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Fatherhood can be a rewarding yet challenging experience. Are you raising a child or children on your own? What are some of the struggles you face? How have you persevered in this role? Do you struggle to balance parenthood and time for yourself? Share your challenges and strategies with others.
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Replied By: scorpiodad on Jan 16, 2015, 9:49AM
Please, to whom it may concern. My name is Steve. I am a single father of a 15 year old daughter, desperately reaching out to you for help. I am raising my daughter the best way I know how, with all the love, respect and understanding to the best of my ability, in my heart. My daughter has been living with me for a little over two years now. Before living with me she lived with her Mom. Her relationship with her Mom is not a good one. Her Mom has had three other kids with another man and pays more attention to them then she does to my daughter. Because of this, my daughter feels like her Mom doesn't care about her and has forgotten about her. The father of her Mom's other children plays favorites with the other kids and miss treats my daughter, verbally, emotionally, and even physically. This is just some background that may have some bearing on the current situation. My daughter is a good kid with a big heart but the problems I've been having with her are getting worse. I am very active in my daughters life. Nothing is more important to me than my daughter. Not to long ago I found out that my daughter started cutting herself, for the second time. She even wrote a scary poem about the cutting. She has been withdrawing from me more and more. Her grades are falling to the point of failing school. She has been caught stealing and smoking pot. Almost every time she opens her mouth even if shes caught red handed, its to argue or tell a lie about school, friends, boys, grades, homework, who she's hanging out with, where she's going, where she's been and even the cloths she wears. She has even lied to me, the police and the paramedic's about a suicide attempt that she was lying about to someone else. If she's not lying she's saying "Ok" just to get me to leave her alone or saying "I don't know" or "I forgot". I feel like, she does know and she didn't forget, at all, she just doesn't care and wants to do whatever she wants. She has told me she wants me to care but also wants me to leave her alone altogether. I don't see how I'm supposed to care but completely leave her alone at the same time, it makes no sense to me. I have her in counselling, which she hates, so she doesn't participate. She says its to stressful to talk about how she feels. I have tried everything in the book. I've grounded her, taken her cell phone, taken computer privileges, taken video games and TV. Facebook is not aloud at all, but she has been caught twice with fake names on Facebook. I've tried rewarding her, paying her, bribing her. I've tried being understanding, talking calmly, yelling, getting mad, being a friend and a friendly father. I've even given her things to look forward to. She doesn't seem to care about any of that. She doesn't know it but I have even called, Turn About Ranch, which doesn't seem to be a option for me do to financial limitations. I'm at the end of my rope. I am lost and have no idea what to do to help her but I feel like I need to do something to help her, before her life takes a really bad turn for the worse.  Please, Dr. Phil, if you can, help me!
 
Replied By: ldsm1234 on Apr 27, 2013, 9:28PM
I want Dr. Phil and Dr. Drew and all of society to admit that they hold single mothers to a different standard than single dads. I do not feel there is any difference for me to raise my two children alone as a single mother and any man who has to raise kids on his own as a single parent. Any woman is criticized if she wants a life for herself and is blamed for any issue her child may have but the fathers can get away with never seeing their child and if they do happen to get custody people (including professionals) say things like "I don't know how he takes care of those kids on his own"??? I do it everyday and always have and no one has ever asked me how i've raised my kids alone. Women are treated differently. I think it should be addressed by Dr. Phil and Dr. Drew and any other professional that may want to join in because I am tired of society allowing ment to get away with having no responsibility for their children. If they happen to get to see them on the weekends...Their own mothers end up taking care of their kids, not them. This is in 98% of the cases. Please look at this comment Dr. Phil. This drives me crazy thart women are supposed to work, care for the kids and do it all alone and men are totally treated differently and held to a much different standard... It's not right.. Society needs to change!
 
Replied By: viviana32 on Feb 20, 2013, 7:40PM
hi!  i had just plugged in today and starting to watch the absentee mom.  well i myself left two years ago to move to CO from las vegas, did have a job there but i go spooked and moved to Sacramento and left my three kids with their dad who lives with his mom.  for two years i had major depression and made a major decision to move back to las vegas to be near kids.  i am here since past few weeks and cant seem to be positive about vegas and also have a hard time being alone.  like ur feed

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