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(Original Air Date: 12/02/10) Could you be raising a spoiled brat? Dr. Phil, along with Betsy Brown Braun, author of You’re Not the Boss of Me, shows you how to tame your child’s meltdowns. First up, Vanesa and Xavier say they can’t handle their 4-year-old son, Noah’s, tantrums. Vanesa says she’s tried everything -- from bribing the child to spankings -- but the boy continues to whine and act out in public. Find out what happens when Betsy pays the parents a house call. Then, Laura has 6-year-old triplets and a 4-year-old -- all boys! She says she’s always screaming at her kids and her household is a mess. Her husband, William, works long hours, and Laura says she feels like she’s raising their kids alone. Can Dr. Phil and Betsy calm the chaos?

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: jeannekcfan on Oct 7, 2011, 4:52AM
When there was clips of that mom yelling at her children and they went back to the studio all who sat in the crowd laughed and even Dr. Phil laughed at it. I don't get that! I can't see the fun in a parent yelling at an innocent child. Children get scared of their parents when they are being yelled at and they shut down to care for themselves. I was so sad when i saw people laughing at it! I know she was out of line and yelling at everything but what about that makes it funny? 
 
Replied By: alison020303 on Mar 30, 2011, 9:58AM
ARE YOU KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW? "DISCUSS WITH THE CHILD WHO IS THROWING A FIT IN A STORE HOW YOU ~UNDERSTAND~  WHAT HE/SHE IS GOING THROUGH????? This woman who wrote this book and Dr. Phil must have been smoking something really toxic before they taped this show!!!!  Yes, Dr. Phil, because that is just ~sooooo easy to do~!!!! Wow....That is such a joke...I have the utmost respect for you, Dr. Phil, but seriously, come on. Let's be real here. These kids are nightmares. The mother who was doing all of the yelling; how can she not yell? Although it seems as though they do not hear her either way, it's a little hard to be all nicey nicey calm and quiet when your kids are acting like absolute animals. And as far as the first child; you spoke about him as though HE was the victim in this. That child needs to be strongly disciplined and the father needs to stop being such a sissy and making the mom look like a tyrant. I am all for communicating with your children. I have an 8 and an 18 year old daughter. If either of them acted that way in the store, they would have gotten spanked immediately. If I needed to, I would have taken her to the bathroom. Your's and the author's advice was not even close to realistic. I am really disappointed in today's show. I am just thankful my children respect me and do not act like brats; as they should be thankful too. ~~
 
Replied By: terij62 on Mar 25, 2011, 11:49AM - In reply to spectrumteach
Don't feel sorry for a mother with boys.  Engage and be thankful.  Dad needs to enter the picture and become a real father.
 
Replied By: bevo58 on Mar 24, 2011, 9:52AM
Very seldom do I watch these types of shows even though Dr. Phil usually has an element of common sense that is worth listening to.  Boy was this show a big exception to that rule.  I only stayed tuned long enough to hear the answer to the first question on the quiz to throw in the towel.  Since when did simply telling a child the answer was sometimes NO to their requests become the WRONG thing to do?  Maybe since we are surrounded by a society of spoiled rotten brats who think that the world owes them everything?  And I for one would just love to you see that temper tantrum thrown in a store resolved by telling the child that you understand that he wants it but he just can't have it right now and needs to long for it.  Yes, I am certain that will always work!  Noboby has to tell a child to LONG for things.  Telling them NO and backing it up is what is missing today.  Taking just one minute to remove the item from the child, scoop them up and take a trip outside - even if it meant you didn't get your shopping done right then either, is all it would have taken.  I have raised 4 children and ONE time of leaving the "things" behind and tending to the problem at hand was all it ever took.
 
Replied By: kathleen27 on Mar 22, 2011, 11:21AM - In reply to reallife_dad
In my opinion, the use of Childrens' Services should be used in cases of ABUSE...PERIOD!
There is a pecking order, and once you lose that, you have lost control within your family.
In today's world, I would not have had children.  Mine are 21, 22, and 28.  I had them young, they all turned out to be wonderful human beings, and I had fun raising them.
All I would have had to hear was one of my kids threaten me with calling the Police.  It's happening now, and I have one friend who actually drove her son, who made that threat, to the Police Station, put him into the lobby, told him..."go file your complaint."
The kid was hysterical, ran out, and never pulled that again.
She had guts...I don't think I'd have been so brave, but it worked.
I didn't have to spank, but if I felt the need, I would have, and I see nothing wrong with it.  These experts have their opinions, but WE are entitled to have ours.
You wonder WHY so many kids are in in after school programs, summer camps, and put anywhere the parents can find?  It's to get them OUT...and it's sad to see that by allowing children to have equal voices of adults, they have become repulsive. 
THAT is abuse...to put the expectations of children to exercise rights when they are too young to understand anything beyond they will rule a household, something they are not capable of doing.
When parents have to "roll over", and being parents, becomes PARENTING via some book, families suffer.
Isn't it obvious, just by looking at what you see children becoming in this progressive society?
 
Replied By: shayna316 on Mar 22, 2011, 8:56AM
WOW- That woman who constantly yells at her children should have intervention services step in. I can not believe her children live with her and she treats them like that. Screaming all the time at your kids is abusive. She may not get this, but children have rights to. She cant respect her kids, they cant respect her. I feel sorry for those kids. They do not deserve that kind of treatment. Moms are supposed to be loving and caring, and guiding. These poor kids are going to wind up with "mommy issues". I believe it when I say these kids will look back on their childhood with not a single memory of thier mother not yelling or showing the smallest amount of respect. It makes me sick to my stomach.
 
Replied By: rachel3790 on Mar 22, 2011, 8:43AM
She must not have kids. You can't feel for them every time something is there they want. As Drphil says if it's not this thing its the next thing. We would spend all day "Feeling bad for them and telling them all about it" After a while we would give in because we told them we felt bad for them so many times. We would spend all day doing it nothing else would be going on.
They know they want it, they know they are mad about it. They know we don't want to get it and they are going to be mad until we either choose to get it or tell them to shut up and go on. lol
 
Replied By: dougjonemily on Mar 22, 2011, 8:04AM - In reply to reallife_dad
I couldn't agree more!  I asked the exact same question - Does this Ms. Braun even have any children?  I have a 20 yr old Son, a 14 yr old Son and a 4 yr old Daughter.  My Daughter behaves EXACTLY like the children of the guests on this show.  My sympathy and complete understanding goes out to these parents.  The advice that Ms. Braun gave was to "get onto the childs team"  was absolutely absurd.  Please tell me how you're suppose to talk to a screaming child as if he/she were a small adult?  I am the first to admit that I must be doing something "wrong" with my Daughter because I never had issues similiar to this with either of my Sons.  So, I am not saying that I'd have any better advice to give, but Ms. Braun's advice was very difficult to listen to.
 
Replied By: jake8888 on Mar 21, 2011, 10:01PM - In reply to pgossett
Now just try this approach for 2 weeks and i guarantee it will work everytime your kid throws a temper tantrum or flat out refuses to do what you tell him to do repeat what you want him to do in a firm town and look right at him then start to count down 1,2, say don't let me get to 3 then 3 if he is still disobeying walk over to him grab him by the arm not hard but firmly and again not hard like your trying to beat something but firmly like how you would tap someones back when there choking swat them on the but 2 or 3 times believe me through there clothes despite what they mite say it won't hurt it will just embarrass the hell out of them. after you do that get down on there level and tell them you love and that you don't want them to grow up and be disliked by people because of they he acts and tell him what other people besides you think when he acts like a brat you do this for a couple weeks or less you'll never have to spank your kid again all you will have to do is start counting down from 1 2 3. trust me it worked with me it turned me in an honor student, high school quarterback, mvp on the golf team, have a ton of friends in school and now at 21 i am going to college and completely managing my finances without one maxed out credit card, dui, failed class. I also have gotten help from severel of my older adults that have opened many doors for me because i was a well behaved kid. read my post for more info on how my mom raised plus the proof is in the pudding my grandfathers generation when they were kids didn't get in half the trouble and have even a 4th of the problem that my gen or the up and coming generation had so look at the way they were parented and copy/modify to fit your situation.
 
Replied By: pgossett on Mar 21, 2011, 9:28PM
maybe i do cave into my sons tempers b/c i feel like if i don't then i'm going to do something that i regret like spank him, and hurt him more than i think!! i feel like if i dont pls him its going to eventually come back to me and out of all honesty i hate hearing my son crying!! its hard for me so i would have to say my son is a brat b/c i raised him that way now i'm in a struggling trying to get him back the way he suppose to be! my son to me is the smartest thing i know like for a 3yr old he is so much for his act, but from my perspective he is way to smart!! now i have to figure out a way to control him,b/c that one 4yr old boy on tv yea my son has him beat by 10times that much that's how bad it is!! all kids have there ways and also their followers my son specially follows after kids at his school, and to me its my job to tell him don't copy off of them b/c they are wrong in every way, but i tell him that and he goes and tell that child he is bad and wrong so what else can go wrong with me telling my on one thing and it back firing?? i'm 23 and i feel like i'm learning the wrong way!
 
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