2011 Shows

(Original Air Date: 04/26/11) Have you ever hidden cash or a bill from your spouse? Do you think your partner is telling you the truth about his or her debt? A recent study found that one in three people admit that they lie to their spouses about money. Dr. Phil’s guest, Crystine, says she’s told her husband, Tom, so many lies, she can’t keep track of them, and she’s scared Tom will divorce her when he finds out the truth. Is Crystine ready to spill the beans about her money secrets and will she change her deceitful ways? And, Debbie admits she shopped herself into debt and out of her past three marriages. She says she could open a store with the amount of clothing and accessories she has in her house -- many with the tags still attached -- and can’t go two days without buying something new. Her boyfriend, Ron, says their relationship can’t move forward until she gets her shopping under control. Are you guilty of financial infidelity? Find out how you compare to Dr. Phil’s studio audience as he polls them about their spending habits!

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Replied By: kstorm50 on Aug 18, 2011, 8:52AM
I am furious with dr phils advise to this women.  As a therapist I would think he would see the underlying cause for this women to hide things from her manipulative husband.  His spending habits were never questioned.  I was a sucessful working women.  I endured my husbands 2 child support cases that cost us $50,000+, his 3 arrests that cost us 75,000+, his desire to ranch instead of farm which lost us money.  I invested in his business 75,000+, I sold my house with a profilt of 60,000, I bought him a truck--all from money from my divoirce settlement.  I took care of his 2 illegitimate children, had 3 children after 40, worked full time, was the accountant for his business, worked cattle on the weekends.  He was verbally and physically abusive.  What did I do?  I gambled. Secretively at first.  It was my escape.   Won alot at first, gave it to him.  Then I ended up losing all of my investment money $100,000 earned previous to my marriage to him.  He said I was putting him in financial harm.  Convinced me to sign all property over to him and divorced.  There is something wrong with these spouses who point the finger everywhere else but at themselves. 
Replied By: samanthagalano on Aug 17, 2011, 3:28PM
I live in Houston, TX & have Direct TV. I get all of the channels. I CAN'T FIND DR PHIL, HE WAS REPLACED BY DR OZ @ 3PM DAILY ON NBC......THE ONLY DR. PHIL I SEE ARE RE RUNS ON OPRAHS "OWN"............

Replied By: cindyg56 on Aug 17, 2011, 3:01PM
How come my comments don't get posted? OMG lady you want money get a job. It is hard to feel like a mans kid if you have your own job and you either are contributing to the household income or buying what you want and need for your kids and yourself. GET A JOB. It is that simple. You two also need some serious counseling. Why is only one person controlling the house hold income.  That is not a marrage. Not a partnership that is for sure. Get a job and get out if he won't get help. Both of you need help. How did you let yourself become so dependent. Sad very sad.
Replied By: cindyg56 on Aug 17, 2011, 2:37PM - In reply to theodosiableu
It sounds like she is your child not your partner. She needs help.
Replied By: cindyg56 on Aug 17, 2011, 2:33PM
One thing I just don't get is why has the alternative been brought up that if this woman does not want to be reduced to a child by this guy she should get a job. It sounds like they need help as a couple however she would feel much more free if she was making her own money. She would not have to steal from anyone if she just got a job. Why is all the burden just on him? Makes no sense. If he is hording money than that is a very bad thing but that is still no excuse for her not getting a job.
What kind of morals does she have. If you need money your work you don't go out and steal it.  I am in financial crisis right now I go out and trim shrubs and bushes for extra money. I would never think of going out to steal money. What is wrong with this picture. Why was this not addressed. Dr. Phil your shows are just a big drama. You want money get a JOB.
Replied By: losteverything on Aug 17, 2011, 2:20PM
my husband hides the bank statements i questioned some of the money he spent so he stopped having them come in the mail...he doesnt have the cell phone statement come to our home so i cant see his history he locks his cell phone so i can never pick it up and look but my phone can be checked by him on line to see who im texting i feel so controlled i was sent to the store to shop with only the amount he feels the list adds up to... bought my home right before we got married we paid a year he makes way more then me and paid his payday loans instead of our home now im in forclosure and cant get myself out of it i told him to go two weeks ago hes not saving the home while hes here why would i want him to stay?  but im so lost i cant help myself what i make
Replied By: jenni33 on Aug 17, 2011, 12:48PM
I was watching the show titled "Financial Infidelity", and it really hit home for me. For a few years now I have been watching my mother do the exact same thing to my father. He works as a boilermaker, hes often out of town working and most of the time it's like 7 days a week 10 hrs. a day, just to make sure that he has a roof over his family's head, food in the fridge and the bills paid.  My mother has a gambling addiction, although she'll never admit it. I've watched her lie to my father numerious times and shes even asked me to cover on some of her lies. She hides mail (bills) from him and shes even opened a savings account of her own. I love my mother so very much but I can see the damage that the deciet and lies are doing to their relationship. My parents have been togther for almost 30 yrs. and I'd hate to see them give up on their marrige. I have had the urge to tell my father about this soooo many times but I don't feel it's my place to do so. I really need some advice on how to handle this situation. I don't know what to do!
Replied By: theodosiableu on Aug 17, 2011, 12:35PM
I posted another message where I said that I have to lie to my partner because my partner is a shopaholic and compulsive spender.  I really could not be honest with my partner.  During the time she did not have a job, I would give her a certain amount to spend and she would spend it all without us discussing what it was being spent on.  I think this is wrong.  There is no discussion with her.  She now has a full-time job. She will spend everything she has without consulting me.  The time she pressured me the most to spend money was when the stock market was at 6000.  I would have ended up destitute with no retirement savings.  I can't tell her the truth.  What I have done is established limits.  For example, I will pay all the utilities and I even pay a few of her expenses, but there is a limit.  To be fair, she does spend most of her money on our house.  However, she does not understand that if you NEED something, you still can't buy it if you don't have the money.  For example, if the roof needs fixed, you can't fix it if you don't have the money and can't get credit.  She completely does not understand this type of thing.  If you need it, you have to spend it.  She cannot get much credit because she's already filed bankruptcy.  I cosigned for the car, but with each decision, I think it through carefully.  For example, I applied for credit at Lowes and Home Depot.  My attitude is, I will max out those credit cards, but that's it.  If they are maxed out, I won't pay money for things at those stores.  If I was honest with her about money, she would pressure me until everything was spent.  I do not have a job.  I am in school.  I am an older student.  In the past, I was so committed to our relationship I was willing to do some low paying job I hated like being a secretary to accommodate her.  After all the crap she has put me through, I am now in school for a masters in counseling.  I am willing to try to get a professional job as a counselor for us to have a nice life.  But I have had to set serious limits and I can't be truthful ever.  She has a disease when it comes to money.
Replied By: theodosiableu on Aug 17, 2011, 12:22PM
My partner has a shopping addiction.  If I were truthful about money with my partner, I would be destitute.  I don't see how you can be truthful about money with a compulsive spender.  Sometimes it's better not to be truthful with someone who has a disease regarding money.
Replied By: gentlethunder7 on Aug 17, 2011, 6:03AM
What are you thinking..having those people on your show...we will boycott you to the unemployment line
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