Sign up for the Dr. Phil Newsletter
Twitter Facebook YouTube

2011 Shows

 
(Original Air Date: 11/17/10) Jessica, a mom of six, sent Dr. Phil a home video so disturbing it brings Robin McGraw and most audience members to tears. In it, she admits to being angry all the time and struggling to discipline her 7-year-old adopted son, Kristoff. As punishment for acting up in school and trying to hide his misconduct card, Jessica screams at the boy, pours hot sauce in his mouth and puts him in an ice cold shower as he shrieks in pain and fear. Several audience members give Jessica a piece of their mind, but she says she's tried other disciplinary methods and nothing has worked -- and she came to Dr. Phil for help. Can this stressed-out mom get the guidance she needs to control her temper and reform her discipline techniques? Can she establish a bond with her son? And, do her actions constitute child abuse? Attorney and child advocate Areva Martin weighs in. It’s an intense Dr. Phil you don’t want to miss!

Find out what happened on the show.
Comments
Replied By: goodswin on Dec 19, 2013, 4:12PM
i live in the uk so i have to watch Dr Phil on you tube i have just watch the show about the hot sauce mom i was so shocked that someone would treat a child like that she is sick maybe someone should do the same to her. What is wrong with usa law when they allow this to happen and don't even send her to prison. Why did the Dr phil show not take action and phoned the police, sorry Dr Phil i usely love your shows and i am a big fan of yours but i think this was one story you should of steped in and took the kid away. i was abuse sexuly and hit when i was a child and i have 2 children i would never treat my kids the way i was treated it is not a reason for a person who had a bad childhood to grow up and do the same to there kids i think if you get treated like that yourself you know what it is like so if you love your kids you don't want them to go though what you had to. keep up the good shows and love to you Dr Phil and Robin.
 
Replied By: sande123 on Nov 25, 2011, 9:42AM
I watched this this morning, and it's now 5:30pm, and I am still crying, because I can still hear poor Kristoff, a little 7 year old boy, screaming from fear in a cold shower, and wimpering when being screamed at with hot sauce in his mouth!!  What an evil, evil woman, and she didn't even shed a tear or flinch!!!  She made out, this was an uncontrollable child, yet he followed her to the bathroom and knew he was about to get hot sauce in his mouth, and he undressed himself to get in a cold shower as punishment.  I'm shaking from anger writing this, and I'm disgusted and extremely sad, that this isn't on the news as a cruelty and child abuse case!  What is going on, that this is allowed as a discussion?  I want to take them kids off her, and I'd have them all.  Not just the twins! I fear for these kids.  I just can't believe this is allowed????  I don't think I'll get across in this post, just how sad I am or affected I am by that video!  That little boy will never leave me now til the day I die.  If I met that woman in the street, I don't know what I'd do!  I just want to bring that little boy home and give him a hug and keep him safe.  Put them parents in the jail, and give them cold showers for at least 10 years!!  He's only 7.  I don't care how punishment is carried out in the armed forces, he's a little boy!  A petrified and now scarred for life little boy!!!  I'm absolutely gutted that this is allowed to go on, surely Kristoff has some sort of voice to stop this abuse happening to him?  There's video proof of her abuse, that isn't just a one off!  The little boy knows the routine, I'm scarred for life and traumatised by that video footage.  Please re-home that poor child, I'll take them both!
 
Replied By: jjl225 on Nov 22, 2011, 4:36PM
Just watching this woman not even flintch at what she was doing to her son made me sick. She sat there with this blank stare on her face like a zombie. She obviously had no shame in what she was doing to her son or she wouldn't have let her Daughter record it.  I hope these children are safe.
 
Replied By: jeannekcfan on Sep 29, 2011, 6:44AM
I live in Denmark and i saw this today and i literally sat with my mouth like this :O when i saw the intro! You just CAN NOT put hot chili sauce in a child's mouth or put a child in the shower with only cold water running! I cried!! I watch the "Nanny 911" shows too and that mom has to watch them too or get serious help and that innocent child should be removed right now! The mom needs to know that only TALKING to the child helps. He doesn't know what to do or what he did wrong. Or obviously the mom forced him to say that he "pulled three cards today" but she has to explain to him what he did wrong and why it's wrong. When children get yelled at they shut down inside to not get hurt. That poor child.


And we know how it is in the shower when the water is a little too cold right? When it's just 5% too cold we think it's awful and that mom put ONLY cold water running at him the whole time! It's awful and we know how it is when it's just a bit too cold, imagine how it is with only cold water and it gets colder and colder! That mom should be put to jail and all her children should get parents that actually cares! Like one in the audience said: "how can she sleep at night?!" .. i'm 19 and I can see it, every parent -no matter what age- should know how to deal with when children makes mistakes. And it's plain knowledge to know that putting the child in pain with a cold shower or hot sauce in it's mouth is not going to help!! I get so sad and angry.. i hope her children were removed after the show because I think (i don't know of course) that when she can do that to a child, something is really wrong with her and she will never be a good mom. I'm sending the best thoughts to that child right now!
 
Replied By: seabeevet on Sep 17, 2011, 5:11PM
Wow!!! I just happened to catch this video on Dr. Phil's Youtube today. The screaming of the child was too much for me to handle. I just couldn't keep the tears away. Though  I could not see his face I am pretty sure that child was completely terrified.

I know how frutrating kids can be sometimes, but they are kids. It is not my place to tell anyone how to raise a kid. But I disagree with how this situation came about. He got in trouble at school, which kids sometimes do.  But now this child has this to remember for life, I am pretty sure someone at his school saw this, one of his friends maybe. I feel for Kristof and am glad that his mother is finally getting him and herself the help they need.
 
Replied By: gwilkins46 on Sep 3, 2011, 4:05AM
I KNOW DAMN WELL THE COLD SHOWER  IDEA WAS THE DADS.WHY ISNT HE BEING CHARGED.I WOULD LIKE TO HOSE HIM DOWN WITH AFIRE HOSE SEE HOWHE LIKES IT
 
Replied By: cynarahere on Aug 30, 2011, 11:39AM
 
Replied By: twocubs on Aug 26, 2011, 9:39PM
What this mother did was inexcusable.  But how many of us have had moments as mothers that when videotaped and taken out of context make us look like monsters.  Let's have pity instead of crucifying her.  Who believes she set out to do this or be this way?  She set out to love and fell terribly short.

What this mother did was inexcusable, but what about Kristoff?  He was adopted from a Russian orphange?  My friends adopted a beautiful little girl from a Russian orphanage and realized as she passed out of her toddler years that she had severe attachment disorders from the severe neglect on account of the overcrowded orphanges.  The damage was done before they got her.  She never bonded with them and everything she did acted out of self-protection.  The love and praise of her parents did nothing more for her than if they were strangers.  Reward and praise did nothing as the girl continued to lie to protect herself.  I hear this is unfortunately common in Russian orphans.  I'm amazed Dr. Phil did not catch this or look into this at all.  If Kristoff does have a severe attachment disorder there is little his mother could do and will ever be able to do for him.  He may need the special attention of a group home.

Please don't fail to look at the boy's problems while blinded by the cruelty of the mother! 
 
Replied By: jjbmat on Aug 25, 2011, 11:04AM
Today this mother was conviced of child abuse for the video she sent to Dr. Phil asking for help.  She was Totally wrong with what she did but do you realize how many people will now be too scared to ask for help??  How many kids will be abused and killed by their parents who think asking for help will mean they will go to jail.  So sad.  So sad for those kids.  She should have been able to ask for help and get it without the severe repurcussions of being made an example of.  I don't know how to fix it, but people should be able to ask for help.  It's crazy to know she asked for help and was sent to jail where Casey Anthony denied denied denied and ended up with a dead baby and walking free.  That's sick.
 
Replied By: garnet127 on Aug 24, 2011, 9:25PM
I want to have this child to show him that there are loving adults out there.  I feel so sorry for him.  I cannot get his scream out of my ears when she put him in a cold shower.  Her husband is a whimp or he would stop her from abusing this child and further damaging him. 

I want to have him living in my house with 7 year old and enjoy his life not live in fear.  I hope someone in jail will show her what fear is when you cannot fight back

I am serious about having this boy.  I don't want him to spend another day in that house.  When she gets home, out of jail or whatever, who is going to pay for her misery?  She will double her abuse and this time no one will know and in the meantime while she is in jail, what kind of abuse is her husband dishing out to this child?  This little boy will suffer knowing no one can help or will help him.  The CPC is useless.  How many times have they left a child in someones care saying they saw no reason to remove it and then the child ends up dead, beaten to death. 
I don't know who to contact but if there is anyone out there listening, I WANT THIS CHILD.    
 
Showing 1-10 of total 946 Comments