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(Original Air Date: 11/23/10) All season long, Dr. Phil is leading a call to action to stamp out bullying. Now, he shines a spotlight on what’s been called one of the most shocking cases of bullying school officials have ever seen. A 14-year-old boy was allegedly held against his will, while four older boys from school tattooed a lewd phrase on his buttocks. Although the attackers were convicted of charges including indecent exposure and endangering the welfare of a minor, the teen’s parents, Michael and Tammy, say the scars from that tattoo are more than skin deep. Eighteen-year-old Blake, one of the boys who was recently released from jail, wants to apologize to the victim. He and his mother, Patti, say there’s another version of the story that the media aren’t telling. Learn how to talk to your child to find out if he or she is being harassed. Then, Lizette fears that she’s raising a bully. She says her 13-year-old daughter, Annmarie, is manipulative and mean, and she was shocked to see a YouTube video of the teen fighting another girl! What’s really behind Annmarie’s anger, and can she get her temper under control?

Find out what happened on the show.
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Replied By: kaetoguchi on Jul 7, 2011, 3:50PM
Parents need to discipline there children. They have to be strict upon it. My father used to be strict with us. If we want something we have to do something about and choose upon it if it's right or wrong. You've can't say "Oh ,go do what you want", than how are you blaming your child for the mistakes for him or she is doing. That's why you need discipline them because they would get upset at you and get more personal problems about it.
 
Replied By: djfromtx on Jul 5, 2011, 5:40PM
I watched today program about bullies and I have to say..WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PARENTS??????

If the parents where held accountable for their kids actions maybe they wouldn't take it so lightly!

I have seen several bullies in my life and when they get older, they don't keep friends or family nor does anyone want to be around them.

Of course that leads to more negative behavior.  Since they are tolerated as a child bully, and no control at home.  Who's to blame....THE PARENTS!

I wonder why parents don't listen and continue to enable their children.

The words "it was a joke!" was as if saying it okay that my kid is a complete jerk.

That's my opinion!
 
Replied By: truckerkevin on Jul 5, 2011, 4:22PM
I watched the show today.. and found that you didn't give much credit to the young "bully" who had the gusto to attend this lynching.. YES..I agree that this should have NEVER happened.. and the young guy who received the tatoo..well..I'm thinking he isn't telling all the truth .. I'm NOT someone who doesn't know bullying.. I am a 55 year old gay male who has over my many years undergone MANY forms of bullying during the years of my life.. However.. as much as i see the sincereity in the eyes of tyhe guy that received the tatoo..I also see that he is hiding SOMETHING.. unlike the "BULLY" who answers ALL questions and faces ALL comments depicting him as a low life.. I commend him for showing up to tell the truth and try to ,...if not CLEAR his name, as he clearly is guilty.. BUT to show he wasn't the OGRE he has been made out to be..  and also noticed that the "victim" didn't seem to make anyu statement..ONLY his all too energetic parents made comments and for me, came across phony..sorry.. KEEP in mind..I am an advocate for ANTI-BULLYING!!
 
Replied By: growgirl63 on Jul 5, 2011, 4:20PM
I want to tell AnnMarie that I was a victim of bullying when I was in the 7th and 8th grade.  I was in physical altercations daily - attacked by older girls at my Junior High.  They were popular, pretty, and cheerleaders.  They were "untouchable".  34 years ago, the concept of 'bullying" didn't exist - there wasn't any support from the school officials.  I was told to "fight back", "get along", "make friends", etc.  As you are aware - those tactics don't work.  However, since I live in a small town, I know that the bullies got their rewards in their adult lives.  Of the four girls who bullied me, none of them went to college.  None of them developed a viable career or family.  One is in prison for life for assaulting and killing another person. One has lost all three of her children because she is an alcoholic and drug addict and was not able to care for her children. One was a checker at a local grocery store and spent time in prison for theft.  She now lives with her parents, is unemployed, and begs for change on a local street corner.  One is a bartender at a local tavern - she has a meth addiction, has lost all of her teeth, has lost her beautiful looks, and has been married and divorced 4 times.

I don't glory in their demise.  I feel very sorry for them.  They never learned how to be compassionate people.  They never worked to have a good life.  They built a lot of bad kharma for themselves.  I hope you are able to learn compassion, learn how to make good friends, learn how to trust others and care for others before you go any further down the path you are on.  You think that you are hurting others, and that you are brave and powerful for being able to do that, but you are really hurting yourself, AnnMarie. 
 
Replied By: keggers318 on Jul 5, 2011, 3:17PM
I am watching your show and it hurts. I am an assitant Special Olympic coach. I love the ones who I coach. I have an Uncle with Special Need who I love dearly. I have been through it myself. I can understand how much it hurts. When I was in school I was made fun of being 300lbs and having seizures during school. I chose to have brain sugeries due to my Epilepsy. That caused a stroke so I became limp on my right side, memory out the door, and speech was not understandable. I asked my Mommy to make me Bambi for breakfast. I am lucky because I went to rehab and got 90% better I still have a little bit of problems from my stroke. I still have my seizures and their is nothing they can do. I have been through all the meds and can not have another surgery. I have also lost over 150lbs. I am blessed I had a chance to recover and I thank God for that. I am not trying to be selfish. I am simply saying I know where these kids are coming from.Some of the people that have Special Needs are like that for the rest of their lives. So, being a Coach and I do what I can when I can to show them that they are loved. One thing I regret is being in school and since I was made fun of I did the same to other people. That was the wrong way to handle it. Which I admitt and have apologized for 20yrs later. I love your antibullying. Something has to be done. It has gotten worse. Computers are great for learning but not for bullying and harassing. A lot of  the kids are just diagnosed with something and put on meds which is an excuse and the wrong way out, I could help in anymore ways I will.
 
Replied By: timanth on Jul 5, 2011, 2:25PM - In reply to redhatterb
Apparently Pattie was aware that this tatoo was applied in her home, that is totally repulsive.  I am the mother of an 18 year old and I feel my son is making some wrong choices for himself.  I am very upset and feel his is decisions are being influenced and don't understand that she can defend this action.
 
Replied By: beachroz on Jul 5, 2011, 1:44PM
First and foremost, you have the right and the evidence to file a law suit against the four boys and/or their parents for the medical costs to remove this defilement of your son's body. And for any other medical/psychological needs arising from this assaut. I hope you will do this.

My son , born with a hare lip and cleft palate,  was the target for every bully in every school he went to. . Bullies called him humiliating names and beat him. His school teachers would not help protect him. One principle told me, "We can't be everywhere. WE can't watch every kid." In other words,tough beans, mom.

Then I met the toughest lawyer for kids in the country and hired him to sue that school system. I won hands down and used the money to send my son  to private school.   

My son become a handsome young man; graduated from a well known medical school; became a popular physical therapist.  Married, is an over the moon daddy.

As for his mom, I got tremendous pleasure serving the summons that forced  that principal to defend his actions in my son's case. 

Sue the four families for damages and Zach's tattoo removal costs.. Zach, you will survive. . 
 
Replied By: redhatterb on Jul 5, 2011, 1:41PM
I don't understand why unlicensed people can obtain tattoo guns.  There is no reason for people that aren't licensed to have them.  If a person is idiot enough to want a tattoo let them pay a tattoo artist for it.  When my 19 year old grandaughter was 16 she got a "tramp stamp" from the friend of a friend.  For those of you who don't know what a tramps stamp is, it is a tattoo that is right above the waist band of her low rider jeans-----on the back side.  She didn't even know they were called "tramp stamps" until I asked to see it.  Her Mother was wondering why all of a sudden the kid had started wearing shirts long enough that they went down over the tops of her jeans.   Then one night the girl's older sister saw it, and the "cat was out of the bag."  Of course at age 71, I don't approve of the way young girls now dress, anyway.
 
Replied By: juliebug81 on Jul 5, 2011, 1:33PM - In reply to qteainpa
i agree with you on the porn thing
 
Replied By: redhatterb on Jul 5, 2011, 1:32PM - In reply to wingtip
Amen!!!!
 
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