Hi everyone I am not sure that I am correctly doing this but here goes I am a teenager in school I was molested when I was ten and it has really been hitting me hard this last year, I am sometimes feeling depressed and it takes me forever to get to sleep at night I finally got the strength to go to the school counceller yesterday which I think will be good for me because there are some days where I dont even want to be alive however I would NEVER do anything to myself because of the impact it would have on my family and friends I am really confuzed and trying to heal, any suggestions on how to move forword in life??? thank you very much 

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Reading this just reminds me of how I was a few years ago. I think the best thing you can do is try to reach out to somebody. A friend, a teacher, or a parent. Right now, it may not seem like such a big deal but self harm can snowball into a huge problem. I wish that when I was in the early stages of self harm that someone would have told me to get help then because it would make a world of difference. The longer you wait the harder it will be to admit you have a problem. And you might feel ashamed about it but you have nothing to be ashamed about. There are more people than you know, there might even BE people you know who are suffering with self-harm.
Reach out and look for some help. Don't get caught up in this tangled web. Take care.

Hi there,

I hope I am writing on the right place at this forum. It isn´t all clear to me.

I read a lot about problems on this site..I have a little question.

A few years I feld really bad. At a moment I damaged myself, but not once, but almost everryday. I did this because I didn't know how to express my feelings. Now I stopped for a few months, but I have lots of times the tendency to do it again. I tried to find some derivation, but it doesn't work. Some times I am just shaking cause I don't want to give up.

Does annyone have some hints for me..?

My name is paige, i'm 16 years old, my family and i are all going through
a very hard time.. i feel i dont have any one to talk to about all of this, i really
need some advice. i'm so lost, confused, depressed; i can't get out of this.

Hi Jeff,
I'm Randy (21) and i'm  from Belgium, (so forgive me for my bad English)
I read your comment and even by the fact that i don't know you i wanted to help you!
And this no joke i'm really serious, cause i hate to see people being down
I'm very honest so i will tell you what i think, if thing are not going well with your friend you can always have fun with you family cause they love you.
A i wanted to let you know that  i want to make you feel better about you're self.
I'm really serious and don't be depressed, i'm sure you'll do fine at school.
If you read this comment send me a mail: randy1988@hotmail.com
Let me know about your days!!
Randy

For the past year, my brother and I have become pretty close. For a few months I've considered him my best friend. In September, there was a party at my house where he met an old friend of mine who I had invited to see if I could reconnect with her. To an extent we did reconnect, but she and I live completely different lives. I am a long-term relationship person with beliefs that sex is not something to just give out. She tends to bounce from one guy to the next. One of her exes even said that she does it simply to
"collect condoms and have sex." Well, she met my brother and they really hit it off. Within a week they had begun dating, despite the fact that my other friends and I had advised my brother against it. That was the same week that my brother accidentally overdosed on medication and scared us all to death. It brought us closer for a little while, and he said that our friendship (even as brother and sister) meant a lot to him and he wouldnt let anything ruin it. Lately, almost a month after he and the girl began dating, he's been neglecting us for her. He only talks to us when absolutely necessary, and any conversation we try to have with him is pointless. Last week he even to me to "disregard" what he said about our friendship being more important to him than anything.

I told him that he and I needed to talk, alone. He agreed to listen and said that he would hear me out without getting angry (however possible that is). I plan to tell him that I think his relationship with her is ruining our relationship, and that a lot of mutual friends I talk to have seen the change and lost respect for him. How do I go about this conversation and how do I make him understand where I'm coming from?

hmm.. Issues affecting my life...
What I'm seeing a lot around me, are people who have drinking problems. Drinking themselfs into toxication, or worse. There's not a lot of drug-abuse. I mean, yes, of course, people use, but not problematicaly.
I guess what's affecting me the most are the suicide rates (between the lines, I'm from the Netherlands). There are a lot of people walking around with the thoughts of suicide, or even attempted so. That worries me a lot. I think that's the biggest issue of our teenagers, though no one even dares to speak their minds. Yes, the real close friends know. But those friends don't dare to call for help. It's a taboo (do you know that word? :S). Well, if you don't know it; it means there won't be talked about the subject, because it is too painful.
Recently, though, to prevent suicide there's started a new form of providing help, through the internet and by an anonymous phone-line. Which, I must say, gives me hope. The taboo is seen. But it feels like there should happen so much more..

Kindly, Marieke.

Hi Dr. Phil

I am a young man who like a lot of other young people suffer from low energy and low self-esteem. How do I change that? It's also hard for me to get along with my friends at school. It's as if I have a hard time connecting with other people, which means that I sometimes land in unpleasant situations, doing things that I don't want to do and promising to go to a party when I really have no intentions of going. I also have a problem concerning whether the education I've started is right for me. Is there to much math? Does it feel comfortable coming there everyday? Which it hasn't felt recently. The other thing is whether I should just hold on and wait for it to get better. Today has also been a rough day for me. I've been feeling depressed ever since I woke up this morning. And my medication doesn't seem to be working probably making me feel exhausted and heavy in my joints.

Kindly, Jeff

Dr. Phil,
I was teased troghout my school years over almost everything! I was too fat, i was a dog... like litterally they would bark at me as i went by, im a slut, i looked like a boy at one point i mean just everything! What these teen girls that are being bullied need to know is if they are calling you names and making acustations twards you ( depending on the severity and catagory) just AGREE WITH THEM ..... if they say " wow your really looking fat today! " Just be like " you know ur right wow thanks for letting me know." and Jay You are right after a while of that kind of reaction they will leave you alone. And be an advocate for others who are the victims to bullies if your bullies loose interest in you and you see that they have found a new kid to pick on pass the news around and if you all stick together and do that I think that the bullining ratio might go down significantly. Thank You For letting Me Share And I Hope This Helps.