Teen Talk

 
  Are you hanging out with the wrong crowd?
  Do you suffer from low self-esteem?
  Is there peer pressure at school to join a gang, drink, smoke or have sex?
  Do you have friends who are drinking and driving, and you're worried?
  Feel misunderstood by your parents?
  Fear that you're headed down the wrong path in life?
  Know someone in an abusive relationship? Is she too frightened or embarrassed to talk to her parents? Is she afraid to leave her boyfriend?
  Are you the one who has attacked your girlfriend? Do you struggle with anger issues but don't know how to ask for help?

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Replied By: emelie99 on Sep 22, 2013, 5:23PM - In reply to felicamarie93
You are so lucky to be only 20 years old and realize that you have fell off the wagon. But girl, you are only 20 years old. do you know how fast you could jump back on?


I am a 46 year old mother and my love is so strong. 


I did a lot of mistakes in my 46 years. For me it was never drugs or alcohol or gambling. It was always not being responsable with my finances, not paying my bills, I had the money because I always worked but did not care. I had my phone and electricity shut so many times and my parents always paid for me. But you know what? that was not the wright thing to do to help me. I realized it when I became a mother myself, and there was a very small an fragile human that needed that I be responsable.


Today, I am more happy and my parents still love me to piece. My daugther is now 14 years old and so intelligent and kind. I had to rebuild the trust with my parents over and over but they always let me get back up and try again. Because my friend, the day that you stop trying to be better, is the day that you will have failed yourself and everybody who loves you. I do not know  your parents but please talk to them and always keep trying.


xxx
 
Replied By: emelie99 on Sep 22, 2013, 5:10PM - In reply to blendedfamily4
Hello,


Did you tried to reech out to the school for some support? At my daughter's school they have a super team of experts to help us as much as they can. Would you be confortable asking?


It is so difficult to try to understand them without pushing them further. And we are always scared to say the wrong thing and resulting in them taking the wrong décision.


Is there someone in your family that your daughter feels very close to or closer to? I think the most important thing is the dialogue and if it"s not with you, at least it could be with a person that you trust also.


I wish I could help more...

 
Replied By: emelie99 on Sep 17, 2013, 1:21PM - In reply to blendedfamily4
I fee for your family. I have a 14 year old myself. When she started hight school she had some questions about girls and boys. She told me that a girl that she was friend with, ask her if she liked girls or boys.


My daughter to reply that she likes boys but never had any experiences yet. I know the internet is a got thig but I find that if it is not controlled by parents, there is way to much exposures to everything. I for me, it just confuses our children more then it help.


I think the most important thing is to keep the dialogue open all the time and hope that we will know when it is time to talk or even more important to listen.


Josee.
 
Replied By: blendedfamily4 on Sep 15, 2013, 1:38AM
Okay my husband and I are completely confused on how to manage this situation. We have a 13 yr old daughter. Her whole life she has been drooling over the opposite gender. However we were just told she likes girls by her bio mother.Both the mom and us are completely unaware of this. Come to find out that she has a 13 yr old girl friend that is or at least she calls her self bi gender. Our major concern is how can we truely know that our daughter is completely sure of what she likes. She has never been in any type of relationship. We are willing to support her 100% percent however how can know if this is real or just a move of rebelious stage. When we ask her what she likes about the girl she smiles and replies her personally her character. How can I make her understand what she is stepping into? thank you in advance for the responses
 
Replied By: rozlin44 on Sep 14, 2013, 10:13AM - In reply to undeadroses
My father was a violent alcoholic.  My mother was a mean co-dependent and thinks she was a good mother.  Eventually I cut contact with both parents.  My father "traditionally" left the parenting to mom who just did not like me--I was the second daughter as was the sister she hated.  Both parents wanted sons.  I have 2 sisters and 2 brothers.  They did not have things great but a lot better than I had.  Parents always had time and money for self and sons but I got no school cloths, never a hug or kind word, never a birthday present or gift (although siblings did), no graduation gift.  Endless cruel remarks.  My self esteem was a negative number.  After high school I had some success on the job and worked out of some of the pain.  Now I'm aged 60 and still recall the abuse, daily/nightly I cry.  I've had some couseling/therapy over the years but they just want you to relive the pain over and over and over again.  My mother still refuses she did anything wrong.  She seems slightly embarassed that I as the black sheep of the family do not visit so she can brag to neighbors and relatives about my career success.  I recall when the "rich" uncle last visited her, she phoned and acted surprised she reached me.  She didn't exactly ask me to visit but suggested I could stay with her while I visited old friends.  I don't have any old friiends--high school was a nightware--no school cloths, never pocket money, unable to attend school events, never allowed to bring chums home--I was "allowed" to visit their homes but that stopped when I could never reciprocate.  Anyhow, you get the idea.  I was about 32 years old when I finally said ENOUGH.  I stopped opening the annual Christmas card as the tears and pain are enough without further smart remarks and attempts to make me feel guilty for not fulfilling my "obligations" to them.  PATRICK, for your own well being, you may need to LIMIT contact with your father.
 
Replied By: samdreasen on Sep 3, 2013, 11:57AM - In reply to alfresco
I read your article and I think you need to have a calm, adult conversation with your parents and tell them the truth, otherwise they will eventually find out and be crushed to learn you hid it from them.  I am 20 and I have a great, honest relationshop with my mom, becuase i didnt lie to her. 

If you're parents object to it, you need to remind them that you ARE legally an adult and you are able to make your own descions. But dont be snotty about it. Be civil and explain to them how happy it makes you. as long as your honest and remain calm it should be fine. Its better to tell them the truth now while you still can. 
 
Replied By: jaimie1974 on Aug 23, 2013, 4:39PM - In reply to undeadroses
Does your mom ever say anything or try to help you create a relationship with your father? Just wondering...

You said that everytime you talk with your father, it ends up in a huge argument. My suggestion is to talk with him about topics that are not going to lead to an argument. Take an interest in something he's doing (dad is supposed to do this, but since he doesn't and you want a relationship- you'll have to make the first step!) try to approach him to converse when you think/know he isn't drunk. Don't confront him about his alcoholism or any bad habits- that will always lead to an argument! I'm sure you already know that. If this doesn't help to lead to more positive interactions with your dad, don't be too upset about it. Later on, your father will regret not engaging with you. I bet he already does regret it, but he probably doesn't know where to start at this point with you. best wishes!



eplied By: undeadroses on Aug 20, 2013, 9:16PM

Hello, my name is patrick. Please don't take my username as an excuse to skip over my story. Im 19 and currently going to college. I live with my parents and brother. My father is a bad alcoholic and has been for years. This itself has taken a toll on me. Me and my father do not have a relationship yet i try and stress in making one. Going to college, I am taking multiple choir/ singing classes. While theres always a concert going on, my dad always seems to make an excuse to not make it. When it comes to my brother though who is a gymnastic, hes going to every meet that he has. I keep thinking to myself if im just the kid that either her doesnt like or just wants to ignore. Everytime I try to converse with him, it aalways ends up in an argument. One time it got so bad I have to move out for a couple months and have no contact. Im just wondering how can I fix this? Becuse nothing would be better than fixing this relationship and fixing my depression.
 
Replied By: undeadroses on Aug 20, 2013, 9:16PM
Hello, my name is patrick. Please don't take my username as an excuse to skip over my story. Im 19 and currently going to college. I live with my parents and brother. My father is a bad alcoholic and has been for years. This itself has taken a toll on me. Me and my father do not have a relationship yet i try and stress in making one. Going to college, I am taking multiple choir/ singing classes. While theres always a concert going on, my dad always seems to make an excuse to not make it. When it comes to my brother though who is a gymnastic, hes going to every meet that he has. I keep thinking to myself if im just the kid that either her doesnt like or just wants to ignore. Everytime I try to converse with him, it aalways ends up in an argument. One time it got so bad I have to move out for a couple months and have no contact. Im just wondering how can I fix this? Becuse nothing would be better than fixing this relationship and fixing my depression.
 
Replied By: alfresco on Aug 19, 2013, 11:02AM
Well, Im 18 years old, graduated from high school. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and he's two years older then I am. The two of us work together creatively and produce a multitude of art pieces through many mediums. We have a strong relationship, and we are both very supportive of one another. From the beginning of our relationship I have been staying at his house, at the beginning it was only on weekends, but since i've been out of school I have been staying for multiple day chunks. My parents don't know that i'm staying at his house, instead they believe i'm at girl friends houses. My parents are both very animate about me not staying the night at his house, but i've stayed a lot. My boyfriends mother is fine with me staying over and is actually pleased to have me over, though she does believe that my parents are aware of my whereabouts. My boyfriend and I are very respectful in her home, we buy our own food, we cook and clean for ourselves and if she ever needs us to do things for her we do them no question. 
Because i'm spending so much time at his house I feel terrible about lying to everyone involved, especially because everyone involved trusts me so much. Originally my plan was to keep everything a secret until I have an apartment of my own. Which wont be long, my job is picking up and I will soon have enough funding to live on my own. But at the same time I don't want to lie to them. I just don't know how to come clean. Especially since its been over a year. 
Help?
 
Replied By: felicamarie93 on Aug 7, 2013, 12:14PM
Hello everyone my name is felica . im going to be 20 this year . well iv been dealing how to get my life back . about when i was 15 up to the age of 18 i drop out school when to hang out with bad people and i lost becoming a nurse , i disappointment my parents.. i dont know what to how to get my life back 


any ideas anyone please help 
 
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