38PM
A young mother on today's show (7-9-14) was at her wit's end raising young children and the advice was to get help. (I assume it meant hired help.)  If money is a factor, my first choice would be for a nice fenced in yard where they would be safe even if unsupervised. There was no discussion of the physical environment. I hope they didn't live in an appartment. Sure they could get bumps and scrapes, but that isn't too serious, and the mother can use the time to do what she needs to rejuvenate herself, be it personal hygeine, a telephone call to a girl friend, or straightening up the house, what ever needs doing.
Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 3:40AM - In reply to onelove7481
Sounds like quite a pickle! I really don't have an answer for you, as I debate this question in my head every year about what I'm going to do when I'm a parent. Morally, I don't want to lie and think Santa Claus is a pointless legend now... but I'm also an adult and have not been a child in quite awhile, so I have to remind myself, well I enjoyed the mystery of Santa as a child and I was only sad for a moment when I found out the truth. It's funny how something so ridiculous as a fat man in a red suit has me in such a moral dilemma!

I found this article on the subject that brings up some good points supporting your beliefs. Your husband and his mom may change their minds:

Replied By: mountainwoman1 on Apr 13, 2014, 3:25AM - In reply to mommao4
I like that one mom's response about having her child clean up after his accidents. It's a very important standard to uphold with kids. But I've never had experience with a foster child before. What sort of environment did she live in before you took her in? If she dealt with abuse of any kind, there could be bigger issues she is having that typical parenting practices won't solve. I've nannied for a child who had specific needs (over-active, highly emotional) and seeing an occupational therapist really helped her situation. It gave her parents and I the tools to communicate better with her.
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