I have to admit that today's show about infidelity part II was just appalling.  I have never been so ashamed or embarrassed of women in my life.  I somehow missed the first episode, but with how I was feeling at the end of today's show, it's probably for the better.  I do not understand where men and women get the idea that cheating is justifiable.  Under no circumstances is it okay to cheat.... don't give me a bullshit line about you not being able to get out of an unhappy relationship or marriage? I got news for those kind of women, you can, and you just choose not to. I was what I thought would be considered happily engaged to my fiance a few years ago....   we were in the process of buying a house and he made it sound to me that it was better for my name not to be on it for tax purposes.  Yet he needed $3,000 so me being the nice person that I am, offered for him to use money that my grandparents had put in savings bonds for when I got married and started my own life... so we decided to use that money early, put it towards the closing cost of our house and the realtor had me sign a paper saying that was a gift (to make sure he wasn't borrowing the money).... anyways, to make a long story short, 3 months before our wedding day he decided to tell me he was cheating and wasn't happy but he still wanted to be together and work things out. You know.... if I had sat there to think about the past 4 years of my life with him, to sit there and think about the $3,000 + I just helped put into the house where we planned to remodel and start a new life together... I would have MAYBE considered staying... but I didn't even give myself the chance to sit there and reminisce. I packed a big enough bag for a few days not to see his lying, cheating face and I got the hell out of there because I deserve so much more for my life. I had too much respect for myself, and lost all respect for him.  I was devastated to lose everything I had worked so hard to gain, a second family that I adored beyond words, a dog who was like my baby.... etc. but money and love is not enough to stay unhappy. My self worth is so much more than any of that can ever be.  I owed it to myself to get out and find someone that loves me and only me. I have what many people believe only old people get, which is arthritis and there are days I basically suck. I don't feel like getting out of bed let alone getting pretty but you know what.... I have a man now that is totally and 100% okay with this. In fact, he will be the first to ask if I need anything, if I'd like a hot bath... he'll go fill the water, if I'd like a massage, if I need him to stay with me.  It has nothing to do with the length of my hair, it has nothing to do with how much weight I have/or haven't gained, it has nothing to do with whether or not I am giving him sex.... it's that he loves me unconditionally. That is love. That is respect.  That is dignity.  I think the morals of today have changed so much from many years ago.... my grandparents got married at 18 and made it last for what seemed like forever. Until death, like it's supposed to be. I don't know how the change happened but I am so thankful to have been raised by grandparents who taught me the old fashion way of life... to love with all your heart and to never sell out to anyone. I am truly blessed and obviously over looked the power of love and lack of respect the world has seemed to gain. Thank you for reminding me how lucky I am Dr. Phil, but please please please do not ever bring Sarah or Steve back to the show because they are an embarrassment to society.

Todays show was crazy. Cheating is wrong.  I am happily married and have been for 17 years. It is not ok to cheat EVER. I do however, think we do have a responsability to present ourselves well to our spouses. I like to keep myself well groomed. We go on dates. I purchase a new outfit that I know he will like. Get up early on a Sat morning and go get coffee and have lunch and grocery shop. I will dress up and go meet him for lunch. LIttle things that don't cost a lot, but show how much you care. I think if your man knows how much you love him, he can FEEL how much you love  and want him. You will have a great marriage. I don't tell him what to do. We respect each other. He has boys night I have girls night. We also enjoy quiet time together.

Cheating is wrong and has nothing to do with short or long hair. That is the funniest thing from the show. Women can have very short hair and be very sexy. Some women with long hair can look not so hot. We are proud to say we have been together since high school. We do know how rare this is. We are truly happy.  I find my husband very attractive, inside and out.

Men, it's like the saying goes "don't ever think your irreplaceable".  Ladies, if a man cheats "i feel the other women can have him."   I love women like Sara because they remind me how strong and confindent i am.  In addition too, make me happy I have values, morals, and the  "balls" to deny temptation.  The best part of the show was when Sara said "i have a choice."  This only shows how egocentric Sara really is, which by the way most people grow out of by the age of 5.  It's women like Sara that only end up alone and become replaceable.  Then there are women like me who can hold their head high and know THEY ARE NOT IRREPLACEABLE!

OKAY...hi.....just wanted to start off my first blog about who's too blame? i want to ask you guys a question after i given u the information and please doesn't matter what u have to say say it i would love the feedback!!!


alrite so u have this girl correct: she's 22 yrs.old..through her years she has been molested by her stepmother.. and her cousin alrite so she try to tell her dad about her stepmother and what she's doing but everytime it's about to come out the father cuts her off she doesn't know why that her dad gets angry when she asks to go out on a date with a guy or why he gets mad when she wear girly clothes...he prefer her to dress like a tomboy therefore you won't get that much attention....so for years she dresses this way and finally u know when u grow up u become more familiar with your body and just see things differently.....well this gurl just recently found out that  the reason why her stepmother was molesting her since she was 9 till the time she was 20 is because her dad was making sure that her stepmother did it because he wanted his daughter to be a lesbian through her teen and young adult years so she won't have sex  at an early age..and that's also the reason why he bought her mens clothing....so my question to you guys is should the girl blame herself for letting it go on for so long? should the stepmother be blamed for her weakness to her husband? should the girl's father be blamed?......and should the girl forgive them?

If a man cheats on me, I cheat on him.
2 wrongs don't make it right but it evens the score.

I found out that my fiance is bi-sexual and has been seeking same-sex encounters online. I've asked him to talk to me about his needs and I strive for an open communication relationship. He has admitted to fantasizing about being with other men. He has promised me he is committed to me and wouldn't do anything to jeopadize what we have but I can't seem to shake the feeling that he is meeting other men behind my back. I have found out that he solicites "hook-ups" when he is out of town on business. Does he actually meet the men who respond? I don't know.

We are to be married in a few months and right now I can't find it in my heart to go through with it. When I try to talk about my feelings on the subject he displaces his behavior as me being insecure. Frankly, I'm tired of being treated like a child. I'm over 40 and been married before. I don't want another failed marriage because of infidelity.

I've done a lot of research and have found that there is a huge number of married men out there that are doing the same thing. Some are only looking for oral sex from other men while others are looking for penetration as well.

I'm conflicted. I love him very much. Are there others out there who know their man is doing the same or similar? Please let me know how you handle it.

In my opinion there is something deep seeded with them..Just the look that Alexandra gave her Mother,and said "behind close doors Mom"?...The Mother portrays to me as being so perfect. There is something about her that bothers me..She's hiding something and I believe the daughters and the husband knows..The look that Alexandra gave her Mother last week was saying something..

Dr. Phil needs to VERIFY that no pets are around the 10 year old boy! I can't believe his mother & grandmother kept getting him more animals to torture and kill!!! I think it seems that neither of them are quite "all there." Also, where were they when this boy was molested several times throughout the years?! GOOD LORD!!!!!

I have to tell you I am a mother of five.  I have had my problems raising them from being in jail to also having one of my daughters pregnant at a teen age.  I just think Mom comes off being holier than thou.  She seems hard and uncaring.  I understand that Alex has not made the best of choices and she really needs to grow up fast for her age, but she did get pregnant !  Mom doesn't seem to help the problems and I would jump in front of a train before I would even consider turning against my child.  I would probably just take the kids and do the best I could to raise, have them see their father and support my child until such time she could do it herself.  And as far as Dad, well being in jail for "making a mistake" just doesn't cut it for me.  You want you child, then you don't go to jail and leave your wife to try to fend for herself with two little children and no money because you wanted to do what you wanted to do.  I don't blame her for trying to stay slovent any way she could.  There would not have been a problem with her trying to get it together, with her husband in jail, if her Mom took the one child to help out until she got things figured out in court.  I think Mom NEEDS sone family help to teach her how to be a Mom

Its been a very long time since i posted something on here. One of the reasons I came back on is because of monday shows with Alexandra and Her mother and whats going on since I last seen them on Dr Phil. I very much relate to this story in alot of ways. I can understand Alexandras side and I now can understand her mothers. This issue recently has made me think of my own story with my children. When it comes to being a birthmom and having to give up your children because ur unable to care for your children it hurts alot. U want people to understand and not judge. I love my children very much. But one thing i have learned over the years Children are gifts from God they are not given to us they are loaned to us by Him. it is our responsibitly to be aware of this and care and protect and honor them before ourselves. Its very selfish of us to think it doesnt matter when it does. Recently I have been watching the news and watching Nancy Grace and all these innocent kids are being killed and taken. Its breaking my heart. It saddens my heart to hear these stories about these children and they arent being protected. I want to challenge all of you to look at your child and say to yourself am I protecting my child and I given my all to them? I only wished I could of had that chance but it wasnt in Gods will for me to have my kids. Ive made alot of mistakes in my life but one thing i wasnt going to allow was my children to be a part of that. My life was rough and still is in many ways i still get impulsive and not think before I act in my every day choices. Im very very hard on myself and feel i have to be perfect in so many ways. I dont have a relationship with my mother because of all the stuff that happend when i was a baby and my young adult years. I never had a father. I grew up in foster homes and programs and had alot of bad stuff happen. Im not making excuses by all means Im honest and I will tell you Im a idiot alot of times. I have never come to terms with my past and why things happend to me at a young age and why did people abuse me and why i was never ment to parent my children. I do hate myself and feel like a failure. Ive spent years in therapy which never worked. So when I watch Dr phil sometimes I can relate to alot of the stories i hear. Its hard when you look at your life and see that ive done alot of things that i hear on his show its hard to swallow. People are shocked when I tell them my story and Im only 37. I can soo relate to other women on message boards. I am wishing the best for alexandra with her children but its time for where she needs to slow down put the man aside and listen to her heart and dont make selfish choices. I do believe she loves her kids. I really do. But its not about her its about them!!!! We can be so selfish in life including me as well. We want this and we want that. But when there is children involved that has to disappear and focus on what truly matters. Its not easy it really isnt but we have to be true to ourselves. Even looking in the mirror is hard itself but it has to be done some point in our life. Hopefully alexandra will do this before its too late. I know what it means to fight for a mothers love alexandra i never got that growing up. But i do believe ur mom loves you as well. Dont give up girl u can make it put what matters most first and all things will line up where its supposed to be. NEVER DEPEND ON A MAN TO MAKE U FEEL WHOLE!!! U need to find that within yourself.